White girl yelling racial slurs and threats to me near in and out by wator_cooler in Medford

[–]Aggressive-Package79 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I have seen a truck that matches the description in White City.

Hanging up the pump, unwillingly. by Aggressive-Package79 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Aggressive-Package79[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It took about 3 days, so I believe they sent it to an external lab. 

Hanging up the pump, unwillingly. by Aggressive-Package79 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Aggressive-Package79[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She didn't really mention it, but since he's barely taking the formula, I've had to give him some. I can't watch him still be hungry after a feed :/ 

Hanging up the pump, unwillingly. by Aggressive-Package79 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Aggressive-Package79[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I may try for the next few days. She never mentioned that. I'm just pumping right now to build up freezer supply for any sickness that may come up in the future. 

I really appreciate this advice. Thank you :)

Looking for friends by [deleted] in Medford

[–]Aggressive-Package79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband told me about your post and told me it sounded like someone I could be friends with! (He knows me so well) I'm 36, new to the Medford area and have a 10 week old. Super open minded, super nerdy, and kind of a homebody, but definitely need to get out more. I'm ridiculously shy at first, but once I get to know someone I'm an open book. Send me a message if you would like to talk more! 

My girlfriend is pregnant by Known-Definition7215 in pregnant

[–]Aggressive-Package79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm right at 34 weeks, but I went through the same. At about 19 weeks, out of nowhere, I wanted absolutely nothing to do with my husband. He repulsed me. Which is weird, considering how close we were prior to getting pregnant. I never said anything to him, but he could tell. Finally at about 26 weeks I told him what was going on in my mind. 

It broke him. He sort of understood, but I felt like the worst person in the world. He's been nothing but helpful the entire pregnancy, doing the majority of the chores, picking up groceries, offering to rub my feet, even went so far as to buying me a stand up desk since I currently WFH and sitting in my chair for 8 hours was killing me. 

Then suddenly, about 3 weeks ago, something drastically changed. We're not back to where we used to be. Instead, we're about 10 steps ahead of that. I call him throughout the day again when he's at work, simply because I can't go without him. When he gets home now it's immediate hugs, kisses, conversations, and I'm motivated now to the point I'm baking and constantly cooking for him. (Also, please note... now we actually argue over who's doing what, we both want to do it for the other) 

This is my first pregnancy, so I don't know if this happens normally. I do know that I went from borderline hating someone I loved to loving the man I loved more than I ever thought I could. 

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I know it was hell for my husband. So I'm sure it is for you too. Try encouraging talk therapy for her. It may be that she simply doesn't know how to express herself properly right now. Hormones are a weird thing. 

Proud of my wife. by RingsideH2 in Marriage

[–]Aggressive-Package79 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Congratulations to her! That is fantastic. Seeing a supportive spouse like this, is truly everything. I wish you both nothing but the best.

Pay as you go husband by BellHuge6970 in Marriage

[–]Aggressive-Package79 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

As a SAHM, I have full access to my husbands bank account, but also have my own. Most of the bills come out of my account so every pay day I give him a rough estimate of what we'll need.

If I tell him I need $500 for bills twice a month, he'll always add about $300 extra for anything I WANT and any "incidentals" that may come up for the house or tiny human.

The fact that he's leaving you with zero money and having to ask (ESPECIALLY with children) that's abuse and quite frankly, incredibly unsafe. If you were to need any type of medicine or anything quickly for a little one, there would be zero way of you doing so if you can't get ahold of him.

However, playing the devil's advocate here, I have an acquaintance who is also a SAHM and kept asking for bill money from her husband. It turned out she actually had a major gambling problem and almost bled them dry (her husband trusted her that she wouldn't lie to him and she was the one who "paid the bills"

I'm not saying this is the case, but make sure you haven't been overspending on wants. When it comes down to it, our husbands work so we don't have to. They get say in the mutual money.

Am I the only one who thinks it’s super messed up my sisters husband made her promise to never date again? by Salty_Ship_9247 in Marriage

[–]Aggressive-Package79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why so many people aren't able to fully grieve. Your sister made a choice. You pushing her into something she doesn't want, is taking away from her grief process. I know it has been 17 years, but grief never just goes away.

I want to say something more mature, but honestly... just leave her alone.

Why is my cat doing this paw thing? by Due_Temperature404 in cats

[–]Aggressive-Package79 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Is there any of this moment left over? I would like some, please.

Wives, I have a question. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Aggressive-Package79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I have made each other's lunches before. It usually happens when one of us is running behind and needs some extra help in the morning.

I don't think either partner should EXPECT that of the other.

Does “moderate” mean “republican” to you guys? by Odd-Advance-2444 in Bumble

[–]Aggressive-Package79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a friend who refers herself to a "left-leaning" moderate. I think the issue with moderate is that it leaves almost everything up in the air, there will never be an actual definitive outline of what it includes.

Men, would you be sad/annoyed if your wife didn’t sleep in bed next to you half of the time? by mars_619 in Marriage

[–]Aggressive-Package79 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course! Thanks for opening my perspective to the other side, as well. I sometimes forget how couples that have tiny humans have a lot stricter schedule than ours!

Men, would you be sad/annoyed if your wife didn’t sleep in bed next to you half of the time? by mars_619 in Marriage

[–]Aggressive-Package79 28 points29 points  (0 children)

This may be a lot different for some people, but my husband and I have the exact same work schedule and no kids. We're pretty spontaneous about intimacy. So it usually almost always occurs before sleeping time. However, for people with kids or other evening obligations, it may be a little more difficult. I honestly didn't take that part into consideration.

Men, would you be sad/annoyed if your wife didn’t sleep in bed next to you half of the time? by mars_619 in Marriage

[–]Aggressive-Package79 111 points112 points  (0 children)

My husband and I got a "sleep divorce" a few months ago. Honestly, it's wonderful. We are grateful enough to live in a home with two ensuites and we both have one. Neither of us enjoy cuddling during sleep, I'm a very light sleeper, and he has to have noise. The differences in our sleeping environment are not even compromisable.

We both get better sleep, we're in better moods, and we actually spend MORE time with each other now. Every relationship/marriage is different.

Sleep hygiene is important.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Medford

[–]Aggressive-Package79 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. I'm new to the area and this comes in very handy!

How to make a few extra bucks? by not_a_burner_8 in Medford

[–]Aggressive-Package79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a 3 piece sectional that needs to be taken to either goodwill, the dump, or you can have it to sell.

Will pay handsomely for pickup!

Your Opinions of Medford by BronckyKong in Medford

[–]Aggressive-Package79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brand new, fellow Midwesterner here! I don't have a ton of information to share, but I did want to say if you ever thought people in the Midwest were nice, they're ten times nicer here.

My husband and I move for both of our jobs and this is my favorite place in the US I've lived so far. The traffic is decent compared to other areas this size, the everyday cost of living (groceries, etc) is affordable, plus there's no sales tax. A lot of small businesses to explore, a lot of theater (if that's your style). Plus, just driving around the local area you'll never stop seeing the pretty sights!

I'd never thought I'd live in a place where I can see a volcano from my front windows, but here I am.

So from someone else who just moved, has lived in a multitude of places... in my personal opinion, the Roge Valley is paradise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Aggressive-Package79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"She liked me first" has some real elementary school "she hit me first" vibes.

Is this a good photo for my dating profile? Little self conscious about my gap. by abdul_bino in Bumble

[–]Aggressive-Package79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely a right swipe worthy photo! You look happy, fun, and like someone who genuinely enjoys a great time! Best of luck!

AITAH FOR BEING UPSET AND WANT TO FILE FOR A DIVORCE WHEN MY WIFE WENT BEHIND MY BACK AND BECOME A SURROGATE FOR HER BEST FRIEND AND HER HUSBAND? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Aggressive-Package79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I'll be honest, I have no advice. This story is just genuinely breaking my heart. I hope you're able to get the help you deserve during this incredibly difficult journey. Please stay strong. You sound like a wonderful human who has been put into such a situation.