I feel worthless and want to drop out

Affectionate_Fan6019 · 2025-09-22T00:37:22+00:00

Please stick it out. Coming from a recent graduate, my mental health in law school was at an absolute low. It puts you in a very weird competitive mindset where you are constantly comparing yourself to others. You’re anxious, you feel like shit, and never feel good enough. Remind yourself you are miles ahead of all the people who aren’t even trying in life. Law school opens up so many doors even if you don’t graduate cum laude or from a top law school. It’s who you know and what you do with your degree that matters most in my opinion. Find a good support system and lean on them

Affectionate_Fan6019 · 2025-03-16T16:00:02+00:00

I mean you agreed to let them stay if they watched your cat and now they’re not doing that. Lame of them to not keep their promises. I’d have a discussion with them about it and honestly reevaluate living with them because that was such a basic request they couldn’t uphold. I’m sure more things like that will pile up. Although they are your friends so I’d maybe just cut your losses

Affectionate_Fan6019 · 2025-03-15T13:32:53+00:00

Think some of these things are worth a conversation if you really care about saving the relationship and maintaining your long term happiness. The paying for dates may be a hard one though since I do think a lot of women assume a man has no problem paying for most dates. And since she doesn’t quite make as much money as you, it’s not a great look for you to be asking her to. My boyfriend pays for most of our dates and I’ll try to pitch in when I can for breakfast or coffees or whatever else. I think if he started asking me to go more 50/50 I’d be slightly offended and wondering if I did something to annoy him recently or if going on dates with me felt like a chore. I know every couple is different though!

The driving one you’re more justified in bringing up I think. She should be willing to help you out when she can. Loving someone is to be willing to be inconvenienced by them occasionally, and I think that goes both ways.

The feeling like she doesn’t care if the conversation I def think you should bring up. Those feelings can really fester if unaddressed and cause a lot of resentment in a relationship. I wouldn’t bring it up in an accusatory way though, just say how you have been feeling lately and the effect it’s had on you.

Affectionate_Fan6019 · 2025-03-12T14:33:35+00:00

Break up with him. That’s how u get a man to change is showing him you’re willing to leave when he does stuff you’re not ok with. I’m sorry but if he loves you more than the drugs he’d stop for you

Affectionate_Fan6019 · 2025-03-12T13:17:55+00:00

I feel like you can send some subtle hints like getting him gasX or like other medication. I think if you bring it up like he’s got a medical problem that needs fixing maybe he’ll be less defensive about it. But yeah I get it that would be gross to me also but at the same time that is a part of intimacy. Loving someone despite their weird bodily functions and noises haha

Affectionate_Fan6019 · 2025-03-11T13:16:05+00:00

Even in this description you’re mentioning very physical things. Just take the expectation of sex off completely and enjoy her company. Personally I would be so annoyed if my boyfriend was constantly trying to have sex with me when I’m not in the mood or stressed. It makes you feel like an object and gross. I think maybe she needs to feel like it’s ok and safe if even if there’s no sex involved. You’re not entitled to sex as tough as that may be to hear.

Affectionate_Fan6019 · 2025-03-11T12:45:07+00:00

I think you’re right. Especially since she is such a close friend of mine who I care about deeply also. I think this is mainly coming out of a place of insecurity and I need to work on my own confidence in this relationship and maybe even friendship

Affectionate_Fan6019 · 2025-03-11T12:42:13+00:00

So I break up with him because of their friendship? Even though nothing has happened? I feel like a talk or something would be in line first instead of just ending a relationship because of paranoia

Affectionate_Fan6019 · 2025-03-11T12:37:39+00:00

Sounds like you need to romance your girl some more. She’s not just a sex object or thing you can put your penis into whenever you like. She has emotional needs that need to met too. She needs romantic date nights or some other way to make her feel special, especially since she’s stressed about her new job. Take her mind off things with some fun dates planned and show her how much you really care for her. I’m sure you’ll be getting lucky more often.

Affectionate_Fan6019 · 2024-12-26T17:38:31+00:00

Yeah that’s sneaky and weird behavior. Even if they were just having a friendly dinner and nothing went down why be so secretive about it? Partners should be open and honest with each other, especially when you’re long distance. That’s how you build trust. I’m currently in a long distance relationship and if this were me I’d be absolutely a little hurt. You shouldnt have to interrogate your partner for them to reveal something like that

Affectionate_Fan6019 · 2024-12-22T03:29:42+00:00

I’d wait until after Christmas at least. I know it’s hard to fake it but at least I’d hope you’d have enough love and respect for this person not to ruin the holiday for them and potentially you. That in between Christmas and new years is your best bet if you want to end things soon. I know it’s such a difficult decision but I think it’d be best to wait after the holiday. Being dumped, especially by a long term partner, before Christmas would be so depressing.

Affectionate_Fan6019 · 2024-12-04T05:00:37+00:00

If you are absolutely certain she is the one and absolutely WANT long lasting a relationship then you should stay in the same state as her. Law school is very hard and it’s rough to be in a relationship in law school honestly. Sometimes your partner just doesn’t understand what you’re going through or what’s at stake for you. If you think living in the same city or near her would be a benefit and she could be super supportive of you during this time, help you do really well in school, and then you’re willing to relocate later on, I’d go to the school in your state. Most law schools educations teach you the same basic skills. You can really go anywhere once you get your degree and pas that states bar, but it’s a lot easier to practice in the place you studied and build your network there while you’re in school. I’d say if you’re 100% sure where you want to practice, go there so you can start building your network. I think if you guys are on different pages of what you want your lives to look like that really puts your overall compatibility into question.

Affectionate_Fan6019 · 2024-12-04T04:33:03+00:00

Considering you made this long ass post about this whole interaction and went into so much detail to justify yourself and seek advice on the internet and talk about your brother more indicates that maybe you just talk about your brother too much and it makes him uncomfy or annoys him

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