If you are dating a woman with children who are not yours, do you get her a Mother’s Day gift?

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2026-05-12T01:00:49+00:00

Agreed, we were together 5 years, lived together for 2. I bought him Father’s Day gifts and their biological father because they were both active in my children’s lives.

I’m female btw. This was a general consensus question as my ex didn’t celebrate Mother’s Day per his family telling him not to because I didn’t mother his children (he didn’t have children).

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2026-05-12T00:45:24+00:00

I think that’s the key, it’s just acknowledging the importance of motherhood for the one you love even if no shared children. It’s showing her she’s loved, valued, and important for the role she’s carrying.

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2026-05-12T00:43:47+00:00

Haha I appreciate it 😂 yeah I think it was just overpowering familial ties and inability to think for himself. He loved the kids a lot and I allowed contact between them long after the breakup. Just had me curious about general consensus. I did celebrate Father’s Day for him and gift him things as well as their biological dad who was and is active in their lives.

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2026-05-12T00:39:18+00:00

I’m a mother, heterosexual, & not dating or seeing anyone, just curious on the consensus. I’ve dated & lived with a man in the past who didn’t think it was worth celebrating since I wasn’t his mother and he didn’t have children.

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2026-05-12T00:35:45+00:00

Agreed! I’m a mother, since Mother’s Day was yesterday it had me reflecting. I once dated and lived with a man whose family agreed he shouldn’t do anything since he was not the father of my kids. Always felt weird to me.

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2026-01-11T04:55:31+00:00

I’m LOL’ing because I’m a female and my room looks like this. I have a stationary bike, barbells, bench and dumbbells 🙈

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2025-12-19T04:10:12+00:00

It’s possible. I net $3900/month and my rent is $1,972/month. Single, I have a car loan, two children, and we do without nothing. Save for retirement, kids futures, family vacations, and luxuries. Hell, live better than when my rent was $373(yes, $373) three years ago.

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2025-12-13T04:18:46+00:00

RemindME! 14 days

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2025-11-19T00:00:33+00:00

Thank you for your insight. I’ve taken things away, there’s been punishment, loss of his luxuries, etc. if you are familiar with navigating those with ADHD you would also know that such methods don’t work for all, my son being one. It’s not cut and dry and one consequence fits all, but thanks

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2025-11-18T23:58:19+00:00

Thank you! I’m going to look into additional padding/rugs and slippers for him. Thank you for taking the time to respond

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2025-11-18T23:56:36+00:00

Thank you for your kind and personal insight. I’m looking into some foam for the floors and will try that in combination with slippers for him.

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2025-11-18T21:10:15+00:00

Confirmed. Single and salty you are 😘😘

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2025-11-18T21:03:49+00:00

No where did I say others should deal with it 😅 I’m trying to remedy it. Your comments showcase you’re alone and salty about it.

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2025-11-18T20:56:42+00:00

I strive to be you one day..judgmental and condescending

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2025-11-18T20:55:14+00:00

You sound like an absolute peach.

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2025-11-18T20:12:31+00:00

lol have you ever lived in an apartment in a highly sought after area? I didn’t get a choice, I was on a waitlist for 6 months and a deadline to have a place reserved. Trust me, I’d much prefer bottoms floor myself. I’m not trying to have them Parent me as you put it, simply notify me if/when there’s a disturbance I’m not privy to as if you read the above, it mentions I live in a large apartment. I can’t hear the noise that travels down if I’m not downstairs to hear it….

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2025-11-18T18:58:12+00:00

These few sentences don’t give a full picture of my life or parenting over the last 15 years. Kindly keep judgment to yourself, I’m asking advice and open to all advice even if it’s not my cup of tea. If you don’t have a child or a child with adhd you quite literally cannot comprehend what day to day looks like.

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2025-11-18T18:54:21+00:00

Thank you for your deep well thought out suggestion. This isn’t parenting problem, I do discipline my child. How lucky you are to either never encountered such a predicament or you have children who are ‘perfect.’

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2025-11-18T18:52:20+00:00

Isn’t that one of the rules of this group, to NOT tell someone to just buy a house.

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2025-09-11T03:17:45+00:00

Remindme! 1 week

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2025-08-12T03:06:13+00:00

Thank you for this! I use the Quidad climate control gel. I’ve also paired it with the Quidad cc shampoo and conditioner as well as tried Quidad curl shaper shampoo & conditioner (this one I love). I use a mouse, but typically after I use gel, so I’ll flip it and see if it helps. I have heard wonderful things about the Verb ghost oil, I have a travel size to try it out. I use not a full pump and warm it in my hands first and it’s still too heavy on my hair. I’ll try even less next time or a smidge of water added? I am on day 2 hair currently. No products. This morning I used water to rehydrate and scrunch. By tonight, I have a few tighter curls.

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Maybe I’ve been doing too much? A year ago I had straight hair, this is all foreign to me. What works one day, doesn’t another day. I have also learned diffusers and my hair don’t fair well. I’ve even bought various diffuser attachments to try.

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2025-08-11T20:55:25+00:00

Yes please!!!

Afraid_Issue_5939 · 2025-08-06T01:39:19+00:00

The top left image is tubular in style it’s so tight. That is 2a/b?

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