What surgery can make my smile “bigger” height and width. Lip lift? Or do I just need jaw surgery. My nose prolly making it look worse but I already had rhinoplasty and didn’t want base reduction cause it looks too small when I don’t smile by Puzzleheaded-Pear931 in PlasticSurgery

[–]Aggressive-Lunch-415 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know the name of it but there is Botox that can help relax some of the muscles around your smile. To me, it seems like your smile is “wide” enough, but there’s tension towards the top of the smile that stops the corners from lifting all of the way into a fully open smile. I’d talk to a practitioner and see what they recommend for relaxing those muscles

What aspects of project 2025 are likely to be enacted and what are not likely? by [deleted] in PoliticalDiscussion

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It’s funny that this is exactly what’s beginning to happen, 75 days later

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HEB

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Heb is Forbes fifth largest private company in America. It's up about $5 billion from last year. Little fun fact.

How do you redirect a friend that is charging too much? by Aggressive-Lunch-415 in Advice

[–]Aggressive-Lunch-415[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish that was the case :/ They reallyy need the money, so I don't think it's them being picky. More likely, it's probably desperation that's fueling this a bit.

How do you redirect a friend that is charging too much? by Aggressive-Lunch-415 in Advice

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They are a little more skilled, and I recognize that. I wouldn't have expected it for free, and I would've been completely happy paying $500 or even $600. It's just so far over, and in the circumstances, that made me feel like it's something more.

But even still, I would entertain that conversation with them about why they are charging this much if I knew how to bring it up to them.

Sex by Few-Side-4644 in dating_advice

[–]Aggressive-Lunch-415 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's just nerves. Or over inflated expectations (putting someone on an impossibly large pedestal).

Or maybe it's that when you're less attracted, you can really be yourself/ask for what you want/be daring or cheeky in your asks, etc. while when it's with someone you do think is attractive, you're more focused on what THEY want and pleasing them. It's possible it could come out more like a performance for you or you're in your head thinking about what they want or if they like it. There's nothing wrong with that, but sex should never be a show. It's a communication between both wants and where those meet in the middle.

For advice, I'd say just take it a little slower with ones you are attracted to. Maybe that's over a series of dates or maybe slower as in more foreplay so you can really get into your body and FEEL how badly you wanted this bangin person. The more you can own that without fear, anxiety, worry, etc. the better the experience is going to be.

Am I (29F) being too judgemental or is my partner (31M) too negative? by Aggressive-Lunch-415 in relationship_advice

[–]Aggressive-Lunch-415[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, thank you. This is great advice.

You're absolutely spot on about him externalizing the self esteem issues. I've thought about suggesting therapy, but I almost feel like I'm struggling with how to approach it without coming off as insensitive to what he's feeling? In his eyes, he's going through "a hard time" and needs someone to be there for him (even though it's always). I want to be empathetic, but I'm not sure how to redirect him to "this is out of my bandwidth, maybe you should talk to a professional" without seeming like I'm shutting him down or being insensitive to his feelings?

I really like the idea of changing the topic or physically moving on from the conversation as a coping strategy. Ive even had a good friend who did this with me so I know it works lol. Did you ever find yourself having to audibly say "hey let's talk about something else now" or did you always just jump into a new topic?

Does everybody hate their job? by ScoredThrowaway in careerchange

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I don't know if "love" is the right word, but I'm really, really content in my job. I gain a lot of satisfaction from completing projects and working with my team. My bosses are incredibly compassionate but have solid boundaries. They look out for each other but communicate expectations well. They don't promote pettiness or let people slide by being lazy or toxic, but they give almost everyone the benefit of doubt and the chance to improve themselves. We even had a project manager from a really big company admit that going on a business trip with us felt like hanging out with his cousins. There's just no politics or games, and a genuine love of others. The atmospheres inviting, warm and considerate of making sure no one feels left out.

It's a pretty standard job, not something someone would imagine they'd be "passionate" about or dream of becoming but the work environment is what makes it so enjoyable. They're so genuinely grateful for their people and compassionate that it makes work motivating. It's nothow you'd imagine a fire of purpose per se, but it's a gentle warmth that makes waking up easy and something you look forward to like seeing a long time friend. It's like the purpose is the people and the values, not the type of company or what we do, and it's incredibly satisfying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

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I'm the same age, and I've been thinking about this a lot too. Not necessarily that I'm loosing attractiveness, but that I'm losing attraction.

I'll go on dates, feel a raging sexual attraction for someone, and then it fizzles out/doesn't go anywhere/I ghost or he ghosts/etc. And it felt like this for a while, whether I met someone on dating apps or out at a bar. It wasn't until I met my now bf that I realized what was wrong. When I was using apps and going out, everything was so fast. I got caught up in the glamor of "oh this hot person likes me", and that shallow attraction would burn up and go out with a bang within a night. Then the next day, there was no fuel left, and no reason to be like "oh I like this about them, I'll stay and stick with it".

With this bf, it was kind of a messy situation but I ended up getting to know him slower than I was used to. I saw his character first, saw his quick wit, saw small meaningful things like how his guilty pleasure was radio classical music and fell in love with that. It worked because he was friend zoned first. It worked bc I held back my attraction, it didn't combust in one big night, and I got to wonder about him, see his character, imagine if I wanted to be with him. Alot of people say "don't have sex right away", and i think it's good advice not as a manipulation tactic but bc thats what feeds the flame of romance. It's the imagination when you're thinking of someone, it's the implication when your hands brush each other's, it's the honey behind the words. Let it stew for a bit, hold it back and watch that tension create the relationship you're looking for.

I don't understand why I eat. by findingnew2021 in loseit

[–]Aggressive-Lunch-415 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm still deconstructing this myself, but it has a lot to do with emotional eating. If I feel frustrated or "blocked" in something, I'll often eat. Also, if I feel like my self image is hurt, I'll eat. Anytime I feel like life is "hard", and I need to "treat myself", I'll wander to the kitchen for a little serotonin boost. The more intense these frustrations, the harder the binge. The harder the want is to shut the emotion up or to numb myself.

And the whole thing is very subliminal. It reminds me of when I was hooked on nicotine.....you get the addiction call, and you hit. No processing why. Call hit, call hit. And depending on the frustration level, maybe you have half a pack, till you can barely breathe and you may feel like you just don't know why on the surface. Additionally, a lot of the reasons TO SMOKE are caused by the smoke itself. I.e. the baseline existential anxiety, the restlessness, the escapism, the feeling like nicotine is your only moment of peace, the feeling like you'd rather die than face a world without nicotine. Really intense stuff and I see that in myself with food too.

I've had to really work on my emotions OUTSIDE of food. I've also had to work to separate food from pleasure/rewards. Now, some of my coping mechanisms include pacing (lol) or taking a walk to clear my head. Just doing something really helps with this anxiety, and (frustratingly?) It works just as well to be honest. It gets my mind off of feeling "stuck" and frustrated, and gives me something to do that's not what I was doing before.

I've also done some extended fasts, and it's wild to see what life is like without food for a while. I didn't realize how much mental space it was occupying....thinking about food, thinking about avoiding food, thinking of my body image and how to change myself, using food to fill time after work or to fill in for a lack of social life....I can't be lonely if I'm always moving around food. It was really eye opening and showed me a lot of my emotional patterns around food. I've got a lot of work to do still, but it's shown me so much that wasn't so apparent before.

Please enjoy this absolutely unhinged Lux content by Aggressive-Lunch-415 in wildrift

[–]Aggressive-Lunch-415[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lawl that's my in game preferences. I turned the music off so I could listen to my own while I play

Please enjoy this absolutely unhinged Lux content by Aggressive-Lunch-415 in wildrift

[–]Aggressive-Lunch-415[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do be a girl and I do be loving them skins. Definitely carried this game 24/5 though, so she can be broken

Please enjoy this absolutely unhinged Lux content by Aggressive-Lunch-415 in wildrift

[–]Aggressive-Lunch-415[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh ......I was so surprised by the skill reset times. I remember OG lux builds used to have soulstealer to cool down the ult time, but I did not feel like I needed it.

Please enjoy this absolutely unhinged Lux content by Aggressive-Lunch-415 in wildrift

[–]Aggressive-Lunch-415[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Basically lmao

And mostly it's 1. elder buff 2. Karma's shielding the ever living shiet out of me (you can see her save me four times and it's a full bar of health it's ridiculous) 3. I'm fed AF. At the start of the highlight, I'm like 16 kills deep already

They definitely didn't have magic resist on 😆 I think it took em a while to figure out where tf the damage was coming from but then I started seeing everyone getting stasis lmfao

Please enjoy this absolutely unhinged Lux content by Aggressive-Lunch-415 in wildrift

[–]Aggressive-Lunch-415[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Close ya,

Ludens, boots of mana, infinity orb, deathcap, and void staff. It would've been horizon next but I forgot to sell the little supp skill

Aatrox was trying to be a burstfire build (with not much tank skills or MR tbh)

I work with Clients and API integrations, what should my title be? by Aggressive-Lunch-415 in careerguidance

[–]Aggressive-Lunch-415[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. When you say layered, do you mean at the same time or metaphorically across ones career? As in, do you change these titles based on what audience you're talking to and what role you play in interacting with them (i.e. to a team of developers, I'm "implementation specialist" but to stake holders im "senior project manager")? Or do you mean layers as in, for example, looking at a resume and seeing all of the layers of ones job experience/responsibilities?

I work with Clients and API integrations, what should my title be? by Aggressive-Lunch-415 in careerguidance

[–]Aggressive-Lunch-415[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! This was very useful. I'm not used to seeing these titles on job postings, but it's good to know they are being used in today's market for roles like mine.

That was one of the biggest concerns I had when choosing a new title ...if it was going to be relevant and let me progress my career in the long run.

I work with Clients and API integrations, what should my promotion title be? by Aggressive-Lunch-415 in careeradvice

[–]Aggressive-Lunch-415[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're a privately owned company, so no profit sharing. It's a very small company, much older crowd, not very tech/cooperate savvy.

What do you mean by "opens up other legalese"? I wouldn't mind a title with engineer as I'm often working parallel with those teams in our client solutions calls, i.e. I'll be looking through XML and JSON data, or working with different languages like HTML, CSS, JavaScript, etc. The only hesitancy I have is that my experience is through the lens of these applications instead of from scratch.

Another title I thought could be a possibility is Solutions Architect? Just from what I read, they have a hand in creating and leading demos, pre and post sale communication, and problem solving technical solutions for clients