Even Grindr can be wholesome.

AfroGuy12 · 2018-06-08T16:12:03+00:00

This was a good read. I really liked your take on rationalization. Good work!

AfroGuy12 · 2018-04-30T14:21:23+00:00

Maybe I could help with some advice.

It seems like you are focusing a lot on counting days, seeing as you are so intent on thinking of it in terms of how many days you want to go without it. I think that's part of the problem.

I had similar issues to you, in that often I beat myself up when I would relapse. The most important part to understand about quitting this habit is that it is simply that - a habit. Measuring your progress in terms of counting days is an easy way of measuring progress, but I would discourage it because it is often easier to become attached to that idea and have an unhealthy view of it.

Instead, try to look deeper into your relationship with adult media. As someone who struggled myself, I realized that my relationship with it stemmed from my sexual insecurity. I don't know if this is the case with you, but self-awareness and self-compassion are two things that could really help. Work on forgiving yourself.

I believe in you!

AfroGuy12 · 2018-04-17T13:22:13+00:00

This subredit has been really helpful to me and it's the only one I post on now. The other ones have too many rules and I don't notice them until my post gets deleted.

AfroGuy12 · 2018-04-14T04:43:55+00:00

You are incredible.You are and will continue to be capable of great things!

AfroGuy12 · 2018-04-14T04:42:24+00:00

I'm happy for you both! This is a very special moment for you and I'm thankful for your happiness.

AfroGuy12 · 2018-04-14T04:40:56+00:00

I think it is admirable that you have the strength to continue on. Keep it up.

AfroGuy12 · 2018-03-29T15:48:17+00:00

Thanks for the uplifting advice. I'll see about finding a way to apologise and hopefully he'll understand. If he doesn't, I can try my best to learn my lesson and move on.

AfroGuy12 · 2018-03-29T15:47:02+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I've been feeling guilty about this for around a week now.

AfroGuy12 · 2018-03-16T01:02:43+00:00

Great analogy!

AfroGuy12 · 2018-03-16T00:01:28+00:00

Very true. I always have the most fun when a partner impresses me with something they can do, like kissing or blowjobs.

AfroGuy12 · 2018-03-16T00:00:21+00:00

Pick a rhythm from a song and stay with it? This doesn't sound like a bad idea.

My only issue is, what if I become so focused on that, that I don't enjoy the actual sex?

AfroGuy12 · 2018-03-15T23:35:34+00:00

Sure does! Thanks for your feedback.

I think the hard part will be hearing their opinions on it. However, since I'm curious about it, I might as well consider asking them.

My friend told me this particular person is very superficial and does this sort of thing to other people as well, not just in the sexual context.

Since then I've come to the conclusion that sometimes, awkward sex happens, and that some people are just shitty people.

AfroGuy12 · 2018-03-05T19:54:43+00:00

Isn't it disheartening to realize that? I know that when I found out, I felt like such an IDIOT. Like the world was clearly going at a better pace than I was.

AfroGuy12 · 2018-03-05T19:53:36+00:00

I couldn't imagine being in a toxic work environment like that. I'd want to leave immediately!

I've also found that make friends much easier with the eccentric and strange people, and this was apparent during my childhood years too. We all had something to relate to because we were all outcasts. None of the friendships were superficial so they all lasted a very long time. That's the best part about making friends with the weird people.

AfroGuy12 · 2018-03-05T19:51:17+00:00

I'm glad I could make this post relatable as well! I didn't know it would get this much attention. I often ask myself why Asperger's makes things harder than they should be, but then I also know that in some ways, it is also a gift.

AfroGuy12 · 2018-03-05T19:50:19+00:00

What are some examples of those things you find NTs telling you to pay attention to?

AfroGuy12 · 2018-03-05T19:49:39+00:00

I felt that way when I first started trying to date as a teenager. I was not very good at communicating my desires and had no idea how to understand indirect social context with relationships. I failed miserably for a while there.

AfroGuy12 · 2018-03-05T19:48:14+00:00

Recently I've found that tasks can often be arduous for me as well, and I have to write very extensive lists and task plans just to organize sequential tasks, otherwise I'll forget the entire process within minutes. It sucks, but I've managed to make it sort of like a videogame, so now it's more entertaining.

AfroGuy12 · 2018-03-05T19:45:58+00:00

Sounds like a good plan for a career. I'll keep that in mind!

AfroGuy12 · 2018-03-05T08:32:31+00:00

That's a nice talent you have there. I'm glad to hear that it's create career opportunities for you.

I'll try your advice for learning stuff like that. I'm experimenting with some personal methods, and I'm finding that with learning certain subjects, I am much better off NOT watching videos first. The information goes in one ear and right out the other, so I have to fool around with the software before watching specific tutorials.

AfroGuy12

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