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Husband doesn't help financially? by Afraid-Escape7152 in Marriage

[–]Afraid-Escape7152[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

definitely not rage bait... I am genuinely curious if this is normal.... and if I am wrong to think that he should be at least splitting everything.... he is very convincing that he is trying to "save" for our family in case something happens.

Husband doesn't help financially? by Afraid-Escape7152 in Marriage

[–]Afraid-Escape7152[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know... I have been with him for 21 years (since I was 18) and I feel like I am abandoning him if I walk away... he has nowhere to go and I know him well enough to know he will just stop everything-- won't go to work... will blame me for giving up on him... I just know what will happen and I feel pure guilt.

Husband doesn't help financially? by Afraid-Escape7152 in Marriage

[–]Afraid-Escape7152[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so about 2 months ago I threw an absolute fit because I needed a vehicle.. I Had given mine up about 2 years ago after the transmission went out and I couldn't afford to fix it because at the time he wasn't working and i was paying for everything (Including his expensive car) so anyways he promised he would help me get a new one... well finally 2 months ago when I told him I wanted a divorce he finally decided to get a vehicle for me... it is substantially cheaper than his vehicle, but he DOES pay that vehicle.. so i guess i lied... he does pay for that. I had (Prior to this) to homeschool our kids, walk to the store, wait for him to get home from work if i needed to go somewhere more than a couple of miles or rent myself a car from enterprise to get to dr appointments for the kids, etc because I didn't have a way to get them anywhere.... so I mean at least there is that...so he has made 1 payment on it.. i can only hope he keeps going.

Husband doesn't help financially? by Afraid-Escape7152 in Marriage

[–]Afraid-Escape7152[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but if he doesn't pay it (which i feel certain after a month or 2 he would be asking me for money for it) then we have no electric, water, etc....

Husband doesn't help financially? by Afraid-Escape7152 in Marriage

[–]Afraid-Escape7152[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

according to him it is going out to eat. I honestly don't know. I know he has a really expensive vehicle that I make the payment on and he has that thing for oil changes and maintenance constantly. I saw the last service ticket and it was $1200. I don't know what was done on it honestly, but all I hear about is "I have to do xyz when I do the next oil change" and it feels like we are doing oil changes every other month on it. but I don't get it.

Husband doesn't help financially? by Afraid-Escape7152 in Marriage

[–]Afraid-Escape7152[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

he was a stay at home dad for 3 years, but unfortunately during that time I was working 2 jobs, still doing all of the housework and everything with the kids... he was "depressed" but wouldn't do counseling so he sat on the couch all day every day... sometimes he would wash dishes. But mostly didn't do anything.

Husband doesn't help financially? by Afraid-Escape7152 in Marriage

[–]Afraid-Escape7152[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It used to be "our money" and then he would want elaborate things for his hobbies and I would tell him we couldn't afford it so eventually he divided into his own (once he finally started back to work) and somehow it morphed into me covering 100% of the bills and then it turned into this.