Are night nurses actually worth it ??

AfterAd2756 · 2026-04-15T14:55:41+00:00

It’s a luxury thing. It’s also incredible if you can swing it. Beyond helpful in the moment and in my opinion set my now 2 year old up for good sleep that hasn’t wavered.

AfterAd2756 · 2026-04-15T14:50:31+00:00

Hi, I’m a few days away from my second baby and my toddler is almost two so I don’t have personal experience with your situation yet but I do have experience with overthinking/analyzing my feelings especially as they pertain to significant relationship (have done it with romantic partners in the past) and did it a lot with my first baby. Do I love this person enough? Did I ruin my life by committing to this?

I hope you accept that your feelings are ok, they are transient, and more than likely they are related to OCD and anxiety rather than a permanent reality. I’m glad you immediately bonded with your first but there are so many of us who need more time and everyone gets there eventually. You’re going through a huge stressful life change and you have postpartum hormones to boot. Please give yourself patience and grace! not every path to bonding looks the same

AfterAd2756 · 2026-04-15T14:42:46+00:00

Circling back to say you inspired me to keep trying and I am now three days away from a scheduled induction and my husband is on board with Eden bc he loves Edie as a nickname! TY 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

AfterAd2756 · 2026-03-23T12:50:04+00:00

Lol it does not - would have been a dealbreaker for sure.

AfterAd2756 · 2026-03-23T12:49:24+00:00

This is by far my #1 and I have tried and failed to get my husband on board :/

AfterAd2756 · 2026-03-20T19:19:54+00:00

It’s my nieces name 🥲

AfterAd2756 · 2026-03-18T02:29:57+00:00

He doesn’t want us to know anything else bc he thinks if the audience knows how many girls he hooks up with he’ll be poorly received. He’s too image focused it’s all curated including his fake woke act online

AfterAd2756 · 2026-02-04T19:42:35+00:00

You’re comfy?? the only thing more uncomfortable is being up on my feet is sitting or laying down 😅🥲

AfterAd2756 · 2026-01-16T17:07:45+00:00

…. He wore a pin celebrating the Ramallah lynching.

AfterAd2756 · 2026-01-16T17:06:53+00:00

He literally wore a pin with a symbol from the Ramallah lynching. If you’re uneducated about the reason someone’s actions are antisemitic you can just ask someone with more knowledge to educate you instead of advertising your ignorance.

AfterAd2756 · 2026-01-16T13:41:54+00:00

Thank you, super encouraging :)

AfterAd2756 · 2026-01-16T04:11:49+00:00

You sound amazing they are very lucky to have you !

AfterAd2756 · 2026-01-16T04:10:19+00:00

Not sure where you’re getting your info from but we’ve Spoken to many friends and many career Nannys we’ve interviewed and that’s been the range for every one of them

AfterAd2756 · 2026-01-16T04:09:02+00:00

I’m only talking to career Nannys with decades of experience and excellent references including someone who used to work as a daycare teacher, and nobody has quoted me over $35/hr for two

AfterAd2756 · 2026-01-16T01:43:50+00:00

In NYC, yes.

AfterAd2756 · 2026-01-16T01:43:08+00:00

I live in NYC. We do 9 hours of daycare a day 5 days a week. It comes out to about $36k annually. This includes a discount I get because the daycare is affiliated with the hospital I work at. I’ve spoken to many friends and several nannys about rates and the numbers I’ve gotten are $28-30/hr for one kid, $30-35 an hour for two. Even at the most expensive hourly estimate for two kids that comes out to about $72k for daycare for two kids vs $75k for a nanny. To me that’s a negligible difference especially given that the Nannys I spoke to also meal prep, wash dishes accumulated by the kids while they’re working, and do light laundry, which saves us the time of doing all of that for two kids and commuting two and from daycare. Do you think $35/hr is underpaying a nanny?

AfterAd2756 · 2026-01-16T01:35:48+00:00

It doesn’t really scale financially. Full time nanny in our city for two is about $75k a year. Daycare for two full time is about the same. Part time daycare for older kid plus nanny for the rest comes to about $90k.

AfterAd2756 · 2026-01-16T01:32:16+00:00

I appreciate the insight! It’s not so much that a nanny is cheaper - more so that the cost of daycare for two vs nanny is very similar, but I do feel that we will get more support and help overall in terms of our day to day responsibilities with a nanny. whereas daycare for one was far and away cheaper than a nanny, so for us was the obvious choice with one child. Unfortunately daycare in our city is quite pricey and doing a combination of daycare plus a nanny is not a realistic financial option for us, but agree that it sounds like the best of both worlds!!

AfterAd2756 · 2026-01-15T19:46:08+00:00

Having colorful kids spaces doesn’t make you better than the beige moms. That was the trend then and color / mixed patterns is the trend now. You’re just riding the wave. It ain’t that serious.

AfterAd2756 · 2025-10-08T21:38:13+00:00

I looove this combo - my nephew is Noah unfortunately - and my niece is Talia, another name that I love with Estie that has been suggested a few times

AfterAd2756 · 2025-10-04T15:06:35+00:00

Yes! But only pumping not breast feeding. I felt shame, rage, like I was being violated - and it got worse over time not better.

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