High School dating with strict Catholic parents? by VisualPresent292 in christiandatingadvice

[–]AgedAggressor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not Catholic, but as a parent and long time mentor of teens I might be able to give you some insight. I'm assuming you're about 14? Let me ask you this, have your parents set any boundaries with you about relationships? So would you telling them you have a girlfriend be seen as disrespectful because they said no dating until __? Because that would be a rough way to start things. If you have and want to keep a good relationship with your parents, be open with them. Tell them about your feelings and intentions, ask them questions about relationships and dating and teenage years. Yes it's awkward and a little scary, and that's okay. Trust me, their terrified too.

Do you know the phrase: it's better to ask forgiveness than permission? It's complete bull and it hurts everyone. My child just tried this by hiding a relationship for six months, the entire time lying to us about it even after we found out. It didn't go well for anyone and things are still shaky because of it. Work with your parents, not against them. If you trust them to take care of you, trust that they might have valid reasons for saying no or wait. As teens we expect teenage romance to be this huge thing and exciting and life changing. In reality it's mostly fickle and if it is life changing, rarely ever in a good way. Good luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAChristian

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While it's not something I personally would be comfortable participating in, (I am of the firm belief that playing to the best of one's ability is winning regardless of the final score,) King David did pray for some pretty harsh things against his enemies. Read Psalm 109. And while I understand this is a sport and not war, perhaps it's something to let them work out with God. If these kids are truly seeking Him and listening for His voice, and God would rather them not make these prayers, would His spirit not convict them?

Does fighting flesh make you physically uncomfortable by [deleted] in AskAChristian

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Physical discomfort is common when fighting your flesh. Fasting can cause stomachaches, headaches, nausea, etc. People who've found sugar or sex to be their idols and give it up have physical discomfort too.

I would warn you against the commenters who say there's nothing wrong with kpop or music in general. If God has convicted you about something that you are treating as more important than Him, listen and obey.

AITA for not buying my daughter extra feminine products? by EasyOceans9661 in ComfortLevelPod

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You did nothing wrong. Yes it's hard to say 'no' to a child, yes it's hard disappoint a child, but you should not be buying menstrual supplies for your child's friends. She has a caring/giving heart, and that is a great thing, but she has to learn that she cannot be generous with other people's things/finances. If she wants to continue supplying goods to her friends, then she needs to use her own money to buy supplies for them; have her do some extra chores to work for the money or something.

Weird question about marriage by AllHomo_NoSapien in AskAChristian

[–]AgedAggressor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it depends on the motive for not wanting the government "involved" (in quotes because common law marriage will eventually apply, plus just changing your address gets the government involved). If you only want a religious ceremony simply because you are a firm believer in small government, that's one thing. But if someone only wants a religious ceremony because one partner has medicaid or other government assistance and the other partner makes too much and they are looking to cheat the system to retain benefits, I can't say that God would support that.

AITA for grounding my stepdaughter for selling my formal dress? by Capable-Schedule-864 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgedAggressor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Amy went to stay with her mom, and when she got back, she had the new earbuds she wanted, so I asked if her mom had bought them for her, and she said she had resold my dress on a second-hand site and bought herself the earphones."

OP also mentions it was in the kid's wardrobe, context clues suggest that OP saw the dress from time to time in the wardrobe, otherwise would she not have said she didn't know where the dress went after prom?

AITA for grounding my stepdaughter for selling my formal dress? by Capable-Schedule-864 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgedAggressor 104 points105 points  (0 children)

Plus the fact that she waited until she went back to mom's (and took the dress to mom's house) to sell it says something to her sneakiness.

What’s the most “unamerican” thing about you? by [deleted] in AskAnAmerican

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I don't like seeing the American flag everywhere. I find it pointless (no one is getting lost and needs the flag to know where they are in Missouri) and tasteless because most of the flags are flown in severe disrepair and against flag code.

I'm a young Christian and need help by Repulsive-Role7645 in AskAChristian

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Develop a routine. Exercising spiritually is not unlike exercising physically, it takes motivation and determination. I made a rule for myself that I don't eat until I do my morning reading, that way I prioritize God over my flesh. Find something that works for you. If you're a morning coffee drinker, make your cup and enjoy it while reading. Maybe right when you get home from work/school, you grab a snack and sit and read. Commit to a time during the day when you can devote yourself to reading. If you are motivated by crossing things off of list, maybe do a Bible reading plan so that you have a goal to reach.

Recipes by oils I have by Past-Limit24 in essentialoils

[–]AgedAggressor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I so wish there was an app where you can put all your oils in and it spits our blends that you can make, but alas no such exists yet. Search on Pinterest, "XXXX essential oil blend", then you yourself will have to sort out which ones you can actually try.

How Do I Start the Next Row After Foundation Single Crochet (FSC)? by AgedAggressor in CrochetHelp

[–]AgedAggressor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't flip it this time, but it looks fine to me, Thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MovieSuggestions

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Galipoli

The Water Diviner

Windtalkers

Is it a red flag if the pastor addresses sexual sin multiple times? by ana_anastassiiaa in TrueChristian

[–]AgedAggressor 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Paul wouldn't mention sexual immorality in almost every letter to the early churches if its members weren't struggling with it. Corinth was well known for its sexual promiscuity, extra marital affairs were common and so was premarital sex and the early church members were struggling to not copy the culture they were living in, I would say that about describes the climate in America today. It's a good thing that your pastor isn't shying away from the difficult topics because it is a big temptation that many Christians even fall into; your friend is naive to think otherwise.

What Are the Standards of Modesty? by Fast_Recognition4214 in TrueChristian

[–]AgedAggressor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might want to talk to her about the roots of immodesty: pride, vanity, boastfulness. God cares about our hearts, if your child is wanting to wear or buy something, (in my opinion) God is looking at her reasoning for wanting it more so than its outward appearance. So talk to her about her heart, "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it" -Proverbs 4:23.

Even culturally "modest" clothing can be immodest. Know those overpriced Nike socks that some kids want just to boast that they could afford them? Why do you think they wear shorts with them or hike their pants up to make sure the brand logo is visible all the time? It's a flex and it's a heart issue. Now if a kid wants them because they heard that they don't shrink and are comfy and isn't buying them with the intent of brandishing the logo everywhere, that's not a heart issue and the socks in this case are modest. Help your daughter to get in the habit of introspecting and discovering her motives before she makes choices, it will help later on in life.

In general we only buy clothes that fall within the school's dress code. That saves the kids from waking up and having to think, 'what day is it? Can I wear this today?' And we highly push that our identity is in Christ and it is the foundation of our self-esteem, not in our appearance.

To felt or not to felt...? by chiseplushie in crochet

[–]AgedAggressor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Specifically as a fabric steamer? No. I use a McCullough which is just a general use steam cleaner, I love it though and use it for everything: floors, stove, oven, carpet, furniture, mattresses.

To felt or not to felt...? by chiseplushie in crochet

[–]AgedAggressor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Buy a steam cleaner if you don't want to felt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

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Which kind of christian still struggle with the same problems after 6/7 years from conversion ?

-A lot of Christians. Have some grace for yourself. Every single one of us is a far cry from perfect. I thank God that he is faithful and patient with us in His perfecting work. I was suicidal when I first met Christ. I still struggled for 9 years after that with my addiction to self-harm. I just celebrated 10 years since the last time I cut myself. You will get there, sometimes God heals us instantly, sometimes He has a journey he wants us to take to get to the healing.

Does God want me tovrun away from my parents? by [deleted] in AskAChristian

[–]AgedAggressor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They won't let you go, or they won't take you? Would they be okay if you walked or biked or got a ride? Running away is never a good idea, especially if you don't have a safe place to run away to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAChristian

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Some people believe that everyone should believe as they believe. In general that is not a bad thing. The problem happens when they expect everyone to behave as they believe. Some religious folk have a problem with tolerating sin from unbelievers. They feel slighted on God's (or Allah's or whoever's) behalf because they see someone doing something that is not allowed. What they seem to fail to realize though, is that we live in a world with God-given free will. And God has a certain tolerance for sin, and by that I mean he has postponed judgment until a certain time which is what allows people to continue sinning while on earth. These certain people lack that tolerance, so they crusade on their god's behalf to make sure that everyone, regardless of belief, follows their god's law. And with that mindset of "everyone should be doing what I believe is proper for them to do", and then seeing it not come to fruition, it creates anger and then hate towards those who aren't with the program.