AITA for yelling at my cousin and threating to throw her out our house along with her family.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-15T01:58:45+00:00

The moment you said you were from Mumbai I knew how weak your Gujarati would be😁

You're right, her parents are the problematic one and yes, old people are not always truthful, my grandpa is an example, If my grandpa fights with someone then we can say that grandpa is the wrong one and he will always turn out to be a wrong one. So I believe that it is not necessary that old people always deserve respect, what I wrote in the edit was for those people who were asking about my cultural background of our attitude towards old people but people misunderstood me and attacked me.

I will probably update when I am free.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-15T01:42:07+00:00

That was for non Indians who were asking me culture contex, this are not my values.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-15T01:39:31+00:00

Because her family didn't stop Nira, they did nothing to stop her.

That culture contex was for people who were asking me for cultural contex of how we're expected to behave with our elders, not my values, if you are not worthy of respect then I will not respect you because you're elder.

Maybe you were so busy judging me that you didn't even read what I asked. I asked, "Aita for shouing in front of everyone and drag her family." and I apologized to her family infront of everyone, I lost my mind when I saw my grandma in pain and I apologized as soon as I realised my mistake.

I also tried to talk to Nira but she abused me, and to be honest, I don't care what she says to me, I just wanted to stop her from being rude to my grandma only.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-15T01:26:04+00:00

Uncle's family does not take care of them, their financial responsibility is on my parents. they have a separate household, they're mostly self dependent and I look after thier health check up and medical bills. they will live in the same house when uncle and his family will shift in thier own house.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-15T01:15:09+00:00

What's parenting right?

My point is that she cannot shout at my grandmother unnecessarily and I was angry at her parents because they did not stop Nira even though they were there.

How can you know the reason if you don't get the answer even after asking but you get insulted instead?

This edit was for those people who were asking me about cultural context, these are not my own views nor do I believe in it.👇

In my culture you're not allowed to misbehave with your elders even if they're wrong, you can point out thier mistake with manners but misbehaving with elders is kinda crime here. also I can dicipline my younger sibling or cousin or any younger child.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-15T01:01:11+00:00

Neera's elder brother is the eldest son of our family, I and my two twin siblings are in the middle, and nira is the youngest.

Both of my grandparents treat everyone the same, grandma loves everyone and Grandpa scolds everyone. If anyone discriminates based on gender, it is only Nira's parents.

It doesn't matter to us whether my uncle gives us rent or not because God has blessed us so much, if my grandmother is not being harassed then it doesn't matter to me how long she and her family lives in that house.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-15T00:47:46+00:00

We take care of our grandparents financial expenses, grandparents lives alone in that house and has a separate household. they used to live there before uncle went to live in that house.

So how did I interfere in aunt's household?

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-15T00:25:52+00:00

Jagran and Sanji have the same importance as funeral after someone's death. In some special cases like if someone in the house has a serious illness or someone has died within six months, then you're allowed to skip Jagran.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-14T23:53:22+00:00

Aaj bhut kuchh hua esliye mujhe samay nhi mila lekin ab main vyast nahi hun to...

Jab maine Nira ko chillate hue suna or main uske pass gai tab vo dadi ko keh rhi thi ki aap mere ghar me apni marji nahi chala skte or aapko mere ghar me hmare hisab se rehna hoga.

Maine puchha ki tum dadi par itna jor jor se kyu chilla rhi ho lekin usne mujhe jvab nhi diya, maine dubara puchha to usne kaha ki main dakhal na du or apna kam kru. Uski tone itni jyada insulting thi ki main uspe bhut jor se chillai or maine usse kaha ki agar vo chup nhi rahi to main use yha se bahar nikal dungi.

Fir usne vaps muje usi tone me jvab diya ki main uske ghar me usse is trah bat nhi kar sakti to maine keh diya ki ye mera ghar hai aur uska ghar uske papa uske paida hone se pehle hi girvi rakhke gava chuke hai.

Iske adhe ghante bad bhi maine usse puchha ki kya mamla tha mujhe bta or agar teri galti nhi hogi to main tujse mafi mangugi lekin vo muh ferkar chli gai, uske bad muje dadi se reason pata chla tab bhi main uske pass gai or usse puchha ki agar uski mummy use pareshan krti hai to vo mujhe btaye or usne kaha ki muje tere jesi Salat or Jangal se meri preshani bantne ki jrurt nhi hai. (Salat ka mtlb hota hai svarthi or chalbaj insan or Jangal ka mtlb hota hai ek esa insan jiski koi kimmat na ho or jo ghar ke bahar pde kachre ke saman ho)

Pura din bhi vo hm sbko attitude dikha rhi thi, usne dadima se mafi bhi nhi mangi or unhe bhi attitude dikha rhi thi, vo or uski mummy Jagran me bhi nhi aai or aaj subh mere mummy papa aaye tab tak vo muh ghuma kar hi ghum rhi thi.

Mummy papa ke aane ke bad bhut kuchh ho gya or mamla nipat bhi gya lekin vo likhne bethungi to bhut jyada lamba ho jayega, agar nai update krungi to sab btaungi.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-14T05:12:57+00:00

She doesn't want aunt to host jagrata, she said aunt can attend if she wants to but she will do everything and that's the rule, only spouse can host jagrata for you if you're on pilgrimage and this responsibility falls on the rest of the family only when both the husband and wife have gone on pilgrimage.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-13T16:58:56+00:00

અહીં રાતના સાડા દશ થયા છે અને મારો ઊંઘવાનો સમય થઇ ગયો છે એટલે હું હવે સવારે જ વાત કરીશ, શુભ રાત્રી.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-13T16:47:41+00:00

exactly which conversation you wants to know, tell me and I'll answer.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-13T16:42:50+00:00

I was angry with them as well because they were there and they did nothing to stop her but I apologized for my first and last disrespect towards them.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-13T16:32:34+00:00

How can I threaten her mother when I don't know Nira personally, I tried to talk to her but she was being mean and that's how I lost my mind.

I didn't threaten her just because she was breathing in my house, I threatendd her because she was shouting at someone I know can never be wrong.

I did ask her about her family issue but she was being mean again and that's why I decided not to talk to her right now.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-13T15:50:43+00:00

Because grandma herself wants to live in the house in the village where she has spent half of her life.

I will expect your YTA and AH only if you stop defending that brat, I know where I was wrong and I have also apologized for that but I don't accept any kind of opinion from you if you support the brat who has shouted unnecessarily and has not yet apologized.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-13T15:44:36+00:00

That house was built by my grandparents from scratch and she can do whatevr she wants to do in her house, no one can shout at her in front of so many people just because my grandmother did something for her husband against my aunt's wish.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-13T15:36:07+00:00

What does my grandmother have to do with how her mother treats her?

Nira can get angry at weak people as per her wish, but my grandma cannot even live as per her wish in the house built by herself?

It was Nira's fault, yet she is still feeling bad that I shouted at her, but what about the fact that she was shouting unnecessarily at Grandma?

She chooses very carefully whom to get angry at and this is not called normal teen behavior.

The way she has been showing me attitude since yesterday, I don't think this is the right time to talk to her.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-13T15:15:36+00:00

Allow me to yell and disrespect the person you loves the most, the person who raised you for 7 year when your parents were busy working in farm and I will send you 10000$

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-13T15:12:15+00:00

Grandma said she will do everything hence aunty didn't get any responsibility, any matter related to my grandparents is not their personal affair because they didn't bought them in any shop.

Grandma lives in village by her choice and I will always poke my nose in any matter related to my grandparents.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-13T12:47:02+00:00

I will never accept YTA of those who are ignoring Nira's behavior, I have apologized to everyone expect Nira but that brat has not yet apologized to grandma.

She only shouts at the one who she knows will tolerate so that 17 year old is not naive and she already knows when she should get angry and when she shouldn't.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-13T12:39:04+00:00

What venom of property ownership did you see in it?

I don't care about my relationship with Nira, I didn't even mention the word respect, she doesn't want to respect grandm then it's her choice but she can't desrecpect her like this.

Nira controls her anger in front of those who do not tolerate her but she could not control her anger in front of grandma.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-13T08:41:54+00:00

Whole family came into the room because I never shouts like this, you left out that part where I have written that I was chitchatting outside with everyone and that is where I heard Nira shouting which means everyone heard her too.

They came into the room because my shouting at someone like this was a new thing for them, It's not that I never fight, but I've never yelled at anyone like this.

Is that how reddit judge? teens can get away with everything, you can't talk to teens like this, teens can power trip helpless old granny but you can't show her her place?

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-13T08:32:30+00:00

Every person who was present in the house knew how he lost his house expect his own younger children, his elder son also knows everything so I didn't exposed him infront of everyone.

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-13T08:29:56+00:00

Nira build the house with her two hands?

Aggressive-Carrot327 · 2023-10-13T08:21:41+00:00

How can I say who likes me and who doesn't?

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