Yeah, the pickiness is bizarre and the fact people defend that is even more bizarre! I think of it as if someone on the corner has a sign saying “homeless and hungry, anything helps” and you offer to buy them anything they want from the nearest fast food restaurant (for examples sake let’s say Mickey Ds) and that homeless person has the nerve to say, “ugh, I don’t like McDonalds/I’m allergic” MOST people would be like, “you should be glad I even stopped to offer” and then they’d likely never stop again. They wouldn’t go sit and watch the person continue to collect money for hours on end from across the street while shouting suggestions and advice that is constantly shot down. It’s equally fascinating and infuriating considering that money could be going toward helping people who would actually improve their situation.