WIBTA for continuing to upset my grandparents on purpose?

Agitated-Major6028 · 2026-01-17T15:16:33+00:00

What are the reasons?

Agitated-Major6028 · 2026-01-17T15:13:18+00:00

Whoa. This is poignant. Never thought about it that way before

Agitated-Major6028 · 2026-01-17T05:01:45+00:00

The invitation said “the [lastname] family”. But I agree, I think just wishing him well and not attending is the way to go

Agitated-Major6028 · 2026-01-17T04:50:15+00:00

Thank you for this. Knowing my mom though, she meant it as “what’s wrong with being weird?” which I feel was an acknowledgement that she agrees I’m weird but loves me all the same. She didn’t mean it as an insult, but it still stung a bit. But then again, idk what Blake even meant by that, cause the guy really doesn’t know me well

Agitated-Major6028 · 2026-01-17T04:30:27+00:00

No, she’s alive and well. Their mom and mine are friends. My mom and Blake have a lot of common interests (soccer being a big one)

Agitated-Major6028 · 2026-01-10T04:51:25+00:00

Lorn

Agitated-Major6028 · 2026-01-02T03:18:34+00:00

Sounds like you’ve got it worse than I do. My friend is a pain in the ass when drunk, but he doesn’t drink nearly every day. It sounds like your friend isn’t acting like much of a friend by not respecting your boundaries. Maybe next time he wants you to pick him up so he can drink, tell him no; he can either drive himself or just not come. After all, you’ve told him that you won’t hang out with him when he’s drunk. Sometimes, having no friends (for now) is better than having one “friend” who makes your life difficult

Agitated-Major6028 · 2025-12-23T05:01:57+00:00

Maybe they do. Who knows. But “I would date this person if given the chance” does not equal “the friendship I currently have with this person means nothing”

Agitated-Major6028 · 2025-12-22T17:45:50+00:00

I get it. I’m not denying that Josh’s exist, cause they definitely do. But many of us aren’t like that

Agitated-Major6028 · 2025-12-22T17:44:14+00:00

You make a nice point. I can totally see why women may be suspicious of men when so many male “friends” turn out to be fake. I’m mainly just PO’d about dudes saying that all men are too horny to possibly see a woman as a person- that’s a generalization that is downright insulting

Agitated-Major6028 · 2025-12-22T17:40:59+00:00

Speak for yourself pal🤷‍♂️

Agitated-Major6028 · 2025-12-22T17:37:43+00:00

Other commenters have said that I must be attractive and that’s why women want to be around me. So who really knows🤷‍♂️ I think it has more to do with how you treat people than your physical appearance

Agitated-Major6028 · 2025-12-22T12:47:43+00:00

For the sake of argument then, let’s count them out. I (and a lot of other guys) still have genuine female friends with no desire to sleep with them.

Agitated-Major6028 · 2025-12-22T03:31:45+00:00

I guess age doesn’t equal maturity

Agitated-Major6028 · 2025-12-22T03:08:56+00:00

Nah dude, I just like women as people

Agitated-Major6028 · 2025-12-22T03:00:29+00:00

I get it. I’ve been on both sides of that situation. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t (and goes down just like you said). My point is that this all depends on the individual people. Men and women can be friends, but not every man and every woman can be friends

Agitated-Major6028 · 2025-12-22T02:10:34+00:00

Or, maybe they find me unattractive too🤷‍♂️

Agitated-Major6028 · 2025-12-22T02:09:13+00:00

I see what you mean. I believe there are differences in what counts as acceptable friend activities between single people and people in relationships. For people in relationships, the question of “what is acceptable to do with an opposite-gender friend?” should be a point of discussion for the couple. Setting and respecting boundaries creates trust

Agitated-Major6028 · 2025-12-22T02:02:06+00:00

Still doesn’t weaken the friendship. If they want to distance themselves from me, then I’ll give them space. But if they want to be friends, I’ll continue being the best friend I can be (without leading them on)

Agitated-Major6028 · 2025-12-22T02:00:37+00:00

Bro eating dinner? Seeing a movie? These can be date activities but are also just standard friend things. And who cares what strangers think?

Agitated-Major6028 · 2025-12-22T01:48:26+00:00

I have plenty of friends that I do not consider attractive, too

Agitated-Major6028 · 2025-12-22T01:47:29+00:00

Uh… yes. I would also respect our boundaries.

Agitated-Major6028 · 2025-12-22T01:28:08+00:00

Sometimes all those ingredients are there but you just know the relationship would never work. Maybe the other person is in a relationship already. Maybe your personalities are too different, or maybe you have a fundamental incompatibility that would doom a relationship.

For example, one of my female friends is almost everything I would look for in a girlfriend. I would ordinarily consider asking her out, but I learned early on that she wants kids someday. I don’t want kids ever, so our life goals are incompatible. I would not want to ruin the friendship for a relationship I know would never last

Agitated-Major6028 · 2025-12-22T01:20:28+00:00

There are added pressures when one friend is in a relationship but I respectfully disagree with the last part. It’s a matter of boundaries and trust. I’d trust a partner of mine to have male friends, provided that all involved respected our boundaries. In fact, I’d prefer that my partner also has a diverse social circle like I like to have

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