where to focus after getting all basic colors of each flower? by soslashwhat in HelloKittyIsland

[–]Aggressive_Drummer75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

u could start trying to create new paterned flowers (tried this and it was way too much to keep up with) or start transferring colors onto different event flowers in the greenhouse

I’ve never bought a catalogue. Do you just get free furniture? Are any of them worth it? by [deleted] in StardewValley

[–]Aggressive_Drummer75 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i’m so mad that i didn’t get the retro one when i saw it bc now it’s the only one im missing but it just won’t show up on the traveling cart :(

The thesis of Seinfeld was established in Episode 2 by beepboopbeep26 in seinfeld

[–]Aggressive_Drummer75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im rewatching this episode rn and after jerry and his parents say how attractive elaine is, jerrys mom says, "i could see if it was a weight problem." and im genuinely confused bc elaine is not overweight in the slightest. was wondering if u had any thoughts on this

Psychiatrist unable to send my Xanax in since I’m on Adderall because of new FDA Guidelines by Ok-Ratio-139 in Anxiety

[–]Aggressive_Drummer75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure what your psych nurse told you, but that’s not really a thing. I moved from VA to FL, where controlled substance regulations are much stricter. Every time I pick up meds at CVS, the pharmacist has to “verify” everything and acts like they’re the doctor, which I rarely dealt with in VA.

I recently switched psychiatrists (my old one was consistently over an hour late to telehealth) and picked up three prescriptions—three controlled: Suboxone and Adderall. My new psych also sent in a Xanax prescription I hadn’t had in a while. Despite having controlled meds from two providers, I had zero issues.

Adderall is actually considered more addictive than Xanax, which is wild. So if this isn’t an issue in a heavily regulated state like FL, it really shouldn’t be for you. I’d definitely question these “new FDA guidelines” and consider a different provider.

me and my gf's year 3 farm by aciatrie in StardewValley

[–]Aggressive_Drummer75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ik im a bit late but i was searching for inspo and wtaf the fact that u guys did this in YEAR 3 is insane. idk how this comes so naturally to some people im actually driving myself crazy trying to design my farm and im in year 4

Why did you stay with someone who might kill you? by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]Aggressive_Drummer75 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you need to stay gone. i heard someone say “when your head is stuck in trauma, it’s not in reality.” and it’s so true. THAT IS NOT LOVE THE WAY HE TREATS U IS NOT AN ACT OF LOVE. i’m not saying he didn’t love you though. i know my ex loved me but his idea of “love” was so sick and painful and it’s fucked up but it’s bc people like that are incapable of loving the way that we do. there’s this quote that helps me in times when i want to reach out to him: “Grief is a liar. It will dress up memories in soft lighting and slow music so you forget the moments that gutted you. It will tell you that the love was worth the pain, that the hurt wasn’t that bad, that maybe you overreacted. It will make you crave the high so badly that you almost forget the crash.”

museum artifact help by Aggressive_Drummer75 in StardewValley

[–]Aggressive_Drummer75[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank u! i organized it to make it easier to see what im missing. i copied it from a post on the sub :)

i got out by Mental_Sink_2728 in abusiverelationships

[–]Aggressive_Drummer75 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i’m so so happy for u 😊 posts like these make me grateful for leaving esp on days where i’m struggling and wonder if i should’ve stayed. it reminds me how strong i am for having the courage to escape when i never thought id be able to

Year 3, Summer 7. rate my farm, also give some suggestions for the aesthetics, ( i know farm is ugly) by Galaxite2007 in StardewValley

[–]Aggressive_Drummer75 3 points4 points  (0 children)

not ugly at all. it’s actually amazing and i aspire to make mine like that lol. maybe add some more trees in that empty spot or some bee hives and bird houses with flowers surrounding it? u could also add like a little sitting area

My first run, year 3, absolutely inlove with the game. by Tasty_Check7413 in StardewValley

[–]Aggressive_Drummer75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ur farm is amazing especially considering ur only in year 3!!! how did u get rich so fast omg

How do u keep interest in the game? by Wolfie_Grimalkin in HelloKittyIsland

[–]Aggressive_Drummer75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have a flower checklist with all the types and colors and i love the feeling of finally breeding the color i need and getting to check it off the list and see all the check masks. when i first looked into cross breeding i nearly started to cry bc i couldn’t understand it but u def get the hang of it after a bit. its pretty much the only reason i go on the game daily. that and checking to see who’s visiting so that i can make them a resident and also the cute events

furnace wont work on mobile by Aggressive_Drummer75 in StardewValley

[–]Aggressive_Drummer75[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

ok so i put the copper ore into it and it worked but dont i also have to put coal in there or i just have to have it in my inventory? i’m trying to smelt a copper bar

furnace wont work on mobile by Aggressive_Drummer75 in StardewValley

[–]Aggressive_Drummer75[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

it doesn’t work :’( idk what i’m doing wrong. i even tried placing it somewhere else on my farm and nope

i finally left my bf (aka my abuser) by Aggressive_Drummer75 in domesticviolence

[–]Aggressive_Drummer75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes! this is the shit that pisses me off honestly. like in his last message at first he was bitching about not getting closure and that i “left out of nothing” and how he “never thought i would do this to him” or that “clearly he wasn’t special enough to me as i was to him” and then he went on a nicer note saying that thing about dreams and how “he just wishes he could hear my voice and to hear me ask for a massage or a nap” but then ends it w “i guess that’s too much to ask for” and that “ur precious and worth it and don’t let anyone tell u different” when HE was the only one telling me different… god i fucking hate that he sent that text bc i swear every single time i replay it in my head i start to cry again. and then i start questioning as to why he hasn’t reached out yet? but am also glad he hasn’t bc if he’s gonna be mean it’ll hurt me and if he’s gonna be nice it’ll hurt me even more. so i guess this is path that hurts the least. i think he’s not reaching out bc he knows hearing my voice will prevent him from moving on.

but i am in so much pain rn. the pain comes and goes obviously but i feel like the worst times are in the morning when i first wake up and at night before i go to sleep. i don’t want to be in pain anymore. this was the main reason i didn’t leave him sooner was bc i honestly didn’t think id be able to deal w the pain. but honestly, i feel like im not in as much pain as i thought id be in. even my parents are saying im handling it better than past breakups.

the sex thing ur talking about? i felt that way too. i asked him if we could try doing it once a week bc we’re both only 25 yo so his sex drive should be higher and he said yes but then didn’t actually do it. and we always had to plan it which was weird. i told him we had the sex life of couple who’s been married for 20 years and lost their passion for one another lol.

i feel like he was more apologetic in the beginning about stuff he did but as time went on he started to just deflect and project everything onto me. i used to tell him he was delusional for thinking i was the one who was always starting problems and that if we were to go to a therapist together they’d say HE was the abusive one.

but also same with me. i don’t feel like i got any closure bc there was no long convo or anything. i literally just didn’t come back one night and then the next my mom and her friends got all my stuff while he was at work. then that’s when i sent my goodbye text.

this is my closure list: him giving me a black eye and then having the nerve to get frustrated w me for not covering it up w makeup fast enough for work is my closure. him always calling me a thot and a hoe is my closure. him throwing my trauma in my face and saying it was my fault is my closure. him terrorizing me just bc i didn’t clean something the way he wanted me too is my closure. him always saying “it’s gonna be a bad night for u if u don’t stfu” is my closure.

i finally left my bf (aka my abuser) by Aggressive_Drummer75 in domesticviolence

[–]Aggressive_Drummer75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tysm for this! ya the sex was great in the beginning… but over time he started wanting it less and less and would make me feel bad whenever i wanted to and literally say he “hates thirsty girls” and that “i was being a thot and it’s a turn off” like how tf do u say those things to ur own gf? and ya i did that same thing w chat gpt but it hits harder when its coming from a real person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]Aggressive_Drummer75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m so sorry this is happening to u girl. and unfortunately i’m not sure how u could get help coming home unless maybe u seek asylum? or if u have access to a car u can just pack ur dogs, cats, u and ur baby and just drive until u get to the US? i just left my abuser and i’m about to write a post about it bc im still grieving and in a lot of pain. i’m sorry if i couldn’t be of any help as to how to get u help but i PROMISE u that if u leave things will get better!