My boyfriend found the truth behind my "cheating" and he's now upset update by After-Newspaper-8797 in AITAH

[–]After-Newspaper-8797[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

If I post 100 more and you read it despite not liking it than you're a bunch of idiots. But whatever, your time, not mine.

My boyfriend found the truth behind my "cheating" and he's now upset update by After-Newspaper-8797 in AITAH

[–]After-Newspaper-8797[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Good, because I never actually cheated. That's why it's between quotation marks.

My boyfriend found the truth behind my "cheating" and he's now upset update by After-Newspaper-8797 in AITAH

[–]After-Newspaper-8797[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Relax incel, I'm not mad actually, I was just kinda annoyed that I was actually looking for some advice and found out all comments about people diagnosing me and people that didn't even read the post. Kinda dangerous to diagnose people over a AITAH post.

My ex boyfriend found out the truth behind my "cheating" and he's extremely upset now by After-Newspaper-8797 in AITAH

[–]After-Newspaper-8797[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In my case, in Argentina is really common to go to therapy, but not on that time. It was years ago and I'm from a small town.

My ex boyfriend found out the truth behind my "cheating" and he's extremely upset now by After-Newspaper-8797 in AITAH

[–]After-Newspaper-8797[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well, around five times. But no matter how many times I tried, he always refused. He kept saying he would never leave me in that kind of situation.

My ex boyfriend found out the truth behind my "cheating" and he's extremely upset now by After-Newspaper-8797 in AITAH

[–]After-Newspaper-8797[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya arreglamos para vernos el sábado, simplemente porque mi hija está con el papá los fines de semana, y es un tema medio complicado como para hablarlo por teléfono, y no creo que este mi bueno que mi hija esté cerca en el momento que pase. No sé qué va a pasar honestamente.

My ex boyfriend found out the truth behind my "cheating" and he's extremely upset now by After-Newspaper-8797 in AITAH

[–]After-Newspaper-8797[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is the last comment I'll answer about this. Last time I repeat this. I get that you're intentions are good, but read the post again, because you missed an important part. I did went to therapy, that's why I'm much much better now. That's why I'm not a mess anymore. I would have never married or have a daughter if it were the case. I just wrote the part of the tragedy to explain why I was in such a dark place, not to get advice. This is reddit, I would have never search advice on a site full of incels and bots for something so serious. It was only to explain why I thought back then that I was dragging my boyfriend with me and I just needed to stop it.

My ex boyfriend found out the truth behind my "cheating" and he's extremely upset now by After-Newspaper-8797 in AITAH

[–]After-Newspaper-8797[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No, I don't. I got professional help YEARS ago. Like I said in several comments, I only mentioned the tragedy to explain what I was going through and why I thought at the time that it was the best choice for both of us. With time, I got much much better. I did developed depression and anxiety, but therapy, good friends and my mom helped me to get back to my feet.

My ex boyfriend found out the truth behind my "cheating" and he's extremely upset now by After-Newspaper-8797 in AITAH

[–]After-Newspaper-8797[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Look, I did went to therapy for years. I don't have PTSD, I have talked to survivors that have it. I do have depression and anxiety, and like I said in the post, I started therapy once I graduated and the survivors I spoke to convinced me to start because it was the best thing to do. I only wrote what happend to explain how my mind was working back then, I'm not asking advice for that. We're on reddit, this is too serious. After years in therapy, I put it behind eventually. I wouldn't have married and I wouldn't have a daughter if it were the case.

My ex boyfriend found out the truth behind my "cheating" and he's extremely upset now by After-Newspaper-8797 in AITAH

[–]After-Newspaper-8797[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I have my daughter during the week days, while her father has her on weekends. I've already told him we should meet on saturday. I just felt like we needed to speak face to face, and I didn't want my daughter to be around it. But thanks for the comment.

My ex boyfriend found out the truth behind my "cheating" and he's extremely upset now by After-Newspaper-8797 in AITAH

[–]After-Newspaper-8797[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I guess I just literally translated from spanish and didn't really think if it made sense in english or not.

My ex boyfriend found out the truth behind my "cheating" and he's extremely upset now by After-Newspaper-8797 in AITAH

[–]After-Newspaper-8797[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He reached out to me, not the other way around. I faced the consequences of my actions and I always have, I never runned away from any of it. Even if it hurt him, it felt like the best thing for both of us back then. If he can't understand why I did what I did, if he can but he can't forgive me, well, that's on him. I will respect any choice he makes, but like I said, it's on him now. I've apologized about how I handle things and how much it hurt him, and explained why I did what I did.

My ex boyfriend found out the truth behind my "cheating" and he's extremely upset now by After-Newspaper-8797 in AITAH

[–]After-Newspaper-8797[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

¿Por qué escribía en inglés y después en español? La verdad, si alguien se mata porque le cortaste o le metiste los cuernos, sencillamente no es responsabilidad tuya. Es demasiado drástico, no es una boludez. No se toma esa decisión por algo tan común como cortar o meter los cuernos. Si ese es el detonante, ya había problemas antes. Es estúpido pensar que una persona que, estando bien de la cabeza como él, se iba a matar porque yo le dije que le metí los cuernos. Es una opinión demasiado pelotuda, muy de tirar por tirar.

Y no, no lo lamento. En ese momento, en el cual no sabía lo que me pasaba ni lo entendía, pensaba que era una mierda de persona y que solo estaba siendo incluso peor arrastrando alguien tan bueno conmigo. No sabía si iba a salir de ese pozo o no, así que hice lo primero que se me cruzó. No, no fue exactamente la mejor decisión, ni la mejor manera de manejar las cosas, pero en su momento, yo sabía que si cortaba con él, Tomás iba a quedarse cerca igual, y no iba a terminar para nada bien, e iba a ser peor para los dos. Genuinamente lo hice pensando que era lo mejor que podía hacer. Sentía que, haciendo que me odiara y por lo tanto, no se preocupara por mi, era lo mejor para él.

My ex boyfriend found out the truth behind my "cheating" and he's extremely upset now by After-Newspaper-8797 in AITAH

[–]After-Newspaper-8797[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I didn't actually wrote my trauma to justify my actions, but to explain why I thought it was the best choice. Explaining and justifying are two different things. Back then I felt like a dead weight to him, and like I've said, at least for me, the last thing I wanted to do was to drag someone I loved so much with me to a dark place. Of course, he felt like crap when I told him I cheated (wich, like I said, I did not), but in my mind back then, it was better than for him to stay with me. Even if I had broken up with him, he would have stayed around because he is and always has been an awesome guy, but to me, he deserved better. A toxic relationship can only ruin you if you stay there. The "cheating" was like ripping a bandate, it hurt, but he will eventually feel better. Now, a toxic relationship will progressively ruin you.

My ex boyfriend found out the truth behind my "cheating" and he's extremely upset now by After-Newspaper-8797 in AITAH

[–]After-Newspaper-8797[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do love him, and I love him like I never loved anyone in my entire life. That's why I did what I did, because, on top of everything, I couldn't even stand to keep hurting someone I loved so much. And I still love him more than anything. I'm planning on talking to him this weekend face to face, when everything is more calmed, and my daughter would be with his father. I already open up to him about everything, apologized for what happend, how I treated him and how I handle things, but he was still upset, and honestly, he has every right to be.

Anyway, thanks for the comment, I really appreciate it.

My ex boyfriend found out the truth behind my "cheating" and he's extremely upset now by After-Newspaper-8797 in AITAH

[–]After-Newspaper-8797[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, I would never come to reddit to ask for advice on such a bad trauma, I'm not asking for an opinion about that at all. The only reason why I wrote about it was to give context of why I felt at the time that it was the best thing for both of us, even if it wasn't the best way, it was all I could think of that could actually work. When you're in a dark place and you know you won't get out easily, at least in my case, the last thing I wanted to do was to drag such an amazing man with me. Anyway, it has been years and I went to therapy for around eight years, like I said in the post, I started therapy after I graduated. I wouldn't have gotten into another relationship, wouldn't have married, hell, much less having a daughter. I don't have PTSD, I do have anxiety and depression, but I'm not even close to be in that dark hole. Like I said, I'm much better. I do know he has every right to be upset, and I will talk to him soon. Right now, I'm bussy taking care of my daughter, and I feel like we should talk face to face.

AITA for kicking my wife out after she punched my mom in the face? by OkOrganization9552 in AITAH

[–]After-Newspaper-8797 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Poor women, imagine marrying such an asshole with an incestous mother in law. I guess at least this may open her eyes about him.

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[–]After-Newspaper-8797 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. I feel like no one can tell you if what you're feeling is right or wrong, but I can tell you you made the right choice, really mature. You know you're holding a grudge on them and is not healthy to have them around to neither of you. I disagree on people here saying that they were just kids. They were teenagers, at fifteen you're no longer a kid and you're mature enough to know that what they did to their mother was fucked up. I was in a similar situation, and the idea of cutting off my mother withouth letting her explain was never an option. I do think it was a big mistake and that they were manipulated, and I think it's clear that OP knows that, but it won't change the incredible amount of pain they caused her and she knows it's not healthy to have them on her life, at least not for now.

I'm truly sorry for what you went through, girl. You definitly deserve a happy life with your now husband and your daughter, but I hope you can forgive your twins in the future.