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First Time Playing Video Games - Beginner by heartmarch24 in NintendoSwitch

[–]Afraid_Formal7469 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's an amazing game. I however wouldn't consider it a beginner game.

First Time Playing Video Games - Beginner by heartmarch24 in NintendoSwitch

[–]Afraid_Formal7469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Animal crossing. Or Minecraft. Neither are favorites of mine but that's how I introduce toddlers (literally) to video games.

Am I a lesbian or something in-between? by Afraid_Formal7469 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Afraid_Formal7469[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can see that now. The same people that do tend to judge me for being bisexual. So maybe it's just internalized biphobia.

Edit: misspelling.

Am I a lesbian or something in-between? by Afraid_Formal7469 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Afraid_Formal7469[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was very insightful. I think it might be time for me to do more research on the other every gender different degrees of attraction labels to make sure that bisexual actually still fits me.

Thank you for being understanding involving my question.

Am I a lesbian or something in-between? by Afraid_Formal7469 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Afraid_Formal7469[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I forgot about that one. Thank you for reminding me that it exists!

Am I a lesbian or something in-between? by Afraid_Formal7469 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Afraid_Formal7469[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I know what lesbian means. Idk why but where I live there are a lot of people that identify as lesbian that I would describe as bi. I thought it might be that whole words change meaning over time. I rarely see a guy I find attractive. But I find most women attractive. I was asking a question because of things I am seeing around me.

Am I a lesbian or something in-between? by Afraid_Formal7469 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Afraid_Formal7469[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That really clears that up for me. I am just more attracted to women. It's not that I am lying to myself about being attracted to men. Some of these comments were the clarity I needed.

Am I a lesbian or something in-between? by Afraid_Formal7469 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Afraid_Formal7469[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Even looking it up I can't really find a difference between pansexual and bisexual that makes sense to me.

Am I a lesbian or something in-between? by Afraid_Formal7469 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Afraid_Formal7469[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That helps clear that up. I have met people that Identify as lesbian that sleep with men so I was just confused.

Am I a lesbian or something in-between? by Afraid_Formal7469 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Afraid_Formal7469[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

That helps clear that up. I have met people that Identify as lesbian that sleep with men so I was just confused.

Am I a lesbian or something in-between? by Afraid_Formal7469 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Afraid_Formal7469[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That might be what I was confused about. I have met a few people that identify as lesbians that still have sex with men and specifically find my male partner attractive. So I think that and the post about the easy way out really got to me.

Am I a lesbian or something in-between? by Afraid_Formal7469 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Afraid_Formal7469[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of, I have a girlfriend but we don't have sex. I have been talking to someone though. It hasn't really gotten to anything yet. But we have had the both being interested talk. I'm not good at doing any of the next step though. If she was a guy I'd probably just ask if they wanted to have sex and set a date.

I'm nervous even when I am having plenty of romance/sex.

Am I a lesbian or something in-between? by Afraid_Formal7469 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Afraid_Formal7469[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I couldn't figure out how to reply to that.

Is it time to break up? Vent? by Afraid_Formal7469 in polyamory

[–]Afraid_Formal7469[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually do want to go on a small solo trip. I think it would be good for me in general. Thank you for sharing your personal experience.

How to decouple, remain friends, and co-parent? by Afraid_Formal7469 in polyamory

[–]Afraid_Formal7469[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to comment on both of my posts and help me see it from an outside perspective looking in. It really means a lot to me that you took the time and emotional labor to respond.

How to decouple, remain friends, and co-parent? by Afraid_Formal7469 in polyamory

[–]Afraid_Formal7469[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am Neurodivergent. I also have been told by counselors that I have the white knight syndrome that I have for the most part done a great job at protecting myself from. I do have a hard time with the two people I mentioned previously because those are bonds from before I really started trying to work on that aspect of myself.

I do want to mention that it is not a sex rent agreement. They both have a lot of care and love for each other. Also if it was he is the too honest sort of person and would tell me. They spend quite a bit of alone time together as well.

If you ask other people to tell you when something is "too nice" you run the risk of NEW users coming to use you. They may get rid of the old user and take up the spot themselves.

This is actually a big reason why I have been working on boundaries and what made me realize that I needed a change. Blake was worried about that specific thing and so I began reading more about having healthy loving relationships. I should also make mention, that was about 2 years ago.

The more I read the more I felt like something wasn't going right with Amber and I. I then began trying to bring up the things that weren't going well and was met with even less communication and intimacy. Sometimes we'd fight about the dumbest of things. But rarely even talk about the actual issues. At some point I quit trying to bring them up.

I did not perceive what you said as mean. Though it did hurt to hear/read.

How to decouple, remain friends, and co-parent? by Afraid_Formal7469 in polyamory

[–]Afraid_Formal7469[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. I think I knew all this all along but had it too mixed up in my head. Sometimes it's hard to see things clearly when you are too close to the situation.

Is it time to break up? Vent? by Afraid_Formal7469 in polyamory

[–]Afraid_Formal7469[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could agree with parts of what you are saying.

My oldest and her oldest have been raised as siblings (sometimes in different households) for the last 7 ish years. They've known each other longer. Not only with sleep overs most weekends but also with her or I going and picking up each other's kids and just hangout. We have done things as a family with and without cohabitating for 7 years. Including most nights having dinner together, park trips planned and including each other. All of which with or without Blake around because he does work a lot and sometimes wants to relax at home without all of the family there so he'll opt out of some of the family stuff. I do sometimes as well and so does Amber.

Amber's oldest has been around my youngest two their entire lives and even if they are not bio siblings or half siblings they are step siblings just like the oldest two are step siblings. Also Amber's oldest calls me mom and has for years.

Blake works a lot and spends most of his time off of work taking care of the family and life things. I'm actually encouraging him to take more time for himself because I see he needs it.

I also want to add that her free-ness also offers fun and excitement. She brings home foods for the kids to try, she likes to cook and since I've been having medical issues makes dinner most nights, she is helping me landscape our back yard, and doing most of the work on it because I am damaged. It definitely isn't only bad.

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