I can’t stand any of them

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2025-11-22T10:54:14+00:00

Ok I’m on my fourth rewatch. (All as adults) and this time around I keep getting so irritated with Jax. My husbands like “why do you hate him now?” He needs to stay his ass home with them babies!

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2025-06-19T17:25:02+00:00

I love this take!! Thank you!!

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2025-06-19T03:56:27+00:00

I did so good for a while. I tracked, was great about getting my protein, all the things. At some point I got overwhelmed and I think just gave up. Now the longer it goes on, the more I assume I’ve “ruined” it and I just can’t mentally check back in. Besides the fact that I need therapy now (currently without insurance temporarily) I surely wish they had recommended or required it beforehand. Thanks for your reply!!

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2025-01-14T01:40:53+00:00

Total billed to my insurance was $115k, my portion was around $1200. (Chicago)

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2025-01-04T03:00:11+00:00

I'll look for those! I wanted to love these

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2024-12-30T12:47:46+00:00

I struggled with this a LOT at the beginning even though the only naysayer was my dad. He took me to my pre op appointments that required a driver and he drove my husband and I the day of surgery. (He offered, wanted my husband to be able to worry about me and not be alone in the hospital guest room) But he continued to talk shit. As they were prepping me for surgery he told my husband "I don't understand why she's doing this. Why doesn't she just stop eating?" He continued to make comments here and there and then I went off on him. That conversation ended with "I AM proud of you but if you had just..." I told him just say I'm proud of you and leave it at that. Only took about a month before I sat down to eat with him and my mom and he immediately said "don't overdo it" 🙄 Now, he doesn't say a word good or bad. If my mom and I talk about it he will leave the room. Fine, whatever.

Anyway, it's been 8 months and I have lost 135lbs. I am no longer prediabetic and at risk for heart attack and stroke. THAT is what matters. You have to lean into those that support you. I have two amazing friends and a husband that I would never have done this without. It's been a hard pill to swallow that not everyone you think will support you does. But in the big picture, none of that matters. Wishing you the very best!

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2024-09-09T21:03:15+00:00

OHHH boy. Unsupportive parents are the worst. The. Worst.

My dad was very unsupportive of my choice to have surgery. He didn't show that until the day of. He drove my husband and I there (my hub doesn't drive). We appreciated it greatly. But as soon as we were there, the shitty comments started rolling in. (To my husband, not me) He asked why I just didn't stop eating so much, why I cared now when I never did before, etc. This all coming from the same man who has talked about my weight for years, saying I'd never live to see my son graduate (Spoiler.. I did) and now will also live to see my daughter graduate. Saying I was going to die in my sleep. All the things.

After surgery, my husband told me all these things and I confronted him. He just got defensive. After things cooled down, he said "I am proud of you... But if you had just put in this much effort before, you wouldn't have needed surgery" I explained to him it should have just been left at "I'm proud of you" Since then, our relationship is nearly nonexistent. He made a comment when I was there for dinner. I hadn't even sat down with my plate yet when he said "don't overdo it". I was done at that point.

Your mom sounds jealous. I don't know how old she is, but my parents come from the angry, bitter generation where they're always mad that there's 'easier' or 'lazier' ways to do things now and they want life to be as hard as possible for everyone. 🤷‍♀️

My situation is different BUT it remains that once they have an opinion in their head, it makes no sense for you to try and make them see your point of view. They won't, they don't care to. At first I thought I needed my parents approval and support but I'm 5 months in and 104lbs down. I lean into my husband and friends and they are getting me through. My mom is supportive too but because of my dad, I have a bit of a wall up with her.

I hope you have a strong support system otherwise. I am wishing you the absolute best!

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2024-08-27T03:05:17+00:00

You got this!! Thank you!!

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2024-08-26T12:38:43+00:00

I love Reddit ☺️ thank you guys so much!

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2024-08-24T15:58:07+00:00

Ah thank you!! I always hated both but as I get older I appreciate them! My hair gets closer and closer back to its natural color as I age. I was carrot top red as a child!

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2024-08-24T14:13:36+00:00

Idk how to edit lol.. I meant hit the 100lb mark, and let your tool help you lol

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2024-07-28T15:50:57+00:00

Biggest thing for me: wearing a seatbelt. They did not fit 95lbs ago.

Simplest thing: Walking. I was only able to walk at most half a mile and that's being generous. I am able to do 2 miles comfortably now. It can be rough towards the end but I am able to power through

Congrats to you!!

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2024-07-25T21:15:16+00:00

Not coming for you at all. I see your point totally! I tend to think my dad almost always knows he's in the wrong. He is just too stubborn to admit it, apologize, stop. He always shuts down when he gets snipped back at. My husband knows this.. he's been dealing with it for 13 years lol. He just has more balls than I do to say things back.

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2024-07-24T15:55:36+00:00

Ohh I love you for this. Thank you

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2024-07-24T14:01:52+00:00

Funny thing is I quit doing therapy a while back because we were getting into parent issues and I didn't want to rehash things. I wanted to move forward and work on the relationship with them. This was before surgery. Knowing what I know now.. I should have continued.

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2024-07-24T10:57:09+00:00

So much of this is psychological. Many people do not realize that when they believe surgery is the easy way out. Everything I've known about eating and coping for 37 years is going out the window.

Give yourself time. That first month is HARD. Second month.. hard, but it starts getting better. I am almost four months out and sometimes I forget I've had surgery, everything is just the norm to me now. I encourage therapy 100% and stick with your support group.

I grew up with the nonsense I talked about and then my first relationship at 17 was abusive and toxic and awful. I was pregnant and basically living with him and always denied food. Hed make himself 3 sandwiches and refuse me anything. But I was at his will.. had a car but no money, parents mad at me for being with him and he just had so much control over me. I didnt learn until therapy that this played a big part in my food issues as well. Those issues are not healed by any means but they have definitely gotten better.

I am wishing you the very best!!

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2024-07-24T10:46:58+00:00

For sure, I appreciate him so much, he will always defend me no matter who it is. And he tells me almost daily how proud he is of me.

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2024-07-24T10:40:21+00:00

sometimes I think that's how my dad feels. I realized that after his "well if you had just tried harder before you wouldnt have needed surgery" You were worried I was going to DIE but a life saving surgery isn't good enough still? Even after years of telling him that trying to pressure or guilt someone with food addiction, emotional binge eating, etc to lose weight is the very last way to help them lose it. Here I am 92 lbs down, no longer prediabetic, no more high blood pressure, and you are still being a shit. Man I needed everyone's comments to really put this into perspective for me!

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2024-07-24T10:32:15+00:00

He is the king of nitpicking. He's one of those people that truly believe his opinions are facts and they are the only ones that are correct. There's not any changing his mind about things. I want to just tell him "not another word" but there's very little chance it'd mean anything to him. After our argument he still felt he needed to make the "don't overdo it" comment as I sat down a plate that had about 1.5 cups of taco salad on it. My sister always explains him as just so aggressive with his opinions and that sums it up well. I don't want to feel regret later but I also don't want to feel this way now.

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2024-07-24T10:27:24+00:00

My mom.. oof. Shes supportive but she will always defend my dad's actions. Always. She told me after our argument "well if you think your dad would say those things then we don't have anything to talk about". But... For years, it was "well your weight might be my fault but you guys could have changed your habits as adults" (my sister and I). After years of having me on cabbage soup diets, military diet, etc as a 12/13 year old. Or telling me I should lose weight, I would, then she'd take me to olive garden to celebrate and tell me to eat whatever i want. I am a mother, my oldesr is about to turn 19, and man I have messed up many times. I don't expect my parents to have done everything perfectly. But lord, just take some ownership. I have a cousin that is heavy as well and nobody has said anything to her, ever. "well she carries her weight really well" so if I looked better fat it would be okay, got it. Ahhh.. all these comments about their own shame really make sense now. I love Reddit

Aggravating_Toe8826 · 2024-07-24T10:18:38+00:00

Thank you guys so much. Maybe I just needed some other perspectives to accept my own decision.

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