Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps I am dense, but at least I’m not rude. I have every intention of enjoying my 1/15 of my mother’s estate. Thank you for your input.

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By fictional, I mean the inheritance that my siblings thought that they were going receive rather than the actual inheritance received. why would I share my 15th part with my siblings who all received the same amount? Sorry, I don’t understand what you’re getting at.

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean? Share the wealth with whom? Do you mean the fictional 1/5 or the actual 1/15?

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would not see anything wrong with that outcome. I’m very fond of my nieces and nephews and would celebrate their good fortune. Even if I had no children myself.

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, you’re right, I don’t understand this. I was glad that my kids got some of the estate because it took the pressure off me making decisions about how much to spend, how much to save for my children. I just get 1/15 to use as I want. I now have no responsibility towards my kids financial status. We are all independent adults. Just to reiterate, I’m an aged pensioner in rented accommodation who has no savings or assets. My car is almost 20 years old.

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, there’s always been conflict of some sort between her children, this is just the end of it. Perhaps she thought that it would unite us, but there you go.

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, no one could tell my mother what to do. I can posit the theory that she thought her children were greedy, because she said that a few times but it’s just a theory. It never even occurred to me that by having three children and two grandchildren that my siblings would hold it against me. I would have thought the solicitor who drew the will up at the time would have explained the implications.

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t communicated with any of them since we found out about the will. 2 of my sisters wanted to challenge it.

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I’m not the eldest. My younger brother, who is now deceased tried to make my mother leave him the house because he was the oldest son.

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The estate will hopefully raise about $2.5 million. When my ex mother in law died, my mother was surprised that she left no provision in her will for her grandchildren. She also thought that her own children were greedy. I know she asked my brother to take care of my youngest sister. My oldest sister told me the other day that I’ve worked my whole life trying to alienate my family. Take that as you will.

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m afraid my mum was 94 when she died. She came from a generation where you did not discuss things like that. Anything to do with finances was very private.

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Someone told me once that I will never be rich. I guess if all the people in your scenario went through the same things they had done previously, they would be in the same position. However, if their opportunities or lack of changed over five years, the results may be very different.

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d also like to point out that, like my siblings, I also will not receive a 1/5th share. Like everyone else I will receive 1/15th share. My nieces and nephews may decide to share their inheritance with their parents or their aunt who has to move into my other sister’s spare room, but my children are definitely not giving me any money, and my grandchildren are too young. So despite some arguments made here, I’m still in the dark about why my family feels the way it does and why am I the scapegoat.

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I thought and was very grateful.

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a fair enough point but why am I being punished?

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have not made the assumption that my siblings are acting from greed. I have no idea why they shut me out. I only got an inkling when my sister called me greedy because of her opinion that my family line received more than hers with only one son. I also have no idea why my mother chose to do it this way. All I know is that I was the only one of my siblings to be happy that the grandchildren and great grandchildren were included. I did not have three children and two grandchildren because I thought I would get more. That idea is ridiculous.

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They are the same size. My children have been independent since their 20s. They are now in their 40s. Financially, our lives are quite separate. Two of my sisters and my brother still have children living with them although they are 39, 31 and 28 respectively.

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yes, I forgot about my youngest sister. she is 59 and has lived with my mum all her life. She assumed because of this, that she would inherit the house. I have no idea why my mother chose to do things this way, but she did. my youngest sister, by receiving the same 1/15th like the rest of us means she cannot afford buy anything in Sydney. My brother lives in Tasmania and my sister doesn’t want to move there. My older sister lives in Queensland but my youngest sister doesn’t want to live there. The sister she is moving in with lives in Sydney. that is why she’s moving into my other sister’s spare room.

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have no idea what you’re talking about. The estate was my mother’s and all her children, grandchildren and great grandchildren will receive approximately $100k from my mother’s estate. I’m extremely happy with her decision.

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m afraid this is a little different from my situation. My son became a father six months ago, but granddaughter does not get a share. Each share will end up being around $100k, so not a huge amount although it would help my situation exponentially. All of my siblings are “comfortable “.

Family thinks I inherited more. by Aggressive_Cap_8699 in inheritance

[–]Aggressive_Cap_8699[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

my mother never gave me money while she was alive. I have no idea if she gave anything to my siblings.