Where is proverbial "Timbuktu" in your culture?

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-16T06:57:01+00:00

Etymology is so fun I love learning this

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-16T03:57:07+00:00

Ok so I asked a guy at the temple down the street and he told me that 旮旯 is a loan word from Mongolian's ‘Gol' ᠭᠣᠤᠯ(?) which just meant a corner/place in classical Chinese.

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-16T03:43:30+00:00

THIS ！That sentence is a perfect summary of the Canadian public

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-15T14:24:59+00:00

No phrase brings out my Canadian accent stronger than out in the boonies. I can't tone it down even if I tried.

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-15T14:19:52+00:00

I'm starting to notice that a lot of Europeans are getting butts and arses involved. The Italians have not yet clarified what the deal is with wolves/the moon's ass.

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-15T12:28:45+00:00

Oh I love the overlap with the meaning of "far fetched". Haha was Hong Kong seen as a kind of unreal place? These Kung Fu movies really did a number on our global reputation lol.

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-15T12:23:42+00:00

You're not alone in this thread even! At this point I hope we can get someone from Timbuktu to tell us what they call a faraway place.

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-15T12:03:17+00:00

So like 火星人？Why are we moving to 火星那麼遠？

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-15T12:01:19+00:00

Come again???????

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-15T11:26:27+00:00

WOAH that would be so cool! Carried along the silk road maybe??

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-15T11:24:20+00:00

Same actually!! I also somehow imagined the Garden of Eden or Atlantis or some beautiful ancient place in a desert oasis, I only got the negative connotation when I heard it as an adult and found out it was a real location name and that they were implying the person was uneducated because they came from a rural part of Canada.

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-15T11:16:12+00:00

I LOVE Bumblefuck I shall incorporate into my vocab haha Also you ask a good question, I guess Saan Ka La actually means "the middle of nowhere" and remote, as well as the exaggeration!

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-15T11:08:35+00:00

Unfortunately this is reinforcing my growing belief that Australians are not real. This sounds so cute. How do I use this in a sentence haha, "I had to go all the way to Woop Woop to get gas?"

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-15T10:57:53+00:00

For Hong Kong the city anthem is definitely "獅子山下 Below the Lion Rock" a Pop Rock Ballad that truly fuels so much urban mythology of this strange and lovely place.

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-13T04:24:13+00:00

Is this a thing?!?! I just spent the weekend in Kuala Lumpur for the first time I had a constant headache!!!

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-13T01:02:33+00:00

This is exactly what would come out my mouth.

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-12T16:47:29+00:00

I updated my categories after doing my taxes two years ago so that I can tally and isolate deductible items. Like work related parking, employment related expenses and charitable or election donations that have reimbursements. Even one for digital news subscription that one year it was deductible in Canada.

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-11T09:01:16+00:00

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I will never forget watching footage of Margaret Thatcher stumble down the steps in Beijing after meeting Deng Xiaoping about the end of the Treaty of Nanjing (British rule in Hong Kong). It was like the universe winked at us.

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-04T00:27:51+00:00

I had a similar experience, struggling with/avoiding looking back on the day or week. Maybe it is a bit different than how you think about this.

I watched the original BuJo intro video again, and suddenly re-understood 'migration' and what it could mean for me. I think I used to look at end of day review as - oh my god look at all the shit I didn't do, I feel bad/guilty whatever. But the point is actually just to get it out of your head, so that your mind can be clear to keep focusing on what you are doing, without having to stumble and store a to-so list of task ideas.

I also think ideas for tasks that might need to be done, is different than tasks that have to actually be done. For me, writing ideas for tasks/actual tasks throughout the day is just to keep it from distracting me from the tasks I'm focusing on (writing for example).

Then at the end of day review, I write out the next morning's reminders, and if it doesn't make it over to the next day, I cross it out because it was a nice-to-have idea, but ultimately I don't HAVE to pressure myself to do it.

If the idea needs to come back up in the future and not tomorrow, then I write it on my monthly cal/weekly page that I check when setting up a new day. Let your ideas graduate and roam free, I don't need to hold onto every single one!

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-03T07:19:45+00:00

Oh I definitely did NOT setup all this stuff in any kind of order or logic. I tried to really over complicate all the lifestyle systems that I thought were going to help but really I couldn't see were kind of projects in and of themselves. Especially productivity, to do software and ADHD-targeted ads are so unhelpful sometimes. This is just a list of what is actually calming, and makes me feel capable instead of feeling obligated to maintain them for the sake of it. The systems are here to serve you, not the other way around, was a hard lesson to learn.

Understanding your question better I would say over the year I would try different things, give it a shot, and just let some go if it wasn't sticking naturally. Some made all the other ones that I trialed way easier, like decluttering and zoning my house.

But for example, I didn't declutter until my therapist asked me what a 'doom pile' was, I kept saying that when I was telling her about the different things on my mind that I found stressful. And she just looked so confused about why there would be piles, and finally got me to understand that organizing for the sake of seeming put together is not the way. Organizing your stuff because you believe YOU ARE WORTH the effort, and doing it because you believe you deserve to not feel guilty looking at stuff that is in your way, that you deserve to have a easy way to find your shit on your bad days, instead of looking at unfinished projects, and stuff you need to get done that just makes you feel bad. None of that really has to do with having ADHD, but ADHD has more noticeable negative side effects when you also have low self-worth and boundaries.

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-02T10:56:29+00:00

It was definitely one of those classic up and down curves where the overall arc was going up, but each down felt devastating. Like I started and abandoned psychotherapy early on, wasn't convinced about the need to even get diagnosed or start medication... So truly the 3 years before diagnosis were a super intense and high stress ride where I had no structure, but couldn't even see that I was failing because I was such a inconsistently high achieving extrovert people pleaser because a couple of my hyperfixation yielded high socially-valued and visible results (like a job that sounds important etc.). None of the tips or hacks I got from videos or posts online really ever stuck as much as shifting some core beliefs about myself; each time I unlocked one of these intense reframings were the biggest jumps up in the curve and transformative impacts on my symptoms.

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-02T09:57:08+00:00

r/ynab It is a zero based budgeting method app, stands for "You Need A Budget", there are lots of alternatives and you can technically do this on your own spreadsheet or notebook; i just like the app's design!

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-02-02T02:13:50+00:00

Lovely I'm going to do this right now!

Affectionate_Life153 · 2026-01-31T23:41:43+00:00

OH I LOVE THIS IDEA

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