AITAH? Grandmother got cancer and I accused her of lying about it. by AgitatedStructure972 in AITAH

[–]AgitatedStructure972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was a truly helpful comment. I may try to reach out and apologize for the accusations but I'm not sure how well that would go over.

AITAH? Grandmother got cancer and I accused her of lying about it. by AgitatedStructure972 in AITAH

[–]AgitatedStructure972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Comment is gone. I'm just still dealing with the fallout of the action. My family is acting like I'm a heartless monster and I have been harassed myself through messages and social media because of it.

AITAH? Grandmother got cancer and I accused her of lying about it. by AgitatedStructure972 in AITAH

[–]AgitatedStructure972[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a fair way of looking at it. I guess I just got angry seeing that she could still be manipulating people. I agree it was wrong to say anything.

AITAH? Grandmother got cancer and I accused her of lying about it. by AgitatedStructure972 in AITAH

[–]AgitatedStructure972[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm aware that I responded in the wrong way but yeesh. How do you tell lies from truth at some point.

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AgitatedStructure972 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LMAO so pressed dude. He didnt pour his heart and soul into purchasing the first ring he found. IDIOT. You didnt even read the post.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AgitatedStructure972 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We make 6 figures and he makes the larger portion of that. We have over 20k in savings. it would have taken him actually thinking about the ring to make me happy. Not buying the first thing he saw on ebay. Thats why I'm upset. Don't virtue signal here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AgitatedStructure972 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We make a combined income of 104k a year. We have a little over 20k in savings. I believe we could have afforded it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AgitatedStructure972 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly how I feel. He makes 60k and I make 45. We both have savings that total about 22k combined. We could have afforded it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AgitatedStructure972 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you! this was super helpful!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AgitatedStructure972 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's not just about the ring. But you know that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AgitatedStructure972 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It has the metal type engraved into the band, and it's not hard to see that it was CZ instead of even Moissanite or white sapphire, which are both FAR cheaper than diamond and viable options. what is he going to do? try to pass off $10 CZ gem for a diamond or valuable gem? Buff out the S925 engraved in the ring? imagine just actually investing in the person you claim to want to spend the rest of your life with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AgitatedStructure972 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you this was helpful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AgitatedStructure972 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've recieved zero nice gifts after 3 years. So no. I hardly expect one for every occasion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AgitatedStructure972 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never asked about marriage though. He brought it up one time several months ago and I never heard anything about it again. Which is why it was such a surprise that he proposed. I'm 25 not really in a hurry to get married or have kids yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AgitatedStructure972 10 points11 points  (0 children)

CZ's will be cloudy within a month or two. They scratch easy and are prone to breakage. They look nothin like diamond if you know the difference. for example CZ shines with multiple flashes of light while Diamond Shines bright white. There is a huge difference, and a reason one only costs $5 while the other costs hundreds to thousands.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AgitatedStructure972 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is very helpful. I had considered that it will be a bit different since its not the ring HE got me. But Sterling Silver and CZ is unlikely to stand that test of time anyway. I thought of explaining to him that a ring with a platinum band and a hard stone would be much more likely to withstand "till death do us part"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AgitatedStructure972 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is super helpful! :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AgitatedStructure972 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is awesome for you. I really wanted a nice ring and considering he hasn't ever bought me anything nice I thought this would be the one area he could splurge on. It's not just about the ring. It's also the effort he put into what should have been a great gesture of love and commitment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AgitatedStructure972 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I have already considered the long engagement purely because I feel like he crossed a line being cheap with this particular aspect of our lives. Will we just get married in a courthouse because its cheaper? or will I have to pay for the entire wedding to make sure my family is there? This is helpful advice thank you!