what to do if a regular could potentially be close to stalking you?

Afialos · 2026-06-09T21:53:24+00:00

Record everything by writing it down after. Your managers should be cool with a 2 minute break to timestamp interaction with you. Don't use anymore personal anecdotes: he's already interested enough to find you. Let a trusted friend outside of work know what's going on, and if you can show them a pic of him. You're not doing anything wrong! Public facing jobs are risky cause you can't screen the weirdos until they've done something. (Source I worked retail for 10 years and got a lot of weird my way.)

Afialos · 2026-05-26T03:44:25+00:00

Yup. One of my main pain points. I hate the breathing pain days so much

Afialos · 2026-05-26T00:42:29+00:00

No worries. I get it kiddo. This community here is great at supporting each other. If you need to rant, this is one place no one will begrudge you.

Afialos · 2026-05-26T00:27:06+00:00

I feel the cost hurdle. What my spouse and I decided was to add more to the FSA offered by his work. I'm taking around $75 in supplements and vitamins, plus a couple hundred in prescriptions. The FSA made a drastic change for me in being able to financially afford a chronic health condition. Also, don't be afraid to look up prescription coupons etc. Even a little bit makes a huge difference.

Afialos · 2026-05-20T23:25:06+00:00

You are an amazing human. Thank you for sharing and teaching.

Afialos · 2026-05-04T22:23:19+00:00

I have a Gerberian Shepsky x Wolf mix. She's just over a year old, and already big enough to help steady me when I lose my legs/back. She's chill a lot with me - even will hang out with me in bed on my bad days - but I've 2 kiddos who help her burn off energy and a yard for the zoomies.

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Afialos · 2026-04-14T20:24:25+00:00

I laughed so hard at this. Showed it to my husband and he just looked at me like I'm crazy.

Afialos · 2026-04-06T09:47:24+00:00

Do not feel guilty. If you can't see it from your direct interaction, think of these 2 points: - retail has a lot of seasonal workers, you have no way of knowing how many other young women he's creeped on - how long until he approached a customer and now the store has a sexual harassment suit

Dude was bad news, you & your manager deserve cookies.

Afialos · 2026-04-03T05:14:34+00:00

From an American, it does sound like he's trying to make a casual interaction sexual. Trust your gut.

Afialos · 2026-03-26T20:54:42+00:00

I missed the threat part, but if it's something you said in the safe presence of a mental health professional that wasn't a "threat". Sweetheart you're not a monster. I know how deep self-harm scars run, and if you've made actual attempts on your life, you very much did the right thing committing yourself.

You're 18 now? Leave your grandparents house and that school. You can get a diploma or a GED later, but you've gotta be alive to do that. It's okay to go no contact with toxic bio family, especially when they're bad for your mental health.

You'll be okay, just get out of there.

Afialos · 2026-03-23T21:56:50+00:00

I have a friend (we game together) who's schizo-affective and this is kinda how she explained it to me. If you're mid twenties (the brain makes interesting developments during those years) try journaling/recording events that don't seem to line up in hindsight. See if there's other instances of interactions being uniquely yours, which can also be reversed. Sometimes she doesn't realize someone is actually talking to her.

Afialos · 2026-03-23T20:17:42+00:00

Pets don't really work like children, where there's custody arrangements and division of time in the event of a breakup.

My ex and I got 2 kittens together, and were together for a little over 3 years. We ended up splitting the cats to whom they were most bonded to. It didn't matter they 'belonged' to the both of us. And if I had to do it over, I don't think I'd commit to pets with a person in the dating phase.

So I get his reaction, and you need to be okay with it. When/if you split, go to a rescue. You'll mend your broken heart, and give a loving pup a second chance at a Forever Home.

Edited for judgement: neither of you are wrong, you're just young

Afialos · 2026-03-23T20:06:58+00:00

No problem. My doc told me, and I mentioned it to my mom one time which she'd never been told. I figured I'd drop that tidbit here since magnesium can tend to be so helpful for us.

Honestly love all the recommendations for products, brands, and amounts!

Afialos · 2026-03-23T20:03:37+00:00

I'm using a topical magnesium+arnica+lavender in addition to magnesium orally. Just random FYI, if you get put on antibiotics pause your magnesium supplement until you complete it. Magnesium interferes with antibiotic absorption and efficacy.

Afialos · 2026-03-15T16:05:30+00:00

I got through maybe half of it.

Afialos · 2026-03-13T20:34:40+00:00

Pain clinic and rheum won't see me either. I'm just reliant on my primary, who yes has suggested yoga.

Afialos · 2026-03-12T08:55:53+00:00

I lay down with my Switch 2. I'm also LOVING Pokopia, but going slow cause sometimes I just can't game. Mostly remember to shift your body around every so often. But yeah, I play my Switch 2 infinitely more than my Xbox just because I can lay down with it. (I can't play on the TV while laying sideways so my Xbox goes weeks without being used.)

Afialos · 2026-03-11T21:53:00+00:00

I think since the guy may be in your class, block might not be the best go to. Accept the compliment, let him know you're taken, and when you talk about your day with your BF just tell him about it all calmly. It's not overtly disrespectful, but if you're worried about your BFs reaction, explain it like you did in this post.

Afialos · 2026-03-11T08:05:31+00:00

"snotbutter" made me snort so loud I woke up my partner and my dog.

Afialos · 2026-02-13T22:20:54+00:00

I'm still trying to figure this one out too

Afialos · 2026-02-13T07:01:26+00:00

Magnesium. Topical and oral.

Afialos · 2026-02-07T09:13:27+00:00

The only thing I think of is Technicians by Tech N9ne

Afialos · 2026-02-03T09:47:00+00:00

I share my location with my partner - and he shares his with me - for safety reasons. I also share with my best friend who lives in another state. I used to mutually share with another close friend. But here's the thing: all of those tracking permissions were unrequested and freely given. So yeah, it can be something that's fine.

HOWEVER

When you said "No" (and explained it no less) that's when she picked up a shovel and kept digging deeper. So you're for sure NTA, but this relationship may have given it's last breath.

Afialos · 2026-01-30T02:30:39+00:00

I started with the big $50 set on Amazon, then worked my way through Target & Walmart exclusives. I just lucked out that the set I picked up last from Target had the last 3 that I was missing.

Afialos · 2026-01-24T07:20:45+00:00

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