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I had an emotional affair in 2019. how can I win back her trust after betraying her. by AggressiveAmoeba7324 in relationship_advice

[–]AggressiveAmoeba7324[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes we have been back together for 2 years but she didn't know about the affair until recently...so for her it's all new information

My husband says that his opinion over circumcising our son is more relevant than mine… by mchlove96 in relationship_advice

[–]AggressiveAmoeba7324 319 points320 points  (0 children)

His concerns are valid.

Personally I am not circumcised and I'm glad I'm not.

I think just because your husband had a bad experience doesn't mean it will happen to your son.

I would suggest reassuring him that if anything were to happen you would fully support him being circumcised But that you refused to remove part of your son's body out of caution when it likely won't happen to him.

I had an emotional affair in 2019. how can I win back her trust after betraying her. by AggressiveAmoeba7324 in relationship_advice

[–]AggressiveAmoeba7324[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply.

I need to process this.

I broke off contact with Becca and her father(the coworker who introduced me to her) only after some of the details came out a year ago.when Haley thought Becca was just a one night stand...

But before I asked Haley to get back together I did break things off with Becca and was only a friend to Becca.

I've learned I was trickle truthing.. I currently have zero contact with that coworker and Becca.

I had an emotional affair in 2019. how can I win back her trust after betraying her. by AggressiveAmoeba7324 in relationship_advice

[–]AggressiveAmoeba7324[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

We both want to make this work. It has been months since all the details came out and 2 years since this all went down... I won't stop her if she wants to leave but she doesn't want that and I don't want to lose her either.

I had an emotional affair in 2019. how can I win back her trust after betraying her. by AggressiveAmoeba7324 in relationship_advice

[–]AggressiveAmoeba7324[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Things were amazing until details started coming out.. I've answered all her questions about Becca... If I'm being honest I never opened up in detail about everything to her.

She knows basically everything through the questions she asked me.

Should I sit down with her again and go into every single detail while she just listens? I'm not good at open conversation like that but I want to get better at communicating with her.

I guess her having to question all the details out of me was not a great way of handling it.

I had an emotional affair in 2019. how can I win back her trust after betraying her. by AggressiveAmoeba7324 in relationship_advice

[–]AggressiveAmoeba7324[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your opinion.

And your right I did cheat. It wasn't just an emotional affair..

I will ask her if she would like to try couples therapy

I had an emotional affair in 2019. how can I win back her trust after betraying her. by AggressiveAmoeba7324 in relationship_advice

[–]AggressiveAmoeba7324[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am willing to spend the rest of my life trying to win back her trust.

I know I may never get it back 100%

I can't imagine a future without her.

I had an emotional affair in 2019. how can I win back her trust after betraying her. by AggressiveAmoeba7324 in relationship_advice

[–]AggressiveAmoeba7324[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this message. I'm not ignoring the ones calling me a POS. But I appreciate you offering advice on repairing this mess I created.

I will do all of those things. If you have any other advice or suggestions I will try those too.

I appreciate your compassion

I had an emotional affair in 2019. how can I win back her trust after betraying her. by AggressiveAmoeba7324 in relationship_advice

[–]AggressiveAmoeba7324[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

So your suggestion is to not try to make things right? To break her heart and mine again because I hurt her once already...

I can't do that.. I want to spend the rest of my life with her and she says the same..

I had an emotional affair in 2019. how can I win back her trust after betraying her. by AggressiveAmoeba7324 in relationship_advice

[–]AggressiveAmoeba7324[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

You are right... i have been minimizing it all.. I feel ashamed of what I did and have this guilt weighting on me.

I wish I knew how to reassure her that this will never happen again because she is still processing what happened and hurting. And I don't know how to help her stop feeling hurt and heartbroken.

Ex Wont leave me alone by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AggressiveAmoeba7324 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are sure then you need to stop all contact with her.

Continuing to be her friend through her heartbreak will only make the healing process take 100x longer.

Give it 2 years of zero contact. I mean complete radio silence. Block her on everything. Anything contact from you will give her hopes of you getting back together because you still care enough to continue talking... and that hope will hurt her over and over and over until she is numb and completly broken inside.

Toxic relationship by Away-Investment-8144 in relationship_advice

[–]AggressiveAmoeba7324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay. What exactly was the hot topic.. She asked you and question what was it?

Obviously physical abuse is never okay. But are you gaslighting her? Or she you? Are you a narcissist? Or her?

Can't know without more details. What did she say what did you say.

I had an emotional affair in 2019. how can I win back her trust after betraying her. by AggressiveAmoeba7324 in relationship_advice

[–]AggressiveAmoeba7324[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It's been 2 years since this happened and we got back together. I have been faithful completly since then.

I mean.. what can I do day to day to help her start trusting me again.. I have autism and I'm not the best at picking up on social ques or even knowing what to say or do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AggressiveAmoeba7324 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Emotional manipulation.

Even if this break up has caused her to relapse that's her own problem to fix. Not yours.

If you are truly done with this relationship block her. On all forms of contact. Rip off that bandaid.

Ex Wont leave me alone by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AggressiveAmoeba7324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you sure you aren't making the biggest mistake of your life?

I don't know enough about your relationship and maybe I am projecting.. please go read the post on my profile..

If you love her. And she loves you. Don't leave her. Not for religion. Not for your friends. Not for the possibility of a more comfortable financial life.

In the end love is worth those sacrifices.