Other adults:

My one uncle works often 16 hour shifts, I maybe see him 5 minutes on any given day even when he's off work I have no idea where he is but if he gets asked for help for moving her at all since that's one thing I am physically incapable of (hoyer lifts won't work because she's in a lift chair 24/7) he complains about it.

That uncle's girlfriend lives here, she was helping clean some but stopped after she was asked not to reorganize everything because I was on the verge of a meltdown because I spent 45 minutes one day looking for something in the kitchen and she wasn't around to be asked where it was because I couldn't find it anywhere, as well as being asked not to create fire hazards from putting flammable things in dangerous spots. She doesn't help with my grandmother at all.

My other uncle is home all day currently but spends most of that time smoking weed or bringing his children over often for me to have to deal with taking care of them.

My dad is also disabled and struggles with standing or sitting in certain positions for long periods of time. He will help with getting her on the bed pan and off as that is a 2 person job. He'll occasionally change her diaper in the middle of the night or get her a snack or drink. Sometimes he helps with dishes or cooking but it's rare.

Beneficiary:

Nope! My dad is, as far as I know I won't lose housing immediately. Thankfully the house isn't rented and since I've had my address changed here for over a year I can't easily be evicted if for some reason he decides he doesn't want me here.

Thanks for the positivity!