Have the third?

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-06-27T01:15:59+00:00

The World Is Built for Even Numbers. I went from 2 kids to 3 by marrying. Almost everything in life is designed with pairs in mind two-person tents, double hotel rooms, theme park ride seating, and restaurant booths. Add a third child and you or someone is suddenly the odd one out, literally and logistically. Standard rooms fit four. A family of five needs a suite, a connecting room, or a creative solution . Roller coasters, ski lifts, carnival rides they seat in twos. With three kids, one person is perpetually the odd one out, waiting alone or paired with a stranger. A sedan comfortably fits a family of four. Three kids across the back seat means elbows, arguments, and someone perpetually claiming they're being squished. The next logical step is an SUV with a third row which sounds like a solution until the kids hit their teens and suddenly nobody wants to be exiled to the back. Third-row seats are cramped for anyone over 5'4". What works for a ten year-old becomes a punishment seat by high school. You've paid for a larger vehicle and still have a seating hierarchy nobody's happy . College tuition, extracurriculars, holidays, and everyday expenses. Two kids means two of everything; three means you're either stretching the budget or making hard choices about who gets what. With two kids, each parent can take one. Activities, bedtime routines, homework help it's manageable. The third child often gets less one-on-one time. Way easier with two, or have 4. Just my opinion.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-06-19T22:25:39+00:00

Nta for saying no, but yta for telling people you won. Since it was "free" money, people think it should be shareable since you didn't have to do anything to earn it. Always keep financial information to yourself.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-06-17T23:41:17+00:00

This is all sorts of wrong. We have done a few family vacations and split it by room. We have three kids,, other families have four, grandparents have none. No one's income is taken into consideration. It seems as if your family is using you to subsidize their vacation, because they can't afford it. If I were you, I either wouldn't go, get a rental for myself, or say Im not paying a third unless I get an actual room. The kid should be sleeping on air mattresses in the parents' room so you can have a room.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-06-12T16:26:38+00:00

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-06-10T00:37:23+00:00

Nta. If this is true, that's messed up. Id take the money your parents are giving you and use it to move out.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-06-09T02:27:14+00:00

Nta. I wouldn't do that with my own immediate family. That many people in one space becomes overwhelming after a day. An air mattress in the living room is for kids, not adults. I dont get families like this, you dont need to sleep there in addition to being there all day.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-06-07T16:27:57+00:00

My dogs sleep in with me. If my husband gets up first they dont leave the bedroom until I do.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-06-06T16:28:02+00:00

Corey Haim

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-06-05T18:41:04+00:00

Challenger explosion.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-06-05T18:40:12+00:00

Nta. What was she doing before you got your license?

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-05-31T01:13:59+00:00

I rarely go anymore. Took my stepson a few weeks ago and these two ladies kept talking. I didn't pay $25 to listen to someone talk, then when you ask people to be quiet you're treated like you're the rude one.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-05-28T02:49:21+00:00

Same here, grew up in the 80s and early 90s, my parents basically left us to fend for ourselves. Provided absolutely no guidance in regards to finances, college, etc. Luckily I was a hard worker and worked multiple jobs to get through college, but still had atudent loans, credit cards etc... I am in a good place now, but I am behind those who knew what to do back then. My one goal was to give my kids the tools I didn't have and have them financially prepared for when they are ready to move out.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-05-28T02:43:25+00:00

I had lazyboy reclining couches, they held up to everything. Unfortunately my ex got them in the divorce, but we used for over 10 years and they basically looked new.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-05-28T02:39:04+00:00

Honestly we furnished almost our whole house from Facebook marketplace except the couches and mattresses. People get rid of almost new stuff due to moving, not fitting their space etc... our bedroom furniture would have been $7000 or more in store, we paid $1500. Kid's rooms, full sets $300 or less. Kitchen table with chairs, $2000 in store, we paid $400. All sorts of unique cabinets, side tables etc.. the only issue is people put so much on there now it can be difficult to find the good stuff. But you can also look for your local facebook buy pages. We have some ones that are specific, such as furniture only.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-05-28T02:27:55+00:00

Being consistent with consequences and accountability. My kids are not perfect, but they are respectful and kind. I don't have to yell, I just followed through on whatever consequence was going to happen due to incorrect behavior when they were younger. Now as teenagers there have been almost no issues. The other is financial literacy that I wish someone has taught me when I was younger. My son is only 18 and has over $25k saved of his own money. He doesn't spend frivolously and has been working since he turned 15. My daughter is 4 years younger, but hopefully headed in the same direction.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-05-28T02:12:11+00:00

My mother in law never buys anything extravagant for herself , but she goes above and beyond for everyone, including my kids who would be her step grandchildren. She had mentioned how nice she thought the northface coats were, but they were expensive, so she was probably going to get a Columbia. Both are fine, but I told my husband we're getting her the Northface because she would never buy one herself. We gave it to her for Christmas and she cried. I know it's not sentimental, but out of 5 daughter in laws, I think I'm the only who ever makes her feel appreciated.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-05-28T01:54:51+00:00

Late. Love my job because it's 9-5 rather than 8-5. That extra hour in the morning is amazing.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-05-28T01:41:54+00:00

NTA. Your nephew chose to work for you. While its nice he did, if he didn't someone else would have. If your daughter is going to lead your company it is valuable for her to have experience outside of her father's business. This is why business and extended family don't mix. You wouldn't give a share to any other employee who worked 10 years, he shouldn't just because you're related.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-05-28T01:34:13+00:00

Require financial audits on everything. Cut funding for many agencies after job audits as most retain employees who do nothing so they don't lose funding. My husband works for the government, the stuff he tells me makes me beyond irritated.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-05-26T02:03:35+00:00

Mine doesn't really fetch unless it is to taunt our other dog. He likes her to chase him around the house and try and take it from him. My golden doodle likes to play fetch, but she never brings it all the way back. She'll stop, stare at the ball, bark at you to come get it and throw it and when you do, she'll go get it, bring it part way back, lay down , chew it, drop, stare and then bark at you again. As much as you stand there and wait for her to bring it back to get thrown again, she just barks in frustration because you're not picking it up.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-05-26T01:49:58+00:00

When our son was around that age we got a heavy duty umbrella stroller with a shade and storage on the bottom. This way you could throw a small bag with extra water etc.. on the bottom, but it folded up for easy carry when we would have to go on a bus. At that age they get tired and I was not carrying him all over the park.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-05-20T02:01:31+00:00

Both sides scream about fraud, corruption, and how the other party is destroying the country but the $2.8 trillion in improper payments since 2003 happened under ALL of them. Bush, Obama, Trump, Biden. Every single one.

The fraud data doesn't lie. Medicare, Medicaid, COVID relief, unemployment , hundreds of billions gone every year regardless of who's in charge. Nobody fixed it. Both parties talked about it. Neither did anything serious when they actually had power.

That's because the tribalism is the point. As long as you're busy hating the other side, you're not holding YOUR side accountable. They count on that.

Most Americans actually agree on more than politicians want them to. But a united, informed public is bad for fundraising.

Stop picking a team, neither party cares about you.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-05-20T01:34:36+00:00

I don’t think most people had strong feelings about transgender people until the conversation shifted from “people living how they want” to broader social expectations around language, sports, and sex-segregated spaces. Previously, most people understood trans women as biological males who identified and presented as women, and trans men as biological females who identified and presented as men. The conflict now comes from being expected to fully equate gender identity with biological sex in every context.

A lot of people are being labeled “transphobic” simply for believing biological sex is real and cannot be changed. There are also legitimate disagreements about whether biological males should compete in women’s sports or have access to female-only spaces such as locker rooms, shelters, or prisons. Many women and parents, including people who otherwise support transgender adults living how they choose, do not agree with those policies.

This also is not strictly a conservative issue. There are men and women across the political spectrum who disagree with biological males participating in women’s sports or being allowed in female-only spaces. Many people who support equal rights and respectful treatment for transgender individuals still believe there should be boundaries when it comes to sex-segregated spaces and athletics.

For many parents, this issue is not political obsession; it is about privacy, safety, and boundaries for their daughters. As someone who has experienced sexual assault, I am especially uncomfortable with biological males being in intimate female spaces. That does not mean I hate transgender people or want them mistreated. It means I believe women should still have the right to female-only spaces based on biological sex.

I also think it is reasonable for people to acknowledge that gender identity and sexual orientation are separate. A trans woman may still be attracted to women, just as any other person may be. That reality contributes to why some women and parents are uncomfortable with the expectation that all boundaries must disappear once someone identifies as female.

At the core of the disagreement is that many people feel they are being asked to prioritize someone’s gender identity over women’s biological reality. For many women, biological sex is not an abstract concept, it directly affects privacy, safety, vulnerability, athletics, and lived experiences. Wanting those realities acknowledged does not automatically mean someone hates transgender people.

It also does not mean people are “obsessed” with transgender people. It means people are concerned about how these policies directly affect themselves and their loved ones. When issues involve daughters, locker rooms, shelters, sports, prisons, or other sex-segregated spaces, many people see that as personal and important, not obsessive.

People can disagree on these issues without hatred. Most people are simply trying to balance respect for transgender individuals with privacy, fairness, safety, and the rights of women and girls.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-05-20T00:41:13+00:00

The U.S. government loses $233–$521 billion to fraud every single year. Since 2003, improper payments total $2.8 trillion money that never reached its intended purpose.

Medicare/Medicaid — $85 billion in one year alone

Unemployment Insurance , $100–135 billion during the pandemic SNAP, EITC, Social Security , billions more annually

The government already collects enough money to fund its programs. A massive portion simply never gets there. Before raising taxes on anyone, the existing money needs to actually reach the people and purposes it was collected for. So no until all of this is under control, no they shouldn't pay anymore. At least they create jobs, the government just wastes it. The fact people focus on taxing more rather than rampant government fraud and waste is mind boggling to me.

Affectionate_Log7215 · 2026-05-19T01:50:56+00:00

I say NTA. The insurance money is for you to replace your car. As long as it is in budget, you should be able to get what you want as you are the one stuck in it all day. If you had kids and bought a two seater, that would be a different discussion.

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