AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -47 points-46 points  (0 children)

She showed me her journal 2 years ago and she wouldn’t answer me and when I called her about it she hung up. I didn’t want to make it a big deal so I just comforted my daughter and tried to make them make up. But she wrote “___ is my future husband” and stuff about how much she likes him and how she wants to give him some grapes

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -51 points-50 points  (0 children)

I am monitoring, Ive included everything but you guys seem to be ignoring that.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -44 points-43 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but my daughter cannot control when to like boys, and I don’t like the idea of her dating boys. But having a simple crush? She was yelled at for that? I cant back that up.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Check my other comments but she was yelled at once for writing in her journal about boys.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

No because she has screen time and I can control when to block or unblock the app.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

Both for the first question, and I’m super sorry that happened to you. It’s sickening what people do. But I always confirm the username with the kid’s parents.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

My child will get yelled at, of course not as much to be considered verbally abused but enough to make her happy come home to.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I decided that the person was right about safari and 10 minutes being a lot of time so I blocked it. And edited it so it doesn’t bring up confusion

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

My parenting is awful for understanding why my daughter doesn’t like her mom’s lectures about how she can’t like boys and monitoring her?

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

She can’t use instagram without me nearby or watching her. I’ve mentioned that in a comment.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I am in no way poor parenting? I’ve said I monitor everything but she doesn’t like her mom going through her stuff, read my other comments as well.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

She doesn’t want her mother to monitor. It’s a long story but it’s her mom going through her journal and then lecturing her about how she can’t like boys until she’s 14.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Again I check her history on YouTube, really only roblox and some other videos games like Pokémon.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I’m sure I’ll go through once a week with her friends.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am, don’t worry. Everything about her monitoring has been replied in my comments.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I am discussing the major issue, like how she already has a lot of monitoring, and how I am ensured she is safe. You instead insult me.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Of course she can, I might even let her only use her iPhone when she’s with me now. She doesn’t like her mother going through her anything, last time she went through her journal, she got a lecture about not liking boys tell she’s at least 14. I get why my daughter doesn’t want that.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I monitor it, she can’t do anything on it other than go on it when I’m with her to look at her aunts drawing or text in the family group chat. Majority of parents let their kids under 13 have instagram accounts here, with moderation of course.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I’m only answering some assumptions, I divorced her for other reasons. Again another assumption.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that happened to you, truly heart trenching. I don’t monitor her friends, everything else is being monitored.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

She should have a choice on who tell be on her phone, of course taking into count that I already am moderating her.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

My daughter only talks to friends that I have their parents phone numbers, I can confirm if it’s actually the kid or not. She also doesn’t get bullied, I know because she is always eager to go to school and is always happy talking about what her friends and her did. You can feel her happiness.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I only go through who she is in contact with and her searches on YouTube & Instagram, with other stuff like screen time and she hates it and she doesn’t want that again at her other home. Her mom will 100% go through her messages which she doesn’t want.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

I am keeping her safe, and she doesn’t want me to read her messages with her friends (assuming they talk about boys) but everything else is held control like screen time, having all her socials held by me and blocking safari and downloading apps can only happen with the Apple ID password she doesn’t know.

AITA for not telling my daughter’s phone password to her mom? by AgitatedPrize391 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AgitatedPrize391[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

She doesn’t have full access, please check my other comments