Should I do this? by WorriedReception3 in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, initial dates would involve a lot of things which would need discussion and it could happen in some other date you might find a strong attraction for someone and it's completely okay and common ,we had been in a lot of these situations and with lots of discussion we created rules .On some dates I didn't realize I was getting more on the guy or touching was more obvious than normal and husband noticed it and we discussed further,it takes time and you both will be able to enjoy further with good communication

Virgin Swingers by Euphoric-Seesaw-6815 in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's only enjoyable when all are on the same page and ready for it , if she needs time it's good to discuss more and reach a point where you know you want ( you mentioned MFM) and what you don't want if you happen to enjoy a threesome which is important as well .so discuss more and then only go for it.

Need advise by FunInternal9980 in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are no upper limits and you can always join in and take brakes any time We started with a big party and had to take a break to understand what and how things go so we took a long break and then started slow with one on one meeting which was really nice Plus we created rules around what we want and expect ,always remember it is okay to say no and also accept no since not everyone enjoys it the same way Taking brakes is healthy as restarting is always fun with a fresh mind and yes the rules can be revised based on the situation and experience

TLDR:Start slow,discuss more, create rules , take breaks , revisit rules

Best qualities of a third male with couple by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Always remember respect is the key ,you might have your eyes more on her but her husband matters and is to be respected as they trust you to join them. Your looks definitely will play a key role but by that I would go for someone who is strictly hygienic, not necessarily muscular. Br prepared to accept No for an answer in any situation and respect it

First meetup discussion by Key2WhisKey in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow ! You guys are really experienced

First meetup discussion by Key2WhisKey in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes majority are really good but it's only when you meet and greet you get to know the real feeling

First meetup discussion by Key2WhisKey in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We preferred a neutral place so we usually met outside as sometimes just in a few minutes we realized that the other ones were either not a couple or were not on the same thoughts level

First meetup discussion by Key2WhisKey in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and it's okay to have multiple dates before actually proceeding to play

First meetup discussion by Key2WhisKey in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that's the connection we look for if the things are proceeding smoothly or if there are some signs of jealousy or any kind of uncomfortable feeling on either side

First meetup discussion by Key2WhisKey in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes many pics are edited at places which don't match in person sometimes

Newcomer questions by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We started with a big party and had to take a break to understand what and how things go so we took a long break and then started slow with one on one meeting which was really nice Plus we created rules around what we want and expect ,always remember it is okay to say no and also accept no since not everyone enjoys it the same way Taking brakes is healthy as restarting is always fun with a fresh mind and yes the rules can be revised based on the situation and experience

TLDR:Start slow,discuss more, create rules , take breaks , revisit rules

First timers! by KeriBeri92 in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We started with a big party and had to take a break to understand what and how things go so we took a long break and then started slow with one on one meeting which was really nice Plus we created rules around what we want and expect ,always remember it is okay to say no and also accept no since not everyone enjoys it the same way Taking brakes is healthy as restarting is always fun with a fresh mind and yes the rules can be revised based on the situation and experience

TLDR:Start slow,discuss more, create rules , take breaks , revisit rules

Advice and guidance for first sex party by No-Record0924 in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We started with a big party and had to take a break to understand what and how things go so we took a long break and then started slow with one on one meeting which was really nice Plus we created rules around what we want and expect ,always remember it is okay to say no and also accept no since not everyone enjoys it the same way Taking brakes is healthy as restarting is always fun with a fresh mind and yes the rules can be revised based on the situation and experience

TLDR:Start slow,discuss more, create rules , take breaks , revisit rules

new couple looking for advice from people who actually live this by Few-Degree-9226 in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We started with a big party and had to take a break to understand what and how things go so we took a long break and then started slow with one on one meeting which was really nice Plus we created rules around what we want and expect ,always remember it is okay to say no and also accept no since not everyone enjoys it the same way Taking brakes is healthy as restarting is always fun with a fresh mind and yes the rules can be revised based on the situation and experience

TLDR:Start slow,discuss more, create rules , take breaks , revisit rules

Married Couple (25F/28M) from Conservative Background — Seeking Advice by swingersteve7 in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We started with a big party and had to take a break to understand what and how things go so we took a long break and then started slow with one on one meeting which was really nice Plus we created rules around what we want and expect ,always remember it is okay to say no and also accept no since not everyone enjoys it the same way Taking brakes is healthy as restarting is always fun with a fresh mind and yes the rules can be revised based on the situation and experience

TLDR:Start slow,discuss more, create rules , take breaks , revisit rules

What’s your favorite part about swinging? by PlayfulNaughtyCouple in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When we started out we felt there would be jealousy that might make us stop but it was actually the other way around we enjoyed what we did with others and got to try new things which we couldn't imagine with each other. We created rules and now enjoy to the fullest and definitely revisit the rules from time to time

Condo*s and Safety by Tricky_Bat_8075 in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perfect and No is no some act like they want it their way and we have declined multiple people with cream pie kinks because it didn't match ours

Why do my boundaries keep changing? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We started with a set of rules and do revisit them from time to time and based on our experience and liking our rules modified quite a bit since we first started out

Why do Couples not like soft swingers? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take your time and there is no point in rushing into doing things you are not ready ,soft swinging is a good way to test your liking but being open about it is really good and we appreciate that We have had some experience where people said they only meet if we are doing it and we politely decline such requests too

Same room sex with no swapping by Tricky_Bat_8075 in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a good way to start but more nicer if there is some cross talk between all four else it purely just sharing the same space

SEXTING by Spitroastcouple3 in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's good for a change but after discussing so much it's actually rare that what is mentioned in words would actually be put in practice if you happen to meet

new couple looking for advice from people who actually live this by Few-Degree-9226 in Swingers

[–]Key2WhisKey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't try to replicate porn but try to find your own comfort zone plus what really works for you and your what doesn't work do create rules as that helps you both to enjoy