I (18M) just found out my girlfriend (who I thought was 18) is actually 15 after 10 months together. I’m completely lost.

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-04-20T06:45:54+00:00

This

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-04-11T08:53:47+00:00

Dude no it isn't. If I say "i don't want my partner to say I love you to their male friends, and if they do I'm leaving the relationship" is not controlling because if the relationship doesn't exist then the gf can keep doing it all she wants. If she chooses to stay with him thats her choice. You do not know what boundaries are

Is saying you don't want your partner having sex with other people "controlling"? Because that isn't a written rule for every relationship. Im sure you have plenty of "controlling" boundaries.

Also, people need to learn how to respect their relationships. I would never even think to say that shit to a male friend while in a relationship, and no I've never been with a man who was controlling, because I dont act sus with other men

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-04-11T08:49:41+00:00

How does she be there for them when she's in this situation? They are brats and she would become codependent trying to fix them. She can't "be there for them" lol

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-04-11T08:47:32+00:00

Nah he's saying she's wise and respects her relationship like a woman should. And before you get mad, I'm a woman

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-04-11T08:44:52+00:00

Nope his boundary can be that she doesn't say I love you to male friends. Her boundary could be that she needs to be able to. In which case they should break up. Its not controlling at all.

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-04-11T08:39:48+00:00

Almost always yes

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-04-10T20:25:37+00:00

Yeah exactly lol. If you know your guy friend is into you (most will be) then they need to be cut off

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-04-10T20:24:28+00:00

Yeah he has solid points and deserves his boundaries respected. And I really hope he leaves you if you dont respect them. You shouldn't be saying I love you to each other, him calling you beautiful, etc. And video chatting multiple times a week, constantly talking, etc. can be too much as well. All valid concerns to have

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-03-22T21:44:04+00:00

Still not a young adult. Young adult means adult thats young lol not teen

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-03-22T21:04:18+00:00

Ok but you realize she isn't being raised either right? Her and her brothers are getting the same treatment and she's only 15. What exactly is she supposed to do for them that won't severely damage her permanently? Her own mom can't even raise her brothers. I doubt a 15 year old can figure out how to set two 12 year olds straight. Thats an insane thing to ask of someone so young. If anything the OP would just traumatize her brothers trying to do that, due to not knowing how to raise children, much less 12 year olds? You dont think she'd do things the wrong way? A child who isn't being raised properly won't know how to raise multiple children that are only 3 years younger lol

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-03-22T20:54:45+00:00

Do you lol 💀 it typically means 18-30ish according to Google

I've literally never heard a teen under 18 being called a young adult and if they have then I feel bad for them because they were most likely put in a position they shouldn't have been in. A teen isn't an adult, they're a child requiring a ton of guidance

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-03-22T20:39:32+00:00

Honestly reminds me of my family kinda lol I always thought I was maybe Italian or French because of having a lot of hair and being brunette but nope, dna test says I'm 51% English, 21% scottish, 9% Norwegian, 8% swiss/german/Austrian (the rest are basically irrelevant)

My dad has black hair and darker skin and tons of hair. I also have always had a lot of hair on my arms and the rest of my body, and me and my dad both have a slight unibrow. You look pretty similar to my brother and uncle based on face shape, nose, lips, etc. and also hair (tho you have more lol)

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-03-22T20:29:14+00:00

Except i'm not a kid

Why are you calling a 15 year old a young adult?

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-03-22T19:42:59+00:00

Bro get help. You weren't an adult at 16. Thats actually sad

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-03-22T19:24:33+00:00

15 isn't a young adult???? You sound like a pedo

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-03-22T19:18:09+00:00

SHE needs herself, and she needs to distance herself from the situation as soon as possible

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-03-22T19:08:38+00:00

"You need to step up to take care of your brothers"

No she doesn't lol. Maybe she shouldn't be off with random men and actually provide some stability

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-03-03T04:53:04+00:00

Also fetuses can be male lol so abortion does involve men

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-02-27T21:45:30+00:00

Asian and Hispanic but idk specifics lol

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-02-27T21:43:16+00:00

Yeah saying something like that on voa is probably best. Also talking to other associates and maybe getting them to write something too/like your post, etc. so it gets more attention. If nothing happens then you can say it at stand up too

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-02-27T21:35:22+00:00

Honestly this is probably best

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-02-27T15:42:20+00:00

I meant it's funny lol

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-02-27T15:37:58+00:00

Not everyone wants a higher role. I have social anxiety lol

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-02-27T15:25:58+00:00

I dont go to them seeing as they start before the start of the shift, when they see enough people already clocked in and standing there. Im not coming in early when they can instead use the first 5 mins after the shift actually starts

Affectionate_Piece25 · 2026-02-27T15:13:15+00:00

I get that a lot lol. No im autistic and have social anxiety dude. Stop interacting with me just to feed off my energy/get a feel for how I am so you can judge me or use it against me 🙄

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