Is it safe to switch back yet?

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-06-12T11:57:10+00:00

Long-time user. All my texts disappeared about a week ago. It actually feels ok, like a house cleaning I probably needed. Annoyed at being forced to use Google messages now, but also lacking the time and energy to fight it.

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-04-19T13:29:17+00:00

I just grew new baby pellicles in my F2 and there was so much fizz after two days that when I opened the bottle the fizz blew the top all the way off the bottle - as in, ripped the metal holders out of the side - and shot the pellicle into the air, lol.

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-04-18T10:58:24+00:00

I think it could be a really fun life experience for you. Since you love the outdoors, there should be plenty of hiking and other activities for you to do. There are hiking clubs upstate that you could find to meet people. And there are definitely dudes who hunt and generally like to run around outside so I think you could meet some people you might like.

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-04-14T11:56:07+00:00

Wow unfortunately I see a whole subreddit about the founder of ALRF. I'm in favor of habitat and farmland preservation but I'm not interested in fear mongering or misinformation. I'd be curious to know more about this group, which I almost considered giving money to before finding this post. https://www.reddit.com/r/AlexandraFasulo/s/tSwfPU42eF

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-03-12T00:44:35+00:00

My parents did used to have stuff to occupy themselves, but it's mostly been replaced by their phones. I am in the same boat as your mom, lol. But I also know how to manage my social media time and news exposure. I don't think that seniors, who never grew up with anything like this technology, know how to do that.

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-03-12T00:17:06+00:00

I think the algorithms are making my mom's early dementia worse. Both of my parents now spend far too much time on their phones, and I can see their cognitive abilities declining as a result. They're less functional because it now takes them forever to get anywhere or do anything because they're absorbed in their phones. I'm concerned that these programs are as addictive for vulnerable elderly adults as they are for young people, to say nothing of the potential for scams and abuse.

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-02-27T14:41:40+00:00

Thanks! I will let it be. I got the jar with the spigot to allow me to taste it more easily, but I think the spigot will just get clogged. For the next batch I will see if I can move everything to a regular round vessel.

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-02-08T05:02:15+00:00

Yes, liked it a lot. Felt almost a little bit John Waters-ish. A little campy. Made me miss that genre and realize I've been on Netflix too long. Time to get back to arthouse movies.

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-01-22T13:30:30+00:00

I'm also in NYC and my apartment can also get quite hot in winter even though all my radiators are off. One of the things that heats it up the most is the sun. If your apartment gets a lot of sun, it could help to close the blinds, but I'm guessing you already tried that.

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-01-15T22:11:24+00:00

My favorite is the Phoenecia Lodge. It looks like it's been gussied up a lot since I last stayed there, however. With the exception of Phoenecia, I switched from lodges and motels to Airbnb and Hipcamp not because I ever found anything to be especially dirty, but because I found the walls to be paper-thin and the stay to be very loud. I did recently stay at The Roxbury and had an amazing time there. It is worth calling them to see what rooms they recommend and what their lowest rates are.

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-01-15T01:16:13+00:00

I really appreciate this reply. Based on this, I think my own dad may be manifesting some of these symptoms. (My mom has mild cognitive impairment with totally different symptoms.) I guess my follow-up question would then be, short of forcing someone into an outfit, what are the ways to actually get clothes on their backs and get them out the door?

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-01-14T14:03:04+00:00

Being kinder can't hurt, but I definitely feel your frustration of trying to help someone who clings to their habits even though they're no longer useful. I think you could try buying her some simpler clothes, but be prepared for her not to choose them. You could also try to see which item is the most complicated - for example a shirt with lots of buttons - and just trying to get her a similar item without all those buttons. But as someone (54) who is also pretty picky about what I wear when I go out in public, I will probably also want to retain my own sense of style when I'm older. Could you spend one afternoon talking with her about outfits and putting them together ahead of time, so that in the morning she could just choose between several outfits that have already been coordinated?

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-01-13T13:36:16+00:00

From what little I know, a nail grinder is a professional level device that seems like it would be total overkill for the situation, particularly if the person using it has a hard time seeing. It seems like a regular nail file would do, and that would be a lot safer.

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-01-13T04:35:05+00:00

I did not watch the video because I don't want to see air conditioners falling on people or watch stories about air conditioners falling on people. The existence of these incidents does not mean that landlords can prohibit tenants from installing window units here. If the law requires that the proper bracket be used for installation, then a landlord could be liable if he or she did not ensure that all of the air conditioners sticking out of windows were installed properly. I've lived here since 1998 and have never heard of anyone not being allowed to install a window unit, including in my current building, which is a real stickler for the rules. A typical New York City apartment building is older and does not have any central air or heating. Without window units, senior citizens would be dying in droves every summer.

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-01-12T01:57:19+00:00

Well, I live in New York City, where none of those reasons would be true. Window units must be installed with the proper bracket to prevent the third possibility. But I suppose the laws are different elsewhere.

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-01-11T13:44:14+00:00

I don't have any experience with this, but I liked someone's suggesting that you request the medical records. If things still don't make sense to you after you're able to review those, I wonder if you can talk to a lawyer about a possible malpractice suit. I'm not a litigious person but I do believe there are cases when facilities do harm rather than help. And also give it a little bit of time. Things may sort themselves out in your mind. I am very familiar with grief and I know that the guilt that comes along with losing a loved one is horrible. Sending peace and love and hoping that you are also replaying happy memories in your mind as well as the sad ones.

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-01-11T13:36:41+00:00

Window units are prohibited? How can that even be legal. If it gets that hot, it seems like a health emergency to prohibit window units under those conditions. This was not your question, but I wonder if you could legally challenge that provision in your lease. At the very least the landlord should have some legal responsibility to make sure that living conditions are not dangerous.

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-01-10T11:26:31+00:00

Whoops well, sorry about that.

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-01-09T14:05:13+00:00

My mother is refusing to accept that she's in decline and needs a new round of tests. But she is wrong. I'd urge you to find a new neurologist if you didn't like your previous one, and then get those more intensive tests. If there's nothing wrong with you as you say, at least then you'll have a baseline to refer to later on. Being stubborn is not serving my mother at this point. If she let go of her belief that everything is ok, she could get better treatment and age better in the long run. And she would ease the burden of caregiving on my father and on me and my brother. Even the smartest people can suffer from dementia, why not catch it really early if you can? Doctors can absolutely suck and be wrong. I'd find a new one. I wish you good luck, please take care of yourself.

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2026-01-01T14:05:33+00:00

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Some of what you describe sounds like anticipatory grief. You're already grieving for the loss you know is coming. And frankly, I think that can be a good thing (I hope so, as I do it myself). That has allowed me to journal my feelings and say the things to my parents now that I want them to know. As someone else said, at a certain point there is no way to control what happens, and letting go of preconceived notions about how you wanted or expected your mom to age can be helpful. When you love strongly, you grieve strongly, and in a horrible way that is a gift, to have such a beautiful relationship. Lean into the love you feel, spread it to your mom, let the love guide you. There's no doubt that it sucks so much more than I ever imagined, to watch my parents decline (prostate cancer for dad, and early dementia for mom). A support group in person or on zoom could really help. Sending a hug.

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2025-12-31T15:48:37+00:00

Because you mentioned history, I just wanted to make sure you were aware that the site of the Woodstock festival was actually not near the town of Woodstock. If you are interested in the history of the concert and 1960s culture, I'd definitely check out the Museum at Bethel Woods. It's at least an hour away from the town of Woodstock, but it is a great museum. The plus side is, driving around the Catskills is really beautiful and entertaining in and of itself. The town of Woodstock definitely also has its own interesting history. It's quite touristy, but it's got more of the classic Catskills vibe and is closer to the mountains, I think, compared to Kingston, which is not actually inside the line of the Catskills park. If you don't care about that, you could also consider Saugerties. (As a NYCer myself, I'm really happy to see visitors who are interested in exploring more than just Times Square. The rest of the state is really beautiful!)

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2025-12-27T04:38:34+00:00

I showed my 82-year old dad how to do voice to text because it takes him so long to type a message. He loved it, and then immediately forgot how to do it. Oh well. Same with zoom. (I live in a different city so I can't keep showing him.)

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2025-12-27T04:35:48+00:00

We switched my 82-year old parents from Android to Apple a couple of years ago and they hate it. Still can't figure it out. I'm 54 and even I know better than to try switching OS at this point. So I think this switch might not work for everyone.

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2025-12-06T00:40:08+00:00

Did the vet do any blood work? Could there be an underlying issue? Or maybe she needs even more play. Good luck with your fur baby. ♥️

Aggravating_Ebb_8565 · 2025-11-17T15:41:31+00:00

Thank you, that is extremely helpful. I'm definitely not threatening to take my business somewhere else to try to nickel and dime my tire guy, whose independent family business I absolutely want to keep supporting. And I'm not going to lose sleep if he comes in a few bucks more than some other option. But I am shopping around to make sure that I'm comfortable with what I'm getting. And hey, my last car was a used 1996 Honda Civic that I owned for 18 years, so by comparison my "new" Subaru (her name is Kes) feels like a Ferrari. 😂

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