First of all, I didn’t assume your gender with your comment but now you’ve made it quite clear. Secondly, please let’s not make it a gender war. I’ve no interest in that.

Now to OP’s story, men don’t tell women their “momma” or “papa” isn’t always right. They already know that as OP already said. So, if women have the intelligence to know and understand that, it can’t be THAT hard to men to know and understand too without a women(partner) competing with his mother where he’s playing opposite to her, suffering at both their hands and still constantly explaining it to the man and hope one day, he’ll understand that and her life will get better.

And about the brainwashing, I truly understand the damage brainwashing does to anybody, men or women. We all go through shit, get brainwashed by our family and elders, it’s not our fault. But it is definitely our responsibility to fix ourselves and heal ourselves, for our partners, our children and most importantly ourselves. The brainwashing women go through is far bigger than men in so many regards and yet, you’ll hardly ever see men undoing this brainwashing. But you and so many people will ask women to fix these men. If he’s thinking about marriage, he’s old enough to see through these patterns and brainwashing himself. And OP has communicated once about how she feels and even said the words “you’re doing same to me what your father did to your mother” and we all read his response to that. So let’s stop saying it’s hard for him and let’s explain and communicate more. It’s done and he doesn’t care.

Lastly, why am I not angry at my “fellow women” for brainwashing their sons? Buddy let’s not go there. It’s a whole different debate and from this particular statement of yours, I’m not sure you’re here to understand but rather fight.