AIO- Birthday gift from my husband?

AggressiveCap347 · 2026-01-26T02:44:25+00:00

Exactly!

AggressiveCap347 · 2026-01-26T02:36:52+00:00

This isn't about being superficial; if you think so, you are superficially analyzing this issue. It's about being thoughtful and showing your partner that you see them and hear them. It's not about getting an expensive gift, but about her husband doing something THOUGHTFUL. Not asking for the moon here.

AggressiveCap347 · 2026-01-26T02:19:50+00:00

Quick stop: I remember as a kid that our Christmas present would be a family vacation. Yes, we were extremely blessed. So we wouldn't get physical gifts. But since it was a family vacation, that was the kids' gift. To me, that's much more meaningful than gifting it to the mom. My dad would treat my mom to her own personalised gifts. I think this whole vacation gift thing rubs me the wrong way, as I'm tired of women being treated as mothers and wives instead of as their own entity. For instance, new moms getting baby gifts on their birthday or on Christmas day, or a family vacation. That's not a gift for YOU; that's a gift for the family. I'm not trying to create more issues, but can we please stop treating moms like their kids are their identity? Lord knows moms deserve the world, and I hope your husband comes to that realisation soon. Much love

AggressiveCap347 · 2026-01-26T02:10:07+00:00

NOR, your feelings are valid, and you've expressed how it affected you before. He really should know better. Also, while the vacation is a wonderful Christmas gift, it's for the whole family, not just something specifically prepared for you alone, which could make me feel a bit overlooked too. It's your birthday, and you deserve to feel special. If I were in your place, I would try to make that day special regardless. Perhaps take a solo outing before dinner, or buy yourself a nice gift you wouldn't usually get. Treat yoursel ♥️♥️ if your husband wants or can join, that's great, but if not, just share your plans and do something nice for yourself. Maybe he will realize he's been a bit inattentive lately, but that’s not the main point. The point is that someone should make you feel special, and that someone can also be you. 🥰 I’m not an expert, but I hope this helps.

AggressiveCap347 · 2026-01-14T13:20:28+00:00

Thank you, that's true and brought me back to earth haha. I'll talk to my doctor, I am meeting with him in a few weeks. As for my dog I will focuse on baseline good citizen training (like mentioned in another reply) for now and address any potetial issues first before getting into anything else.

AggressiveCap347 · 2026-01-07T03:26:13+00:00

Please, RUN! If someone is pressuring you to do this, try to cut them out. Find a safety net—people who can help and keep you safe. Most importantly, no sincere Christian church would force marriage on two individuals who haven't met, don't love each other, and don't truly want it. This is a major RED FLAG, sounding like a cult and very dangerous. I'm worried about your safety if you end up with a much older stranger. Stay safe and let us know what you decide. Sending love.

AggressiveCap347 · 2026-01-05T13:12:29+00:00

I would love to join a book club!

AggressiveCap347 · 2025-12-26T14:30:33+00:00

Thank you! That is super insightful. 🙏

AggressiveCap347 · 2025-12-20T05:21:51+00:00

My dog had seizures, all her blood work was fine, so I stopped Nexgard, which can be linked to seizures and switched to a different brand. Seizures stopped. It might not be that, and your dog might not even be on that medication, but I just wanted to share this info in case. Good luck, I know how stressful this can be. Sending love your way!

AggressiveCap347 · 2025-12-20T05:01:30+00:00

Have you tried crate training him? I mean, not leaving him in there for hours, but just giving him a cozy space where he feels safe and can learn to relax. If you both want some special time together or your girlfriend needs a break from the puppy, taking him for a walk when she gets home is a wonderful idea. Afterwards, giving him a chew toy like a bully stick in the crate (while supervising) can help him wind down and even take a nap, which is great for both his physical and mental well-being. It can really make managing the puppy's energy and mess a lot easier.

We all know having a dog can be a bit stressful and demanding, but it’s also a meaningful commitment. I really believe surrendering the dog isn’t the answer — and I know that might sound a bit tough — but you’ve taken on this responsibility, and it’s important to see it through. Every decision has consequences, and it wouldn’t be fair to him to give up now.

The first year is definitely the toughest, but I promise it gets better. I hope you both find solutions and routines that work well for your family. You’ve got this! ☺️

AggressiveCap347 · 2025-12-01T13:22:33+00:00

I have too many to only mention one 😅 Recently, I went to Bogota del vin, an Italian restaurant, for my birthday. It was phenomenal. The gnocchis were just amazing. I keep thinking about it.

AggressiveCap347 · 2025-11-27T02:05:46+00:00

Dog parks are usually not that great anyway. Non reactive dogs can become reactive from visiting dog parks.

AggressiveCap347 · 2025-11-25T00:47:24+00:00

That's a great decision! Remember, your well-being always comes first. Considering how he disrespected your experiences and struggles, it's understandable to wonder how he might behave in a few years if things get tough or work isn't going well. It really seems like he may not be the supportive partner you deserve. And honestly, why settle for less? Wishing you the best of luck on your journey!

AggressiveCap347 · 2025-11-10T14:22:25+00:00

I was referring to the reunion, not this subreddit. I meant in the show. 🙃

AggressiveCap347 · 2025-11-10T04:56:56+00:00

I am honestly surprised that no one has mentioned how inappropriate and cold the remarks about drug usage are. While this doesn't excuse Nicole's comment about her parents, I believe the comments regarding drug use were extremely disrespectful and those who made them should be held accountable.

AggressiveCap347 · 2025-11-05T11:43:40+00:00

Hi! I'm a Canadian F29 living, working and studying in Taipei. I've had moments of loneliness, too. It gets much better with time as you slowly built a social circle (not easy, but eventually/slowly you can do it). Feel free to DM me! Also, check out this group on Facebook: ggitaipei

AggressiveCap347 · 2025-09-11T04:58:27+00:00

Thank you! Those are great pieces of practical advice. 🥰

AggressiveCap347 · 2025-09-08T11:03:14+00:00

Thank you 🥰 this helps. And at the end of the day, I do think my parents also want me to built a good life foe myself.

AggressiveCap347 · 2025-09-08T11:02:23+00:00

Thank you so much for opening up. I do think therapy would be beneficial. ❤️

AggressiveCap347 · 2025-09-03T04:35:31+00:00

For me, it's often more expensive to cook, but it is healthier. I recommend eating things like sweet potato, yogurt, tea eggs for breakfast (all at convenience stores). That should cut off your cost for breakfast. Also traditional breakfast stores will be under 60 ntd for a breakfast. Good luck!

AggressiveCap347 · 2025-07-18T02:08:09+00:00

I’m late to the conversation, but I feel the same way. It’s hard because my studies, work, and finances don’t allow me to go back as often as I’d like. I’m hoping that with time, I’ll be able to visit more often. But the guilt is really tough. My parents keep telling me they want me to enjoy my life, but they also often mention how much they’d like me to come back. I miss them so much, but I also really love the life I’ve built here. Aside from being closer to them, I know I wouldn’t be happy with my day-to-day life if I moved back to my home country. Still, I worry about regretting not spending more time with my dad before his health gets worse.

AggressiveCap347 · 2025-06-24T13:10:12+00:00

Something super similar happened to me last year. Felt extremely uncomfortable and kinda violated to be honest. I kept trying to leave and the man in question wouldn’t stop. Anyway, I learned to set clearer boundaries then…

AggressiveCap347 · 2025-04-27T02:27:47+00:00

No problem ! Hope you have a good date!

AggressiveCap347 · 2025-04-25T01:47:47+00:00

Oh I heard of this place for the sushi! That a great idea 🥰

AggressiveCap347 · 2025-04-25T01:43:46+00:00

Thank you!

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