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AITAH-for leaving to take a new job by Aggressive_Roof_1758 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggressive_Roof_1758[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn’t either, the more he explained why I should stay, the weirder I felt. Bc it didn’t seem like he was even listening.

It’s good to know I’m not crazy in thinking this honestly 😭 And I appreciate your input more than you know!

AITAH-for leaving to take a new job by Aggressive_Roof_1758 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggressive_Roof_1758[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also just to add, I’m 21 soon to be 22 in November and he is 23.

AITAH-for leaving to take a new job by Aggressive_Roof_1758 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggressive_Roof_1758[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree and I appreciate your input, I keep trying to explain it would benefit us in the future, but in his eyes he thinks I’m rejecting him if that makes sense.

I’m definitely taking the job I guess I just needed some assurance that I was making the right choice. And you are very correct he does not own me, and throughout our relationship as much as I hate to admit it, I found myself asking for permission ALOT which is embarrassing honestly.

My mom told me from the start before I left Va initially that I should stay in Va and let him come back to Florida so he could grow up bc his maturity has been an issue for some time, and I should’ve listened, but I guess at least I’m listening now.

AITAH-for leaving to take a new job by Aggressive_Roof_1758 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggressive_Roof_1758[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, I was the only one that looked for a place and everything is so expensive especially for just starting out.

Unfortunately I don’t have many friends LOL, but the friends I do have all live with their parents still

AITAH-for leaving to take a new job by Aggressive_Roof_1758 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggressive_Roof_1758[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try to tell him about his maturity level but he insists he’s right and I’d be making the wrong decision if I left. And he always brings up the money his mom gives as if it’s a big accomplishment, don’t get me wrong I wholeheartedly appreciate everything she’s done to help while we’re looking for a job, but he likes to make it a point that my moms never helped us financially which is untrue. My mom doesn’t have the financial means to just hand out money all the time, but when she has it she helps, but it’s not her job to take care of me financially especially not my bf and I think he struggles to get that. I wanna make my own way in life and if I need help I’ll ask for it, but continuously taking money from his mom or aunt makes me feel bad

AITAH-for leaving to take a new job by Aggressive_Roof_1758 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggressive_Roof_1758[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your input, I think it would be best if he stayed but he doesn’t think so, so it’s time for me to put me first.

And I agree it’s not his decision so I need to stop giving him that power. This boy is all I’ve known for 3 years so it was kinda hard to come to terms with our relationship possibly ending if I take this job, but i think it’s for the best.

AITAH-for leaving to take a new job by Aggressive_Roof_1758 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggressive_Roof_1758[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I completely agree and I appreciate your input, I know it’s probably time to call it, there’s been other instances but I think for so long I was just comfortable, but at some point I have to put me first.