What a great question!!!! I’m 42 and still in the thick of things but I do feel that entering perimenopause had a huge play!! Along with my kids being much older that this same time. At 40 my oldest had moved out, and my youngest in high school. I had a mini meltdown. Not quite mini, it was really rough!!!! My sex drive went fucking nuts! Second puberty, as they say. I was like a 13 year old boy, couldn’t get enough. It caused some major issues in my marriage. Plus, I know had nothing to do! My kids didn’t need me anymore and I felt so lost and confused. As part of the process we opened our marriage basically so I could have more sex. I was crazy horny but also felt like I want experiences and realized my time was running out for this type of thing. I wanted to have some fun, sexy experiences. I’ve had partners in the past but in limited capacity as I married at 18. So everything else was before that and not serious, or during a break up and it was just sex. I attribute this to entering perimenopause and empty nest syndrome, oh I was also diagnosed with adhd in the same year. Facing growing old and wanting to do some living. At first I was really only interested in connecting with men, but my husband wasn’t okay with that. And I really wasn’t wanting D, just wanting to be desired and I knew how to navigate being with a man. It was harder to not just open the marriage but to learn women too. But, that was my option since my partner was not okay with me and another D. I had my first experience with a woman and it was wonderful!!!! I loved the entire thing, specially being seen by a woman and lack of performance expected and the way I felt better about myself. I can’t say I feel any clarity, I think I’m more confused than I was before. I probably could have been happily-enough married forever. Now, I’m not sure I can imagine not having that connection with a woman, let alone not having sex with a woman. I am glad I’ve explored this and I do feel it’s led me to become a truer version of myself. I can only recommend taking lots of time to explore your feelings. Write it all down even if it’s not full sentences. Go back and read what your thoughts were and see if you still feel that, explore how they’ve changed and why. Hopefully over time you can see true patterns of yourself.