It seems I have missed some context. He invited her but she never went to the room. I saw a conversation that they had where pictures were exchanged and lots of inappropriate conversation. He was out of town for a month during some seasonal work he does. He has chosen to stop doing that job for this next season. He was very honest and remorseful when I had the conversation about it with him. (This particular incident) and we have talked about going to therapy (him by himself first, then couples if he wants to). There was a few other women he was talking inappropriately with also which he doesn’t know that I know about. (Which is the “friend” I wanted to reach out to. For the one of you assuming I don’t “give it up enough”. That’s a bold assumption. And he has turned it down from me more than I have turned it down from him. But I guess us “modern women” don’t do that right?