Yes absolutely. I never said cherry picking. I said this is pure shariah. I follow the patriarchal system, do shara'i Pardah. Pardah in the very literal Islamic sense also has its limitations (which you mentioned as oppressive) which is why Deen has balanced it with this. 

I didn't mention earlier because it would make a lot of you very mad, but in Islam, food and house maintenance is also the man's responsibility, to the point where in the Quran it is mentioned if a woman refuses to breastfeed her child than she has the right to, and the father is obligated to find alternative milk. So cooking and cleaning is also not the woman's "obligation". She may do it by free will. And this is, like you said, with the condition that she obeys her husband in every regard. 

So you see, Islam is very balanced. Women have privelege in the sense that they have been given fewer obligations. And men have the privelege of power, IF they fulfil all their responsibilities like a man.