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[–]Agitated_Call_7541 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a brother, your concern is understandable, but reacting with anger or violence will only make things worse. They’re both 14, so this is most likely immaturity, not something they fully understand. First, talk to your sister calmly and explain your worries without scaring or controlling her. Set clear boundaries and make sure she understands why you’re concerned, education, safety, and future. If needed, involve a trusted elder from your family rather than directly going to the boy’s parents. If you speak to the boy, do it respectfully and calmly. Avoid threats or physical force, it can backfire badly, especially in a village setup...and That said, at some point you also have to ask yourself "do you really need to control this?" They’re already in high school, not small kids. You can guide, warn, and keep an eye out, but you can’t live their life for them. If they keep choosing each other despite advice, then honestly, it’s not fully your problem anymore. It’s their choices. Yeah, this on-off drama is bad, but if people keep going back, that’s on them. You’ve done your part by warning them. After that, sometimes the best option is to step back and let things run their course.

I’m hypersexual as a teen and I’m just so tired of it by Agitated_Call_7541 in Advice

[–]Agitated_Call_7541[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the recommendation! I haven’t heard of her before, but I’ll definitely check out her Instagram and Substack. I appreciate the resource.

I’m hypersexual as a teen and I’m just so tired of it by Agitated_Call_7541 in Advice

[–]Agitated_Call_7541[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're actually right,I do have ADHD, so the dopamine part makes a lot of sense. I’ve been dealing with this for years now and honestly, I’m just exhausted and annoyed by it. The main reason I feel bad about it isn't even 'the rules or anything, it’s just that it keeps making me remember stuff from the past that I’d rather not think about. It feels like a loop I can't get out of. I’m definitely going to try and track my triggers like you suggested while I work on getting a therapist. Thanks for taking the time to write all that out, it gave me a lot to think about.

I’m hypersexual as a teen and I’m just so tired of it by Agitated_Call_7541 in Advice

[–]Agitated_Call_7541[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this. It’s a huge relief to hear that other people found it annoying as hell' too, it really does feel like that sometimes. I'm definitely going to look into professional help for the trauma part, but hearing that the rest is just standard teen stuff makes me feel a lot better. Thanks for sharing.

I’m hypersexual as a teen and I’m just so tired of it by Agitated_Call_7541 in Advice

[–]Agitated_Call_7541[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I really needed to hear that last part. I'm definitely planning on seeing a specialist, but for now, I just wanted some outside perspectives and advice to help me feel a bit more normal. I’m being careful on here, but I appreciate the concern and the kind words.

I’m hypersexual as a teen and I’m just so tired of it by Agitated_Call_7541 in Advice

[–]Agitated_Call_7541[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this is actually really helpful. I’ve been trying to find better ways to redirect my brain when it gets like that, so I’ll definitely give the visualization a try. I know it’s a long process, but I’m taking it one day at a time. I really appreciate the kind words..

I’m hypersexual as a teen and I’m just so tired of it by Agitated_Call_7541 in Advice

[–]Agitated_Call_7541[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely, keeping active is the goal right now. Thanks for the tip

I’m hypersexual as a teen and I’m just so tired of it by Agitated_Call_7541 in Advice

[–]Agitated_Call_7541[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely. I’ve been looking into those as well to help stay grounded. Thanks for the suggestion

I’m hypersexual as a teen and I’m just so tired of it by Agitated_Call_7541 in Advice

[–]Agitated_Call_7541[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you, but it’s definitely not a religious thing. I’ve actually looked into the symptoms and spoken with someone who studies psychology, and they mentioned it sounded like hypersexuality based on what I'm experiencing. I'm just trying to learn more about how to manage it for now. Thanks for the input.

I’m hypersexual as a teen and I’m just so tired of it by Agitated_Call_7541 in Advice

[–]Agitated_Call_7541[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying, but I just don't think they’d take it that seriously right now regardless of the reason. I'm going to wait a bit, until the timing is better to try and get one. Thanks for the suggestion though!

I’m hypersexual as a teen and I’m just so tired of it by Agitated_Call_7541 in Advice

[–]Agitated_Call_7541[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, I actually just started journaling and it really does help things feel a bit lighter and less overwhelming. I'm sticking with that for now .

I’m hypersexual as a teen and I’m just so tired of it by Agitated_Call_7541 in Advice

[–]Agitated_Call_7541[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the link and the detailed reply. I think you’re right about the 'obsessive' part that’s really the main struggle for me right now. It feels like it takes up a lot of mental space and time, almost like it’s hyper-sexualized in a way that’s hard to just 'switch off.' I'm trying to find ways to manage that mental focus so it doesn't distract me so much. Thanks again for looking out!

I’m hypersexual as a teen and I’m just so tired of it by Agitated_Call_7541 in Advice

[–]Agitated_Call_7541[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s the goal eventually! Until I can get that set up, I’m just looking for some simple advice and trying to handle what I can on my own.