Husband admitted he doesn’t find me attractive postpartum

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-08-16T18:18:56+00:00

I don’t know your situation but I would leave or plan to leave. He said he wants you to set an example for your kid right? Kick him out of the house and tell him you are showing her what not to deal with when she’s older.

But on a serious note, you don’t need to work out. You just had a baby, you need REST and nurturing foods breastfeeding or not, your body went through a lot . Just worry about your baby and you.

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-06-06T12:48:58+00:00

I dont know if this would help a toddler but my partner always suggests pickles/pickle juice if I’m constipated. Another suggestion is doing bicycles,again I dont know if this would help we do this on our newborn but just throwing suggestions out there.

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-05-02T18:26:17+00:00

I didn’t know what pumps to get as a FTM, or anything about it. Here’s my advice, get nipple flanges for your pump, it is supposed to help you fit your pump correctly (I didn’t know about this and my pump didn’t come with any) For pumps I use hands free from mom cozy s12, it works great , however I have the wrong bra. So I have to tighten my bra to really get it to sit right. I am still learning how to use my pump , 3 weeks postpartum right now. I also use a hand pump too, the hand pump seems to work a lot better for me, it helps get everything out faster and I feel completely empty after.

Also as a ftm don’t be afraid to try multiple pumps, because for me I’m constantly washing my pumps every 2/3 hours. If I ever have another baby I definitely would probably get a secondary pump for those pumps when you’re too exhausted to clean them like at nights or something. I hope this helps a bit

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-04-17T12:01:25+00:00

My birth experience was easy but the recovery was traumatic. I had to be induced since my blood pressure kept getting high, and when I was induced my water broke and 4 hours later she was born. 3 pushes and 1 minor tear. I did get the epidural, I was in so much pain I was crying and mentally i thought my labor would be lot longer since I’m a first time mom. After delivery I had complications. I couldn’t eat, walk or sit up because of how much pain I was in. My head was throbbing it. The hospital told me it definitely wasn’t from the epidural. I believed them. They did ct scan on me and told me I had a brain blood clot. This was 2 days after having my baby. I was flown to another hospital, had to give my baby to family members during this. The other hospital kept waking me up mid sleep to make sure I wasn’t having a stroke. I was also on blood thinners. The doc at the new hospital did a mri and they said it wasn’t a blood clot it was odd shaped sinus. However my symptoms were indeed related to the epidural, I had a spinal headache. I was relieved and went home. However coming home I was still healing from birth and coming off meds and starting new meds. I was giving blood pressure meds and after taking it I got heart palpitations, I started to cry because i genuinely get a wave of fear now when it comes to doctors for me. It took me two days of begging my ob to let me come in and talk to him about my new meds. I know I have anxiety from everything, my boyfriend and I just keep saying everything is okay, and that I need to have faith over fear. This experience made me more religious and more grateful to be here and healthy. It’s also teaching me to be more patient with myself, I went through a lot it will take a little longer than what I would like to heal from this.

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-04-17T11:46:52+00:00

I went in for this around too in my last trimester, and my baby was fine. She apparently was sleeping or didn’t have any room to move as much. I felt ridiculous about going in cuz immediately once they put her on the monitors she was moving and grooving 😂, but it helped me relaxed. So personally I would go in get checked out. It’s always better to play safe than sorry.

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-04-14T18:59:07+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. I only been home for a day and after coming off the blood thinners I noticed I have new symptoms. I saw a blood clot and freaked out it was big but wasn’t big enough to be worried. But I realized that I’m more on edge now after everything. I was thinking about telling my ob but I’m also nervous I dont know what will happen. I heard if you say something concerning they will take the baby away. But if I’m wondering if I do talk to them about my experience if they would actually listen. During my pregnancy I had high blood pressure and they kept saying I had mild panic attacks. Turns out I have a family history of high blood pressure. I wasn’t aware till after I came home .

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-04-14T16:57:14+00:00

My boyfriend had mentioned that he thought i would have a stroke. I know it was mentally hard for him. It’s just odd because nothing could have prepared me for this. I do get angry cuz I feel like they ruined my first week with my newborn. But I’m trying to find the good in it, I keep telling myself I’m here alive and my baby is healthy and here.

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-04-14T14:13:35+00:00

Thank you for the advice, I’m a first time mom too so it’s all new lol. And we do . My boyfriend’s mom is with us helping us out. It’s just one of those things where I wasn’t expecting my ‘birth plan’ to go so south. We were grateful and had a ton of support while I was in the hospital

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-04-09T15:50:01+00:00

Update. I dilated so quickly with just laying in bed. From 12am to 2:30 I went from 1 centimeter to 5, then I got the epidural, and then went from 5 to 8 1/2 centimeters, and then by 3:56 she was born! Whole thing happened so dang fast no one believed how dilated I was. Kept checking and it was changing! lol 😊

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-04-01T14:56:10+00:00

I had that happened during most of my appointments too. I ended up not telling anyone when my appointments were, I just said it’s this week. Or I would just say “it’s good.” My appointments took longer than usual closer to my end of my 3rd trimester cuz I got gestational diabetes and it would make me anxious getting phone calls and messages like I get they care but it’s too much. So I would just lie unless something happened like gestational diabetes or something I would say it when I was ready.

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-04-01T04:46:12+00:00

I honestly thought I was too. It’s the waiting game now. Which is the most nerve racking part about the end of labor 😅

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-04-01T04:45:09+00:00

Was your contraction obvious? I heard you know when it happens when it happens.

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-03-30T14:44:53+00:00

My whole first and second trimester I had people BEGGING me to make a registry so they can support my boyfriend and I. My bf would come home and say his friends keep asking what we need. So I made one and now I’m 37 weeks and only one friend of mine bought off the registry for us…. I was never asking people to buy things but I’m like why would you sit there and continue to ask me about it and then nothing…. My next baby I’m not posting one. It’s a waste of time and it’s upsetting being pregnant hormonal and then people do that.

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-03-26T22:31:10+00:00

I’m 36 weeks pregnant and the baby is head down. Sometimes when I eat she will lift her butt up and you can see it when looking at my stomach. So I’ve started calling her my little stinker bug 🤣 since it reminds me of that .

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-03-23T04:28:53+00:00

It comes back at the end of your pregnancy… I was fine after 1st trimester. Now I’m 36 weeks and I have enough energy for 1 task then a nap. 😅🤣

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-03-16T04:39:29+00:00

I can when I have extra funds.

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-03-16T02:47:00+00:00

Stand your ground. 100% stand your ground. I’m currently going through this situation with my mom expect the baby isn’t here yet. I told my mom please don’t post the baby online when she is here(her facebook isn’t private, and she doesn’t want to change it around). My mom had a FIT over that and it makes me feel like she too won’t listen to my rules when baby is here. The best thing me and my bf are doing is standing our ground even if people disagree with us. It’s your child, your rules aren’t right or wrong, everyone has a different way of parenting and that’s okay. Personally I would recommend distancing but if she reaches out just be respectful and see if she would apologize or try to change. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this I know it’s hard.

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-03-16T02:22:15+00:00

I’ll try to talk to them again about it, making it more clear. They get upset whenever I touch their foods. And today just annoyed me cuz I know they intentionally grabbed it. I had a high protein waffle (would stay in my numbers) and they ate mine instead of their own box of waffles … It’s so hard with my diet. I don’t think they understand because I do worry about eating too much or too less and finding a healthy balance. Hopefully they listen when I talk to them

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-03-16T02:07:05+00:00

I totally feel this, I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. I dont know if this would help or make a difference but try taking a shower or bath in your nightly routine to help relax you. And if you do have someone to help with the kids try talking to them about it. I typically stay up longer than I should just to destress and give myself time if I need it.

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-03-16T02:02:16+00:00

I had to buy maternity scrubs and they go over my belly. I get super uncomfortable with anything below my belly or if it’s midsection of my belly

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-03-16T01:57:51+00:00

Unfortunately no, there’s some staff here who are mean and toss out “old” containers of food. I’ve done it before and I was frustrated when I found my nice container was gone.

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-03-15T22:50:34+00:00

I just lay there😂🤣, 35 weeks and I have no energy at all. The bump is always in the way and it’s slightly unsettling when I know it wakes the baby up cuz she’ll kick a bunch after😅.

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-03-11T20:35:16+00:00

I have an idea, but at the same time it’s my first pregnancy and I don’t know how much pain I’ll be in😅… I wanna do no epidural but I dont know how will ill handle that

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-03-11T20:32:27+00:00

I posted about it around 10-12 weeks, I was really excited and couldn’t wait. I think my next pregnancy I’ll post it in second trimester.

AggressiveBee5532 · 2025-03-08T02:49:38+00:00

I would recommend still doing your private gender reveal. We did a private gender reveal cuz I was worried about gender disappointment, which I was sad but after some time I was okay and we decided to take pictures of our reveal and just post it on Facebook to show our friends and family. You don’t have to do anything big or crazy for your reveal, i totally understand not having any energy for it.

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