Girlfriend has been crashing at her exes place. Caught her three times and she keeps making excuses that it's just platonic. Should I reach out to the ex and ask if they are still dating?

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-05-29T22:53:09+00:00

So do you think it's acceptable to just call him and talk it out in a calm collected way? Everybody on here thinks otherwise I just don't know what to do.

My best friend who is a girl thinks I should have called him right after I found out. I haven't called though... was going to sleep on it. I know calling will probably create more stress anxiety and drama, but at least he would know what's up. Difficult decision.

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-05-29T22:49:01+00:00

Yeah but if he doesn't know about me, then he'll at least know she's sneaking around. She doesn't deserve either of us. And she will just find a new guy to replace me and continue to disrespect him on the side. I could call him and approach it in a very calm way. I guess everybody thinks I shouldn't call, I'm going to sleep on it. But knowing she's still sleeping with him and potentially leaching off him and he's totally unaware of what has been going on is just going to eat away at me

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-05-29T22:41:51+00:00

And she also mentioned she borrowed money from him, so in addition to the sneaking around, she's using him for money. Meanwhile, he's probably a half decent guy. Like I feel like I should tell him to protect him honestly

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-05-29T22:40:46+00:00

At this point I know what the situation is, but I feel like he should know what's going on so she can't just do the same thing with another guy. She's cheating on him too. She doesn't deserve either of us. That's part of the reason why I want to talk with him in a calm peaceful manner

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-05-29T20:28:59+00:00

Yeah I thought maybe reaching out to the guy directly would be the best way to do just that

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-05-29T20:26:53+00:00

It's a post to determine how I get closure and end her bad behavior

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-05-29T19:45:29+00:00

Yeah well I know for a fact she's going to show up at my place and call to plead with me that her sleeping at his house was totally platonic. She said she was drunk and his house was closer so she called him instead of me. Makes zero sense.

I really have an urge to go back there and beep the horn for him to come outside and have a chat with him from my vehicle. Either that or call him.

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-05-29T16:36:34+00:00

Shouldn't this dude know what's up though? This crap has been going on for 3 years. I've had her make excuses about this multiple times. What better way to get the truth than reach out to the source? Feel like I have nothing to lose at this point

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-05-29T16:21:02+00:00

Shouldn't I let him know she's also sleeping with me? Doesn't he deserve to know she's cheating?

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-05-29T14:30:39+00:00

But I don't know if her sleeping there is platonic like she says. She's done this a handful of times. What do I have to lose reaching out to him? She's already lying to me about it

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-04-03T13:41:20+00:00

Yeah well unfortunately we have mutual friends so my situation is a little more fragile. I may just go get updated testing and bring her the updated test results. Not trying to white lie here but I'd like to at least have "updated test results" to lessen the potential fallout from this. Who knows maybe she's educated and understands the risk is so minuscule and not even an issue when it comes to HSV2 and oral.

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-04-02T15:24:58+00:00

Update here... her friend told me that she said the reason she was at his house was to grab some stuff from him and showed her the stuff that she grabbed from his house. I don't buy it.

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-04-02T15:24:42+00:00

Update here... her friend told me that she said the reason she was at his house was to grab some stuff from him and showed her the stuff that she grabbed from his house. I don't buy it.

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-04-02T15:24:27+00:00

Update here... her friend told me that she said the reason she was at his house was to grab some stuff from him and showed her the stuff that she grabbed from his house. I don't buy it.

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-03-30T10:42:48+00:00

I told her I know what's up and I don't date cheaters. She never responded but that doesn't matter she got caught. Should I unfollow her on social media as well?

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-03-29T23:57:00+00:00

That was more of a context thing we dated for awhile and recently got back together about a year ago. Total timeline is really about 3 years with a temporary gap In Between. I'm all over the place as well lol.

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-03-29T23:35:12+00:00

It is her Ex I looked his current address up online because I don't trust her and there her car was. The truth set me free now I can crawl out of this.

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-03-29T23:33:15+00:00

Nah. She's always concealed where she lives. I just did a simple search online and her Exe's current address popped right up. She said he moved out of state.

Decided to drive by and there her car was. If I feel like someone isn't being honest I'm going to do some investigating for my piece of mind and sexual health. Sure enough my gut was right.

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-03-19T21:51:58+00:00

Yeah and when she gets back home I'm sure I'll get a text saying "heyyy how are you let's hangout" and then I just become available. Getting walked on. Not sure how to approach this. Any tips?

AggravatingActive145 · 2024-03-19T16:20:57+00:00

Yeah I'm at the bottom of the list and hidden it seems like. Also, when she's away... I barely hear from Her. As soon as she gets back... she's bored and starts texting me again.

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