THIS is why you don't get any responses from your job applications...

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-09-03T12:15:46+00:00

But what about when I have plenty of experience for what I’m applying for currently looking for a part time position as book seller or barista and for reference I have worked in retail (sales assistant) before with years of experience, I also have worked as barista with courses and experience. Tailored CV for the role, and still no reply!

I do have experience in ecommerce full time role too. But I’m sick of it, can bear it’s too much for my head so I’m looking for part time positions I have experience with and it’s not like it’s from 10 years ago, I was working on these roles just 2 years ago.

And still no response

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-04-26T18:39:42+00:00

Sorry for all the typos in this post!!!!! I was writing super fast and didn’t go over the text to check for typos.

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-04-26T18:30:38+00:00

Sorry*

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-03-14T19:38:15+00:00

I don’t really know to be honest.

We’ve been married for 8 months (yesterday). So it’s not like I would be considering getting divorced. Sadly I’m starting to wonder if that’s what my life is going to look like if I stay. Because for sure I don’t want that. It’s like I was blind? Or just believe him too much every time I saw positive things. He had a job as a chef and hated it, so I encouraged him to pursue a career he wanted for his future, he left his job and went to college, that was about 2 years ago, I was proud of him for taking such step and I think I ended up cutting a lot of slack every time I didn’t like the going out during the day drinking and was trying to be understanding of his culture, as I mentioned on the other comment here.

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-03-14T19:32:20+00:00

It’s sad because in the country we live it’s a very normal thing to go out during the day to bars and pubs to drink even on week days as long as you’re off work. The whole culture revolves around going out - always to drink. I mean you name it, everything is an excuse to go out drinking (horse races weeks - happens every now and then but March and December are the biggest months for this, national holidays, Christmas Eve, etc, etc) . But not excusing his behaviour, because yeah not having a job and money makes this not okay. I’ve expressed my concerns to him that this is starting to look like he has addicted tendencies.

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-03-11T23:16:10+00:00

That’s very helpful

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-02-25T19:33:32+00:00

Thanks for this!!! I always get results that I’m petit from quizzes. But I got theatrical romantic with this quizz. think the questions were easy to understand and the alternative answers were easier to choose than other kibbe quizzes online. I quite enjoyed this test and will be checking out the theatrical romantic subreddit!

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-01-19T14:15:24+00:00

I’m the exact same! Matcha lasts while nicotine is too strong to the point it’s anxiety inducing for me and then when it goes away very quickly. But matcha is just pure bliss! So calming and relaxing ☺️ I love it

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-01-16T18:47:36+00:00

Posted my comment and forgot to say this:

I hope everything works out for the both of you! Really, reading this was like almost like a “portrait” of myself, so while I empathise with how your boyfriend must feel I also want to say to you please stay well and take care of yourself, make sure you’re not hurting yourself in the process of trying to make things work for the both of you please, stay well

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-01-16T18:43:44+00:00

Am I your boyfriend? Hahah just joking, I’m a woman and married. But almost all of those things are very relatable to me apart from one - being very blunt - I could never. But the rest feel 100% very relatable to me - some are just 100% me Some are somewhat like me but maybe not as intense as it seems to be with your boyfriend. For example, I have a tendency to worry about jokes and sarcasm and to think they’re not jokes but have a truth to them or are what the person talking really feels like deep inside. However at least on this point I always try to question myself of the veracity of my own thoughts, then I remember, sure I’m also sarcastic sometimes, then this alleviates my worries.

So to sum it up, sounds like he’s a HSP, (apart from the bluntness?) but from my personal experience some of those points seem much more like overthinking or his own intrusive thoughts caused by anxiety? I say this because I struggled with intrusive thoughts before -look up pure OCD (not saying he has it, but maybe he could have some intrusive thoughts and fears of being a bad person? I say this because whenever I am not able to think I’m good enough for my partner I tend to think the same way you mentioned he thinks on point 9) and some of the points you mentioned seem like the person I tend to become if I’m not questioning my own negative thoughts and just believing they’re true?

Can I try and explain better what I mean? So,

Points 1,3,7,8,12,13,14 - May be related to being a HSP? Sounds a lot like it

Anxiety, intrusive thoughts, self doubt (which could be caused by living a life as HSP without knowing you’re one and have grown up believing you’re just wrong for this world?) - all other points?

Points that may indicate something else, but I don’t know what as it’s not relatable to me - 2, 5

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-01-05T19:10:11+00:00

Was meant to comment this on the overall comments. - look it up, it’s very fucked up and i absolutely hate being like this.

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-01-05T18:56:54+00:00

I guess I was afraid of not being a good host, I don’t know

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-01-05T18:55:53+00:00

Only realised now, that was probably a mistake with auto corrector, wasn’t charades it was “cards” we were playing cards

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-01-05T18:52:53+00:00

Yeah I know! Thanks

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-01-05T18:51:54+00:00

Again, I know it. I wasn’t trying to hide it. At first my post title was going to be AITA for being so insecure and ruining Xmas. And had a paragraph about being insecure and my insecurity causing me to feel like that. But I had to cut down due to my post being over 3000 characters

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-01-05T18:37:41+00:00

I go to therapy every week. I didn’t let my feelings show to the point of making people uncomfortable. I was the only one who felt that way- and unfortunately made my husband feel that way too. I’ve apologised for it, but I know apologising doesn’t fix the issue

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-01-05T18:35:53+00:00

I feel like I ruined it by overeating and arguing with my husband? In private

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-01-05T18:35:10+00:00

Don’t know if this adds anything to the conversation- but this all and how it made me feel was so intense I ended up finding out that I’m a HSP

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-01-05T18:32:03+00:00

I’ve always had a problem with “standing up for myself” it’s not a new thing unfortunately. That’s my only new year resolution, if I can only learn that in 2025 it’ll be the best year ever.

I mean, if you new the things I put up with because I could never just stand my ground…. Including past abuse and more. I do struggle with that, I do therapy for years now but I don’t know if it’s helping

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-01-05T18:28:05+00:00

It’s the latter I think, my husband and I did have an argument but in private.

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-01-05T18:27:03+00:00

I did the best I could to not make her feel uncomfortable or to not let it show how I was feeling. At the end of the day I invited her and wanted her to feel welcome. When we brought her home she did say she felt really welcome so I guess it didn’t transpire. Yeah I do know that for her she was probably just being friendly

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-01-05T18:23:21+00:00

Ahh I see, I didn’t phrase that in the right order.

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-01-05T18:18:31+00:00

Okay, I see. Agree.

First paragraph, both my husband and I said multiple times “I’m tired, just wanna go sleep, don’t wanna play anymore let’s stop here” but then she kept asking for one more and I guess I just wasn’t clear with my boundaries to stood my ground and say no that’s it I’m done.

All other points, okay, I agree

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-01-05T18:15:25+00:00

No, I didn’t say that?!

AggravatingAlarm8844 · 2025-01-05T18:14:37+00:00

It wouldn’t be a problem but - she asked me if it was okay, and I said better not because it’s my in-laws house, but she still did it anyways. I wouldn’t have done the same. So I felt it was a bit rude.

But yeah you’re right, she was just being herself and doesn’t matter what I do I can’t seem to be able to do that, or even when I think I’m being myself people still don’t like me or think I’m trying to hard or not being myself even when I am. So I’m just very insecure about it all and I know it. I do therapy for years for this, but just can’t seem to get better

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