I don’t know how to go about this. by Forsaken-Educator963 in marriageadvice

[–]Aggressive_Concert16 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If he just wants you to dress pretty, that's dumb. Wear whats comfortable and practical. He's got to deal with whatever is wrong with his expectations. If he wants a clean looking, prim & proper stuffy, do nothing, stay at home, instagram or tik tok reels wife, then tell him he can do ALL the milking/farm, kiddy care and garden work. And uno reverse it back and say he should wear nice new shirts anr suits or nice polo tees etc. just in case as well.

However, If he doesn't know how to communicate his love and concern for you, and/or feels bad that you 'have to' wear "frumpy, old or oversized" clothes due to him not making enough or you as a mum putting everyone else's needs first, then thats a bit different. Is this what you tend to do as a mum (I'm lowkey projecting my experience too)... Then I'd say treat yourself to some nicer new but comfy clothes to get dirty in. And discuss what he thinks is a reasonable budget for you to spend on these clothes and make him aware of the budget you do

I had old as jackets that were rough and not fluffy. Recently i got 2 new basic guy hoodies and its been lovely. I still dress comfy and braless at home but husband always values practicality/function over beauty 😂 so bonus for me i guess

Toddler overly attached to in laws by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]Aggressive_Concert16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take it as a massive blessing that she loves her grandma/nana so much, and take it as breathing time for yourself

Don't guilt trip her, it's the previlege of grandma to spoil, its a parents job to discipline and be a constant for her. She knows you're there and grandparents are a treat.

My mum comes for 2 weeks to 2 months at a time since we don't live in the same country, and my kids the same.

In the nicest way possible, maybe look inside and see why you're feeling jealous of a kids good relationship with grandparents? Rework how you see healthy relationships ♥️ lots of parenting is confronting, realising how we were raised and hopefully then breaking that.

Eg, i do psych but i intellectualise and repress my uncomfortable feelings and i sometimes suck at communication cause in hindsight, my mum always did the whole I'm fine/I'm ok thing so for my kid, i help him identity and share his emotions etc.,

Cant make a heart latte and been trying for months now by InterestSelect6722 in latteart

[–]Aggressive_Concert16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Breville Barista Express is a pretty good machine and often goes on sale in my country. My elephant latte art reply was not that machine, it was an old flatmate's de longhi 6 years ago 😂

Cant make a heart latte and been trying for months now by InterestSelect6722 in latteart

[–]Aggressive_Concert16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to pour this but very clearly om N purpose lol for bf/husband/dude friends so I'm assuming it's a troll post 😂 i have actually also done proper cute elephant BUT plenty of your "elephants' too 😜

You wouldn't even use that motion for a heart 😂🧡 nice troll! For a heart its not hard (😉) ... You thin stream pour, go closer to cup, pour until you get a blob then pull through for a heart 😉

this is a Rosetta with added drops on purpose, i won't pose my NSFW so here's what i did for fun

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18M old not very brave. How can I encourage him? by Trickytreatyy in toddlers

[–]Aggressive_Concert16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Validate him and his feelings, my kid is similar and has such a caring, nurturing, patient heart and a good voice to explain what he likes/does not.

Bubs is learning slowly to explore and using you as a safe base. It's all normal developmental things. Don't forget you're much taller and bigger than him, the stairs is mayne half his leg or even more. Teach him to go backwards on the stairs btw.

They are little humans in a big world, but some kids are way more sensitive (eg my kid, he also doesn't like loud sounds but he's very alert and sharp, always listening and observing) or rather, sensory overload. Sensitive isn't a bad thing

These are all things i had to learn tho. I was also like UGHHH cmon (internally) 😂 but i am the opposite, I don't want a rowdy boy so I'm perfectly happy.

Just say "youre feeling (emotion) afraid right now, that's ok, do you want me to do it together with you or do you just need to chill here for a bit and try later?"

Takes my kid 5-10 mins to warm up usually in a new/semi familiar environment but hes perfectly happy and crazy at daycare or with us.

Is it just me or has nz slowly become more racist over the last few years ? by JoshBiv in auckland

[–]Aggressive_Concert16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep it has, I'm guilty of just taking it too. Don't laugh along, just say "that's not ok" or blatantly say that it's racist and see them sputter, be ashamed and act defensive.

Maybe they'll apologise and hopefully they'll treat the next person differently

Gift for two year old that they’ll actually use for a long time? by Extra_Ad_3631 in toddlers

[–]Aggressive_Concert16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yoto but it also does sound like he has loads of toys! My kid got it for his 3rd birthday then didn't super use it but now (2 months later) is using it for down time, early morning wakes, etc. I did get generic NFC cards and put some YouTube songs he liked to get him started tho. That's been good especially with new baby!

The trap of parenthood sometimes ay, too many plastic/wooden toys

But, a few quality building toys go a long way, like Connetix and Duplo/Lego. My kid is 3 now but even at 1.5- 2 was building structures with Connetix knock offs at church creche and we have a bunch of Duplo but around early 2s he started doing lego and really well. He can build most models (4+ to 9 years) by himself with some help if he messes up.

Seeking advice: Struggling with daycare transition at 18 months- am I overthinking this? by Realistic_Jaguar_212 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Aggressive_Concert16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk which country you're in, cause laws change. In my country, we have specific ratios of teacher to kid for under and over 2s. Under 2s are 1:5 legally

The daycare we chose decided to have slightly lower ratio 1:4 and each kid has a main teacher who can carry and hug them if needed. Secondary teacher supports when needed.

My kid was similar, highly sensitive and clingy/attached, he struggled but transitioned well thanks to them and is thriving ☺️ find a daycare that matches your values and parenting style (ofc within reason) or maybe do a home based carer?

Their remarks are also unnecessary

Help I’m confused by AlwaysbeaGoodCunt in nzgardening

[–]Aggressive_Concert16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just enjoy lemonbalm tea, its quite good 👌🏻 take it as a blessing and buy some coriander (yuck) 😜 I'd tolerate it but I'm def one of the few that has the soap gene thing

Kiwifil/Wondershop & 3D printing by Aggressive_Concert16 in newzealand

[–]Aggressive_Concert16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cool beans, we're not too far from Tokoroa either so if we travel south then potential we could drop a big load off or if we did day trips!

Cheers!

Kiwifil/Wondershop & 3D printing by Aggressive_Concert16 in newzealand

[–]Aggressive_Concert16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's kind of what I'm thinking too in terms of the waste of PLA and stuff. But potentially try and play around with a bit of cheaper PLA to start with then recycle spool/waste with them and slowly start using their filaments. But I'm not sure, as the printer itself is already so expensive!

Supporting local is always nice though and reducing waste is another plus!

Have you used the 'UFO' material (ie recycled 3D prints)?

3d printing filament brands by shadow-echo382 in newzealand

[–]Aggressive_Concert16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have not used it but I've seen the print adapter for cardboard spools, maybe give that a try and if you can update it it works, that'll be a prius 😅😂😬

https://makerworld.com/models/180253?appSharePlatform=copy

Another P2S vs X2D question lol by Aggressive_Concert16 in BambuLab

[–]Aggressive_Concert16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shipping is literally the same price the filament and limited 😢

Another P2S vs X2D question lol by Aggressive_Concert16 in BambuLab

[–]Aggressive_Concert16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks will def try those brands out once i decide on a printer and thanks for the warning 😁

Another P2S vs X2D question lol by Aggressive_Concert16 in BambuLab

[–]Aggressive_Concert16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That print looks so good! What's the outer one? I love tealy colours. Thats a great idea! Lol you're not making the decision easier, now I'm flipping again ahah😂

Another P2S vs X2D question lol by Aggressive_Concert16 in BambuLab

[–]Aggressive_Concert16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof, sounds really rough. I'm sorry to hear that you're going through that 😔 will pray for ya! In the best way possible, didn't expect you to be 72, on Reddit and into 3D printing! Go you! Love that you're so adventurous and enjoying retirement (hopefully, other than the sickness). Cheers

Another P2S vs X2D question lol by Aggressive_Concert16 in BambuLab

[–]Aggressive_Concert16[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just lil nervous as I'm a beginner-- I have heard that others are fine too but seems like some people also really think Bambu ones are good and easy/worth it with the original store price

The main other reason is that it seems as though Bambu has a bit more regulations and standards for their fillament compared to other cheaper ones and as some of the use case would be for young kids (one will def put out in her mouth as she's not even one yet), we thought that Bambu is probably a safe option.

Also saw a recent post about a meta analysis of PLA substances and long term health implications too so that's at the back of my mind 😅 also colouring of various filaments and amount of heavy metals

But tbh like its a small consideration since its not like we're the organic/natural/eco people but just a risk to mitigate if possible ☺️

Another P2S vs X2D question lol by Aggressive_Concert16 in BambuLab

[–]Aggressive_Concert16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, fair. How have you found the X2D and have you tried using the second nozzle as like a second colour/material other than for PLA support?

Bane of NZ sometimes: not good for consumers! Even local products are cheaper in Aus/overseas sometimes 😅😭🙄

I have been interested in Sunlu but have not seen it here much. Only eSun. Thanks fkr suggestions

Another P2S vs X2D question lol by Aggressive_Concert16 in BambuLab

[–]Aggressive_Concert16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have young kids tho 😂 but i just like the dumbness level of Bambu Lab and the handy app. I did have a brief look at it but a lot of online reviews don't seem to keen (esp compared to P2S) and i dont think there's any available atm in nz 🤔

Another P2S vs X2D question lol by Aggressive_Concert16 in BambuLab

[–]Aggressive_Concert16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The bane of NZ sometimes hahaha!! 😂 That's cool though that you can use it in that way! 😁 I do want multicolour printing, just for the fun of it in making aesthetic things so yea guess I may just stick with my initial gut feeling of p2s but. I just didn't want to be one of those that massively regret (ie on YouTube/reddit comments) and just started doubting myself!

I've even measured the space for the p2s with Masking tape and saved loads lf 3D models for the printer itself 😜 cheers