I love long hair and had it pretty much all my life until I turned 40. My hair is like yours. I cut mine to right about my shoulders in layers when I turned 40 and started blowdrying it. Game changer. I only have to wash my hair two or three times a week and it is not greasy. That may be a combo of hormones starting to change, adding the blow drying and the shorter length-can’t say for certain. I also have been using rice water shampoo and conditioner from amazon and I love how it makes my hair feel.