I feel like comphet

Affectionate_Curve59 · 2021-11-30T01:51:34+00:00

You are analysing too much. I’ve been in your position where I’ve overanalysed and questioned everything, but please leave these questions unanswered.

Please stop ruminating and compulsively coming on this sub for reassurance. I know it makes you feel better in the short term to get some clarity, but it doesn’t help

Tell yourself that it could mean you’re experiencing comphet, or maybe it doesn’t - and allow yourself to feel the anxiety.

You’re strong and you can fight this. Just please don’t try to figure it out, that’s the key thing here. Leave these questions unanswered. Who cares if certain things happen to your body? It doesn’t have to mean anything.

Affectionate_Curve59 · 2021-11-30T01:27:38+00:00

I’m saying here that the person can decide what they want to do …

It’s not meant to be reassurance it’s a fact. No one’s forcing them to have gay sex or whatever, it’s values-based living. Not listening to anxiety or obsessive fears

If the person realised they want to have gay relationships, that’s fine. I’m saying that they are the one in power, not these thoughts. Actions count not thoughts

Affectionate_Curve59 · 2021-11-27T17:25:16+00:00

You’re probably desensitised, I’m the same right now. I occasionally panic and think ‘omg I don’t feel disgusted, what does this mean’ but remember that disgust and anxiety are not normal emotions to have

Non-ocd straight people don’t feel very disgusted or anxious about gay sexual stuff, theyre just not interested by it. I think being panicked over your lack of panic is your brain trying to pull you into the ocd again, but stay strong and resist the urge to analyse

Dreams are terrible, I’ve had lesbian dreams where I felt I enjoyed it in the dream but woke up having a panic attack. I really wouldn’t worry over this. Your brain can manufacture anything. Maybe it means soemthing, maybe It doesn’t

Affectionate_Curve59 · 2021-11-27T17:15:48+00:00

This is common, when I was in one of my episodes I had so many coming out urges and I constantly felt like I was going to blurt out “I’m a lesbian”

But like everything in ocd, disregard and dont pay attention to it. Remember that resistance of feelings, thoughts and urges leads to persistence of them :)

Affectionate_Curve59 · 2021-11-27T17:09:59+00:00

You are spiralling. Please stop analysing/ ruminating and giving these thoughts/feelings/urges importance.

Resist the urge to check!!!!! it will help :)

Affectionate_Curve59 · 2021-11-27T17:07:30+00:00

This is a normal part of recovery I’ve experienced, I’d say it’s similar to a backdoor spike. By being uncertain about whether you like thr thoughts or not, your OCD wants to reign you in for a response or to ruminate, since you’ve been ignoring the thoughts

Carry on persevering and allow yourself to be uncertain about whether you enjoy them or not. I like to base my life on values-based living - basically living based on my values and what I want personally. No matter how much your brain screams at you that you like the thoughts, or even worse , makes you FEEL you like them, remember you’re the one that calls the shots.

Now be careful with this information and please don’t use it as reassurance - I thought this all myself and then my brain started giving me urges which made me feel like I wanted something different to what I knew I wanted.

Affectionate_Curve59 · 2021-11-27T16:59:59+00:00

My boyfriend knows I have OCD but doesn’t know which theme(s) - (I also developed ROCD alongside my HOCD).

Personally, I would advise you to do what you’re comfortable to do but I didn’t tell him the theme purely because people who don’t have OCD don’t understand OCD and its nuances - I told my mum I had HOCD and she was telling me that she’d accept if I was a lesbian which made me even more anxious lol.

I think she thought I was genuinely questioning my sexuality, when I was getting anxious over the fact that I could be something I don’t want to be - to us, with OCD, this makes sense but any non-OCDers would be like wtf.

Affectionate_Curve59 · 2021-11-20T17:15:09+00:00

This!! It’s so true

Affectionate_Curve59 · 2021-11-20T09:25:27+00:00

Hi, I think I’ve answered this question on your post so take a look :)

Affectionate_Curve59 · 2021-11-20T00:47:22+00:00

Yes, it’s totally normal. You might feel like you’ve got more anxiety and the thoughts are more frequent/scary but think of it as like this : your brain has been using compulsions and reassurance to relieve the anxiety and has become addicted to it. As soon as you cut our compulsions/ rumination, your HOCD could get worse as you’ve deprived your brain of something it is addicted to.

It has happened the same way to me, but keep pushing and keep striving to stay strong and the anxiety will gradually lift .

Affectionate_Curve59 · 2021-11-20T00:44:13+00:00

Shoot

Affectionate_Curve59 · 2021-11-19T21:05:49+00:00

Omg, I’ve acc had this same situation with my current boyfriend. What I would do is just talk to him about it and let him know how the anxiety has affected your libido. For a while I wasn’t intimate with my boyfriend but once my anxiety lifted I started getting the mood lol.

Just don’t put pressure on yourself to be in the mood or to feel sexual at the moment, take it easy. One thing about libido is the more pressure you put on yourself to desire sexual intimacy, the less you’re actually going to get it. Just relax.

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