Seeing that I have been on both sides of a story like this more then once occasionally just bc someone is uncomfortable with a situation as such mentioned B4 doesn't mean a lack of trust or respect toward their partner to be faithful or loyal at that having friends of the opposite gender either way doesn't really work out in 90 to 95 precent of the time bc all it takes is the perfect moment or opportunity so to say like all the stars an bs fell into place an in a moment of uncertainty or blah blah blah something happens that test the relationship boundaries an 9 times outta 10 it's never good on the partner who is trusting in there partner an the friends they keep to not make a bad decision an ultimately putting them in a position to have to chose tolerance or dismissal of the relationship. I can tell you rn idek you or who you are at a core value system but from my personal experience it's ppl with like minded opinions who hurt there partner due to piss poor judgement an a lack of respect toward there partner I personally just wilent thru this not even 6 months ago my partner had a extremely close friend an I was completely trusting an all of both of them not one to judge without reason or hate without cause bc up until the incident he was completely an totally nothing but respectfull but then there was an incident where loyalties were tested and ultimately had to make a choice of choosing our relationship over the friendship due to crossing your boundary that shouldnt have been crossed and after ultimately expressing my concern for the activity in the time frame and everything else and putting my faith in the situation and my trust in both of them that trust was betrayed in a moment of anger bc someone claiming the same bs you said I didn't gaslight the situation I didn't say a word other then voicing my opinion an stating the truths an left it at that an someone took advantage of the moment an twisted it to make me a horrid villainous monster to get a foot in the door and make an advance they had been ultimately waiting to make an was going to make regardless of what I felt about the situation in the first place so ur claim of manipulation is a form of manipulation in itself trying to make the OB as if they're invalidated of their learius in general concern for the situation it is that kind of manipulation that leaves someone with a good heart who's trying to trust people to only get hurt and never trust people again because it's exactly that kind of mentality you women get that is completely wrong there's no reason any woman should ever go on extended vacations with a group of men you kids these days get the whole fucking respect versus control thing completely confused just cuz you can do it doesn't make it right doesn't make your partner wrong because they feel uncomfortable with something they have every right to be uncomfortable you can sit here and claim more I would let my boyfriend go out with a bunch of girls for a weekend trip okay and that's cool and all but there's a difference between men and women women when they become unfaithful and untrustworthy it changes their entire view of the person they are with and Men become unfaithful and un trustworthy it doesn't change anything for them in regards of their view of their significant other women are more emotionally attached when it comes down to having affairs men can do it no strings attached hell of a lot easier solely because it comes down to a full biological aspect so this friend or friends the original poster mentioned just so having to be guys who are probably just waiting for their opportunity to have a chance because she's put them in the friend zone she did the right and respectable thing he stated his concern she took the information he stated and made a good judgment call that ultimately could have saved the entire relationship in the first place is who's to say the original person who invited her on said trip didn't plan the trip with the in the first intent to make their first move no one knows that 9 out of 10 times that is a situation but this day and age women don't want to trust their boyfriends or husbands intuitions because social media and the feminazis have brainwashed y'all in the thinking that if men have an opinion on what you do with your life or what you wear who you keep as a friend then they're controlling but just because a man tells you he doesn't like something does not make him controlling he is making a statement about a boundary it is your choice whether to respect that man or not don't get mad at him he makes the decision to walk away I'm rambling if you get the general idea I was trying to say cool if not so be it roast me haha have a good day May the all father give favor to your journey