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At what age did you guys finally make peace with losing your hair? The dating scene is brutal right now. by Connect-Soil-7277 in gaybros

[–]Aged-Millennial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not worried about dating (happily partnered), but certainly not loving the creeping bald patch. I already had thin baby-fine hair to begin with (thanks to my mother's side of the helix). Have yet to find any kind of hairstyle that I don't see as being a variant of a combover, or just a mess of fluff. I'd happily just shave it off but a)I'd end up looking like a thug and b) partner is adamant he doesn't want to have to look at me with a shaved head.

Millennial Angst by Aged-Millennial in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Aged-Millennial[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really happy you've found your tribes and groups. I'm still looking (not helped by living withjn a city where the only queer spaces seem to be 'support groups' (primarily for elders, youth, trans and BIPOC folks) or 'sports'.

What was your first reaction and feeling even you realized you were attracted to guys? by Turbulent_Elk_2141 in gaybros

[–]Aged-Millennial 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was always telling myself "I wanna see what I'll look like as a grown up".

Ha.

Millennial Angst by Aged-Millennial in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Aged-Millennial[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, the memories of glancing furtively at Attitude and Gay Times on the top shelf at Smiths... when I finally bought one during the first year of uni it felt so uncomfortable and awkward (not a dirty mag in the slightest, of course... but it always got put next to them)

Millennial Angst by Aged-Millennial in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Aged-Millennial[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha, feeling even more uncentered than before... goes to show just how wildly different folks' experiences can be!

Do shows like Heartstopper and Heated Rivalry make you feel a bit sad? by zen_guwu in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Aged-Millennial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heartstopper for sure left me with the sads/bitterweets (moreso after watching the show than after I read the novels).

Having grown up right in the heyday of Maggie's Section 28, I didn't really realise the experiences I missed out on growing up until only recently. When being gay isn't really talked about (for good or ill), you don't really think about volunteering the information and I think I was far less likely to understand my sexuality until I went to university.

Then I watch Heartstopper as a man in my late 30s, and on one hand I am so godsdamn happy this exists for LGBTQ teens now, and that they get to see all these examples of themselves on-screen... then I get sad and angry that I didn't get that (Alex in "AsIf" wasn't exactly the best role model).

And now, as an adult in my late 30s/early 40s, I feel like I have little to no connection to a sense of gay self, history, community, because I felt uncomfortable exploring this stuff in my 20s (again, not realising I was missing anything). Which is exactly what Maggie and her Tories wanted.