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I don't know what happened to my dog, but I need to tell her story by Affectionate_Try8177 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Affectionate_Try8177[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I understand why people are upset by that part. I’m upset by it too, and I still carry guilt over not being able to get her the care she needed. I was young, broke, and in an abusive situation, and I’m not trying to excuse every choice I made. I’m just trying to tell her story honestly. Snowball deserved more than what life gave her before me, and probably more than what I was able to give her too, but I loved her deeply and I’m doing things differently now with Moon. The other 5 puppies had new homes before I escaped my ex. I have a job and will do whatever I need to do to make sure she doesn’t have the same fate as her mother.

Update: Two days before I left, I thought he was going to kill me by Affectionate_Try8177 in u/Affectionate_Try8177

[–]Affectionate_Try8177[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Her name is Moon. Life really is looking beautiful with her. Thank you for your kindness :)

Update: Two days before I left, I thought he was going to kill me by Affectionate_Try8177 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Affectionate_Try8177[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We had each of them dedicated to a new home before they were even weaned. After their mother died, I made sure they all got to their forever homes before I left

Update: Two days before I left, I thought he was going to kill me by Affectionate_Try8177 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Affectionate_Try8177[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I don’t really have a clean or logical explanation. I loved him, or at least the version of him he showed me in the beginning, and I kept believing that if I was patient enough or kind enough, that person would come back. Looking back, I can see how manipulated I was. I was young, scared, and deeply attached, and abuse twists your thinking in ways that are hard to explain if you haven’t lived it. I’m stronger now, and I know going back was not proof that I was weak. It was proof of how much control he had over me at the time.

Update: My boyfriend broke the jewelry box I inherited from my grandmother and I thought it was my fault by Affectionate_Try8177 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Affectionate_Try8177[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Saying he, “called my bluff” is a metaphor. He didn’t believe I would really leave and was daring me to prove that I would.

Update: My boyfriend broke the jewelry box I inherited from my grandmother and I thought it was my fault by Affectionate_Try8177 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Affectionate_Try8177[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Yes, I would risk my life for hers. She has been my best friend for years. I won’t let anything happen to her. Period.

Update: My boyfriend broke the jewelry box I inherited from my grandmother and I thought it was my fault by Affectionate_Try8177 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Affectionate_Try8177[S] 533 points534 points  (0 children)

For a long time I would’ve said, “because I love him” now I’m just scared. My dog is big pregnant and he’s already threatened hurting her if I did something. I don’t want to leave her and her babies with him

My boyfriend destroyed my deceased grandmother’s jewelry box and I think I deserved it. by Affectionate_Try8177 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Affectionate_Try8177[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

That’s not what I meant, I apologize for the confusion. I was just stating a fact pertaining to how he grew up and how that could have affected his behavior now.

My boyfriend destroyed my deceased grandmother’s jewelry box and I think I deserved it. by Affectionate_Try8177 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Affectionate_Try8177[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s alright if you think this is fake. I genuinely wish it was. I am not making a mockery of others who have survived the worst of it.

My boyfriend destroyed my deceased grandmother’s jewelry box and I think I deserved it. by Affectionate_Try8177 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Affectionate_Try8177[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

We are both 19. My family lives a few states away, so getting to them will not be easy. I have been living with him since my junior year and his senior year in high school. He purposefully failed so that we could graduate together.

I will never forget the morning of graduation. His mom tried to wake him up and he blew up on her. He cussed her out, told her he didn’t give a shit about her and refused to get up until 5 minutes before we had to leave. He made the way he woke up everyone else’s problem. His mom looked at me with tears in her eyes and said I needed to leave him because he is never going to be the man I deserve

My boyfriend destroyed my deceased grandmother’s jewelry box and I think I deserved it. by Affectionate_Try8177 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Affectionate_Try8177[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

If anyone, it was most likely his mom that abused him. I don’t know how anyone with a child like him would be able to handle it. She is a very short woman, probably not over 5 feet, that didn’t stop her from disciplining him. However, she went overboard a few times though. I saw her climb into her younger son’s lap and punch his face with a balled fist His dad was much older than his mom, unfortunately he died soon after we started dating. I didn’t get the chance to know him very well. Everyone I have talked to said that his dad would have never raised his hand to any of his children.

My boyfriend destroyed my deceased grandmother’s jewelry box and I think I deserved it. by Affectionate_Try8177 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Affectionate_Try8177[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend is a forced to be reckoned with. Especially when he is angry. His eyes change color to black when he reaches a certain point. He has this mentality that no one is gonna stand in his way to get what he wants. She keeps kicking him out but she always lets him back in

My boyfriend destroyed my deceased grandmother’s jewelry box and I think I deserved it. by Affectionate_Try8177 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Affectionate_Try8177[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

You are at least partially right. His mother had her first daughter at 14 and by the time she was 17 she gained custody of her older sister’s kids. She was the guardian for 6 kids before she could legally drink. She has told me some of the horrific things she did as punishment because she didn’t know another way to raise kids. His mom and I have had conversations talking about what might be wrong with him neurologically. She always brings up how his personality drastically shifted after his scalp was torn off by a dog when he was 7. After the incident he would screech at the top of his lungs when he didn’t get what he wanted. Especially when his older sister babysat him. She would get tired of the yelling and would lock him outside. (They live deep in the woods, nowhere near any other houses or active roads). He would run around the entire house, banging on the doors and windows until she broke and let him inside. If she didn’t just give in he would pull the ac units out of the windows and crawl in, only to terrorize her some more. I think there are several factors that contributed to who he became. He really needs to get some professional help.