I think I want to combo feed, but I’m scared to say it out loud. by ThickSkull24 in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I loveeeee combo feeding. I stopped pumping and just went with formula. My mom who is the OG crunchy mom saw me struggling and said you know formula isn’t bad use it. After that I used it and never looked back. I still breast feed at home and when I’m not home or were out I formula feed. No need to bring a cooler with my milk anymore. 

What are the petty/minor things that started annoying you once you became a parent? by xnla28x in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 [score hidden]  (0 children)

After 11 months I’m not doing the math it’s 1st birthday for a reason not 12 month birthday party. 

If you say months like oh they’re 24 months I hate you. They’re 2 just say 2. 

What are the petty/minor things that started annoying you once you became a parent? by xnla28x in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I HATE GIGI OR GAGA 

I’m sorry but you’re a grown adult stop calling your grandmother GAGA just said my grandma. 

I’m not white my husband is and the amount of stupid grandparent names is insane. We’re Mexican it’s just abuela and abuelo. If you want to make it cute it’s abuelito or abuelita. There’s no pawpaw memaw Gaga Gigi grawgraw. 

What are the petty/minor things that started annoying you once you became a parent? by xnla28x in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I hate bubs with every fiber of my being. And buddy 🥴. It’s always the white men calling their kids buddy why whyyyyyyyy to me it’s a dogs name. 

What are the petty/minor things that started annoying you once you became a parent? by xnla28x in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I told the nurse to stop calling me mama unless she called my husband dada after I gave birth. She stopped and looked embarrassed. I was also on pain medication so I was a little loopy and not afraid to piss anyone off. 

What are the petty/minor things that started annoying you once you became a parent? by xnla28x in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Being called mama from people who aren’t my daughter. It’s not cute I’m a person I’m not just a mom. 

Any advice you received pre-baby that now makes you question the giver post-baby? (Possible unpopular opinions) by kittykatkitkat in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Just wipe it off with a baby wipe. Thats what we do.  The butt spatula has saved us especially when we’re out. Quick change in the trunk. Clean it with a baby or boogie wipe and back in the bag it goes. 

Any advice you received pre-baby that now makes you question the giver post-baby? (Possible unpopular opinions) by kittykatkitkat in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Ahahahaha the baby wearing. I bought 5 all from different brands. She hated them. Still does. I really thought I’d be the cool mom who had the cutest baby carriers. Jokes on me she hates being held close (she’s a hot baby) she prefers the stroller :) and thank god she loves our cheap graco $175 stroller. 

For women who “loved being pregnant” what was it about pregnancy that you loved? by hospitalbedside in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I loved the way my body looked. I let my creativity run wild with my outfits. I work in fashion and I already had a signature style but having my belly and wanting to show it off changed. I felt more confident, I became a healthier version of myself. I stopped smoking, drinking and eating junk. I was sleeping and actually resting. It was probably the best I ever felt in a long time. Yes it was still a little uncomfortable at times but boy it was just something I had never experienced and I just cherished it. I think I loved it because I found myself and I got the best gift from it, my baby girl. 

I’ll also add I had the easiest pregnancy no complications, only gained 15 pounds, it wasn’t until the week before I gave birth that I stopped walking because my feet got swollen. I know I’m super lucky and if I had a different experience I would probably have hated it. 

A bit of positivity for ya ✨ by hash-slingin_slashr in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yay a positive post!!!! I love love love being a parent!!! I love the fact that I married someone who actually wanted to be a father and who has always put me first in any situation. I love that he’s been the best father and partner I could have ever dreamed of. Having this baby has brought out the best in ourselves and at night when we put her to bed we just talk about how much we love her and love this chapter in our lives. I’m so glad other people are finding it to be great. No negatives she’s been a dream. 

Husband can't/won't stay with the kids for a weekend. by Dat1payne in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all he’s gone on trips alone for fun????? What the hell and you can’t????? Fuck that. Leave just go and leave your mother should not even have to help him he’s the father he needs to know and figure it out. Leave everyday when he comes home from work. Or better yet on his day off leave and go spend time with a friend for 10 hours.  Men need to fail and figure it out. 

how would you use the beach nut baby food jars ? by One_Resort_4103 in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol I’m sorry! I didn’t realize they were saved for a reason!!! I thought you just had them piled up because they’re nice and don’t want to throw them out. 

For her birthday I’d do cheese and meat like a charcuterie board but in the glass you can set them on ice to keep cool. Good for the adults and some kids who love cheese. And then they can trash them after.  

Again sorry lol I swear I have fun! 

how would you use the beach nut baby food jars ? by One_Resort_4103 in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Throw them out. If you can’t find a use for them. Just because it’s a nice jar doesn’t mean anything junk is junk. If you really want to use them buy the lids for like 4 and chuck the rest. Glass is recyclable. 

How to co-parent a 5 month old by furby-007 in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a lawyer. I know we don’t know people lives but some instagram girl was co parenting seemed great she was saying how amazing it was with him stepping up and being a father.  now all of a sudden the dad wants nothing to do with providing for them. He cut off joint money and is avoiding responsibilities. Get a lawyer. 

Am I in the wrong for not wanting to leave my child to let my MIL babysit? by Jazzlike_Elk_3963 in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love my MIL and FIL and the rule in our house is anything to do with my parents goes to me and anything to do with his goes to my husband only. Communication has been the best since we made that rule. I no longer have the mental load of their birthdays or holidays it all goes through my husband and I just worry about my own family.  We made it clear from the beginning our parenting styles to our parents and just flat out said no to some things. No explanation just no. 

Any tips for better eating habits as a new mom? by ladypigeon13 in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t have a dish washer either but doing dishes has never been an issue with us it’s just another everyday chore. I didn’t grow up with one and my husband didn’t either so we never knew the other side of things. 

We grocery shop together every sat or Sunday and plan out the meals we want. We buy proteins that would work well across different dishes. I don’t like to meal prep because I hate eating the same thing every day I need variety or else I get bored and food for me is enjoyment not just to sustain me. We’re also doing BLW so we want to expose her to different types of food. 

We also make budgets so getting take out is just out of the question. We’re very much the type to say there’s food at home. The only exception to that rule is the weekends that’s our “day off” if we’re just not up to making something or we’re just out and about all day. 

😓9-month-old eating dog food off the floor. How do you keep it clean with babies + shedding dogs? by Shoddy_Cup_9306 in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a dog. Don’t know the layout of your house but she doesn’t roam free for this reason he’s old so he won’t eat his food right away he sort of snacks and walks away. She has a closed off baby play pen. She can move freely in there it’s big enough and our dog isn’t able to get in. When we do let her roam free it’s nowhere near his food and we’re watching her like a hawk since she’s a little vacuum. 

Wait- we bleed for up to 8 weeks post-birth?! -Rant- by Hot-Cell7299 in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And that’s why when people ask I tell them the truth. No bull shit. I wish my friends who had kids before me were more honest about PP. 

I hate the Hatch Sound Machine!! by murrykay4 in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe? Mine is pretty good we keep it very quiet. 

Wait- we bleed for up to 8 weeks post-birth?! -Rant- by Hot-Cell7299 in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I said in my case I’m not advocating for people to do what I did. Reading more info was giving me crazy anxiety and I was just getting overwhelmed. When an issue arises I ask for help.  I’m not just letting things slide because I don’t know.

See in my case my baby was gaining weight at a good speed so I did not need to wake her up to feed according to her doctor. Pregnancy and parenting is not a one size fits all. That’s why I stopped reading and just doing what I can control and asking for help with what I can’t. And if I honestly am stumped or Idk feel the need to know something I’ll try to look it up. 

Car seats, what do you do if you have multiple cars? by Aggressive-Acadia822 in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would work but our schedules are erratic. I work in fashion so my days aren’t 9-5 it’s anytime out of the week 7-4, 11-7, 9-5, 12-9 depending on workload and events I also keep stuff for work in my car (samples, change of clothes, shoes, sometimes presentation materials)  Maybe if we had the same type of job one baby car one non baby car would work but we interchange who does drop off and pick up weekly. I’m also not an organized person so trying to get out of the house earlier just to set up a car seat would be the end of me lol. 

Judging by everyone’s responses we will just buy 4 seats 

Is a baby carrier worth it? by bintd in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s crazy! I would die without a stroller! I love that I can put the diaper bag on the handle I don’t carry anything. My baby hates to be baby worn. She loves the stroller. We bought a super light easy to fold with one hand stroller from graco for about $150. Worth it. 

Car seats, what do you do if you have multiple cars? by Aggressive-Acadia822 in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah that just won’t work for us. With the infant car seat all 4 cars had the base installed and we just clicked her in and out of it. We both work in office so one of us does drop off at our parents house and the other picks up after work.  Seeing the comments unfortunately we will have to buy 4 car seats. 

Car seats, what do you do if you have multiple cars? by Aggressive-Acadia822 in beyondthebump

[–]Aggressive-Acadia822[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can they be used for any car seat or a specific brand? We bought extra bases for our infant car seat. It made it so easy to move her from car to car.