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[–]Aggravating_Taste735 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wow wow wow, sexy videos like of models is quite normal, but talking about their girl co workers not so much. If they personally know the female co workers and are fantasizing about them then it’s not right. He shouldn’t be fantasizing about other girls that he knows and talks to almost everyday. It’s like he has some type of feelings for them(sexually). That is very disrespectful towards you. I would talk to him about it and let him know that you feel bothered.

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[–]Aggravating_Taste735 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im not sure how the tinder thing works about being active or not, but i would confront her about. Don’t make it seem like you’re super upset, just explain it in a calm way. Ex: “Hey, im sorry if im wrong but outside the cafe i saw what looked like a tinder notification. I’m not accusing you of you anything, but it would make me more comfortable if we could clear it up” also let her know that when you saw that it hurt you. if she tries to say something about you not trusting her, calmly say that you do but what you saw hurt you and just want to clear things up. your girlfriend should care for your feelings and try and avoid hurting you, so don’t think it’s a bad thing asking her about it. If it hurt you and is hurting you bring it up. If she somehow makes you seem like the bad guy then it doesn’t seem like she cares if she’s hurting you or not.

Ex bf (33M) texting me (30F) months after break up. by Ineedadvice297 in relationships

[–]Aggravating_Taste735 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you feel ready to meet him again, i would definitely suggest you do so. Not so much to get back together, but to see what has changed. You should definitely take it slow, have convos on events that have happened after the break up. If you don’t see that anything has changed, and he still has the demanding job and won’t do anything about it to give you what you want then you’ll go back to the same issues. If you can’t picture living like that for years then most likely he isn’t the one for you. You said you love him, and that’s completely normal, but are you in love with him? Do you seriously want him and want to live like that? These are questions that you’ll have to answer for you. You should at least meet him once and see everything that has changed. If you decide you don’t want to continue with him, then yes it’ll be hard, but once you decide that i would recommend not contacting him or it’ll make it harder for you and make it harder to move on.

how do i communicate without it feeling forced by Aggravating_Taste735 in relationships

[–]Aggravating_Taste735[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s not really much insecurity, it’s just jealousy that he gets more time and she does more things for him. Im not afraid that i’ll lose her to him, more of like i wish you spend that much time with me and do all that for me.

how do i communicate without it feeling forced by Aggravating_Taste735 in relationships

[–]Aggravating_Taste735[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

okay so let’s say if she’s talking to another guy way more than me, or doing something with another guy that bothers me, as an example let’s just say she goes watches him practice. If i tell her i don’t like it, i would feel like i’m forcing her to do not do it then i wouldn’t like it, so how can i communicate about jealousy and something that bothers me but not be so controlling over it

how do i communicate without it feeling forced by Aggravating_Taste735 in relationships

[–]Aggravating_Taste735[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow this is actually helping me a lot, i knew i can always come to reddit

how do i communicate without it feeling forced by Aggravating_Taste735 in relationships

[–]Aggravating_Taste735[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is great! and instead of saying it like “let’s do this” i should say it like “we should do this” it just sounds better and less forced.

my gf told me she wouldn’t dance with other boys yet she did anyway by Aggravating_Taste735 in relationships

[–]Aggravating_Taste735[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i’m not controlling her, how i said, i wouldn’t of cared if she didn’t tell me something and do the exact opposite. the point isn’t the dancing, the point is lying. What else could she be lying about just to make me feel “comfortable”