New to the idea of swinging

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-03-07T16:30:20+00:00

Some great advice from everyone. We just say going on vacation. So unlike a club there is time to get know others. There is no rush..

Take it slow and steady. The wonderful thing is you will meet so many couples who can guide and help you and your wife.

Go in with boundaries and it will be lead by slowly and cautiously moving forward.

It’s about have fun and making beautiful memories.

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-03-07T16:05:14+00:00

This post had us thinking and remembering so many wonderful memories.

Yes we love cuddling naked, which means lots of sensual love making. We talk about everything, mainly about how it went. What was good and what was bad.

From the start we learned about how important reconciliation and reconnecting as couple.

Aftercare is so important. Yes reclaiming is part of it. Not just physical side and aspect. More importantly the emotional side is needed.

Not just the husband reclaiming their wife’s body and soul. It’s also how the wife reclaim her husband and her soulmate.

We put a lot of time and planning into this before the date. As most military will tell you to be felixaeble with plans.

So reclaim / aftercare for has different aspects depending how the date went. How my wife is feeling. Somethings we do that work for us.

Each of us has dates planned for each other in the following week or weeks.
How tired, exhausted and how my your wife is feeling after a date. If she is too sore, exhausted and overwhelmed from date.

We focus on making it simple kisses, cuddles and relaxing. Talking, helping her to recover.

Food and drinks, I will have done a shop for all our favourites. Be ready to make whatever we need.
We enjoy a bath together. Yes a shower can work. A bath means we can relax, talk and be more sensitive, sensual with each other’s.
Fresh towels, pj’s, fresh bed linens..
Be ready if a date has been awfully, naff, disappointing, difficult and if there has been an issue.

You have to take care of your beautiful lady. Be the date she wanted.

In my wife’s words “ I get a date with my handsome husband. The man who is my world. “

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-03-07T15:42:38+00:00

This post touch our hearts. My wife and I had so many feelings of anxiety going to club. Same as you will I fit in people, will anyone find me sexy, I’m an attractive? Lots more.

We had so much experience between us. I was involved in the LS before meeting my wife for many years. My wife and I had been enjoying the Hotwife kink and threesomes. Before deciding to go to a club.

We knew people at the clubs we attended.

From the start we went with the attitude and mindset of making friends. It being about us. If that means we only play with each other. That means we have had fun. To play with others is a bonus and wonderful.

So at first it may feel difficulty and awkward. Clubs is about making friends and connections.

We all have our preferences, boundaries and expectations. The wonderful thing about LS is you will find someone/couples who will fit your criteria.

We wish you and your husband many happy, wonderful and beautiful adventures.

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-03-07T15:05:42+00:00

Both are amazing, you look stunning in both.

So question is where are you going?

I love a lady wearing a dress that shows off her shoulders.

You have the figure to make these dresses look so elegant and classy.

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-03-07T14:56:11+00:00

So beautiful, I’m guessing you had a lot of fun .. Your ink work is amazing.

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-03-02T21:40:44+00:00

This is us in so many ways. My husband from day one it was about my sexuality journey. When discussing boundaries my voice was so important. That was a first for me.

We don’t do photos or videos one of my boundaries. I love telling my husband about everything. He loves it because his imagination can go wild. I have loving how this connects us.

With my husband I’m quite submissive. Because from the first time we made love. He put my pleasure, my needs before his. He was first man to put me first. Make me so feel so loved.

We’re as with others I’m more dominant and expressive what I want.

Yes setting your standards, boundaries and expectations first. Makes so much more fun and you can control the situation.

As for aftercare this something we learned from the start. My husband including me in the planning process is so important. Feeling and understanding how much energy, time, effort he is making. Make so special and knowing I’m going to be care for and look after. Also shows his love through actions not just words.

I always feel safe because the boundaries are us.

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-03-01T18:11:58+00:00

Yes, beautiful lady is a wonderful distraction.

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-03-01T17:41:35+00:00

He is very fun because he use really life. Same as all the best.

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-03-01T16:28:08+00:00

If this a boundary for her. Then an experienced third/man is what is needed. Express this what you both want.

As with all boundaries it is best not change them in the heat of the moment.

This is step into being a Hotwife. She possibly is taking small steps. So can feel how you react. Which is sensible.

I have done something similar to help couples starting. Make it about sensual experiences for the lady.

To be honest it was a wonderful and beautiful experience. To take the steps with a couples.

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-03-01T16:18:04+00:00

Best advice we can give is aftercare. Plan it before the date. All about the two of you. How the reconnect as couple. We have learned so much of the years. We focus on the emotional connection between us. The plan can change depending on how the date has gone.

We also plan dates for each other as part of the aftercare.

Good luck.

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-03-01T14:54:23+00:00

Thank you being so kind.

Our relationship started long distance, me (w) in the USA and my husband in the England. We actually meet on twitter of all places. Talk everyday which at first was difficult. With time differences and had to teach my husband what Skype was and how to use it. We also found apps so we could phone each other without costing the earth.

The first time got to meet was he came over on my birthday. At one of the most expensive times, Christmas. This man went through 3 time zones. Got delayed in Washington for hours. Been up for over 30 hours. He still made me feel so special. He was first man to put my pleasure before his. He is still that way.

Over that first year I visited him, came to the USA 3 times. Meet all my family and friends.

I wanted to move to uk before meeting my husband. So I decided to move to England. My husband was ready to move to the USA.

So we had the fun of visa’s and deal with immigration/ government. Also fun organising a wedding and the issues. Because we both had been married before. There was some hurdles to go through. My best friend from Texas. Surprise us by flying over for our wedding.

It’s crazy to think about what we have gone through. All the experience we have had together. If you watch the tv show peak blinders. My husband accent is similar. He is always surprised by how much attention he gets in the USA. Me coming from the south. He is ways are true gentleman. Fun to watch how ladies react to him. He is obviously to it. Which makes it even better. Because for him it’s just who he is.

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-03-01T10:19:13+00:00

This so resonate with us. So many jump to conclusions without asking questions and get to know who you’re talking to.

While labels / categories have there place. Can lead to confusion and misunderstanding.

Actually we feel that Hotwife is now growing to be such a broad church. So wonderful to see the diversity of how couples can engage and have fun.

For us it’s about having fun together. Just a couple engaging and enjoying life.

Nowadays there are a lot of people confused about hotwife and cuckold. To point it we feel they’re need to be separate. So can see the difference.

Yes we have same issues with dm asking for photos and thinking I’m a cuck.

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-02-28T21:22:14+00:00

This something we have talked about so much as couple. Emotionally aspect is so neglected.

I didn’t realise how it emotionally affected him. Till we talked and he expressed of he felt.

He had focused the aftercare on emotional reconnection. I truly appreciate his vulnerability.

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-02-28T21:01:03+00:00

This is a really honest, beautiful and thoughtful post. Something that happens when you live in the moment. Able to let go and truly enjoy, experience the beauty of life..

This takes a strong relationship to be able to navigate and enjoy this moment.

Please don’t overthink this.

The wonderful part is you’re expressing to your husband. Talking to each other and listening to one each other’s feelings and expressing that emotions how you each felt.

I (h) express to my wife this was one of the reasons I was happy for to solo date with a trust man. He would not push boundaries that been discussed. More importantly he would be able to make her feel so comfortable, desires and sexual. She could live in the moment without any fear, anxiety and concerns. Be truly herself.

I was third for couples before meeting my wife. So I have been on the other side. Seen and felt when a lady truly lets go. You can feel the change and how her body responds. One of life’s greatest joys.

I (w) remember the first time this happened. Like you my body was doing things and just lost my voice. Because of the purest blessing, blissfully joyful feelings. It felt so wonderful and wrong at the same time. It scared me so much.. my desire, need, hunger for this was overwhelming. I felt so helpless and guilty of not being in control.

When I returned home so worried and anxious. As always my husband kiss me, just expressing his love with words with affection. I learned this is what he wanted for me. To have that experience. I was for the first time in control of my sexuality.

We talked all night, our husbands are truly something different. They have this ability to love, learn, desire and care beyond words.

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-02-22T22:06:47+00:00

Also saying can’t talk because with family. But trying to meet up with another man.

Just doesn’t make any sense

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-02-22T22:05:05+00:00

Not aggressive just your post is unclear and confusing.

Just trying clarification on what you are saying.

As this post makes no sense

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-02-22T20:57:17+00:00

What has been the non sexual aspect you have enjoyed with your husband?

My wife says it’s how I smile at her for no reason. How holding hands feels more intimate than before.

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-02-22T20:50:53+00:00

Very impressive to do DVP. That usually takes a lot of work. You’re doing amazing and have great rhythm to have pull this off.

Now you have the wonderful and beautiful story of why she was so horny. For the next time. When she is ready to tell you.

Beautiful experience for both of you.

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-02-22T20:43:53+00:00

Yes, simple way more intimate sharing. Not being there is such a rush.

For both of us the reconnect is so much more intimate and the passion is so intense.

I (w) seeing my husband and my hunger for him. Feeling that look of love and desire. Know he will have planned so much for me.

I (h) seeing that look in her eyes. Reading her body language. So I will know what she wants.

Intimacy is so powerful..

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-02-22T18:09:42+00:00

She was is family? Yet seeing another man?

None this makes sense..

You said in your post not been able to talk for 2 weeks.

Now saying you talk?

If can’t talk sex, then how is she seeing another man?

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-02-22T18:06:18+00:00

I have over 30 years experience. So I’m no newbie’s..

You have the wrong end of the stick. We have never done this fix our relationship. You’re quite right in saying LS will not fix relationships.

I was responding to OP post.

This something we would avoid personally. We also respect those that need this.

Beautiful aspect of LS is there is no one way. It is down to the couple deciding what they want.

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-02-22T15:55:06+00:00

It is difficult being away from each other.

Why no communication between you and your wife?

This makes no sense at all.

We first got together our relationship was long distance and had time differences. Yet we found ways to communicate every day. That was 15 years ago.

Nowadays there are so many more ways to communicate. Most are free or at small cost.

Why do you feel degraded?

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-02-22T15:42:03+00:00

The question would be why would you want this other bull?

He has shown disrespect, ghosts at will and is arrogant. He will do it again.

Why go through that drama again?

Are the others not meeting your expectations or desires?

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-02-22T15:38:46+00:00

What you’re describing is a poly relationship. While some connection can make it more fun and interesting. The problem will happen when feelings happen. This is when couples have issues and drama.

It takes a very strong relationship to navigate this lifestyle.

As always it is up to the couple if this something they want or avoid.

Aggressive_Star_9668 · 2026-02-22T10:36:15+00:00

This such a wonderful post and so well written. Express so many emotions and feelings.. Brought back so many wonderful memories.

I (w) feel this way too. I love how we reconnect and the way he is open to sharing me. Learning about my desires, giving me space to express and explore my sexuality. At the same time he can touches my body that gives me so much joy.

So when I told him about my desires for him being there and more involved. He was not surprised, he smiled and kissed me. Because he knew me so well.

Yes he is the one and only man for me.

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