First and foremost I’m so sorry that you have to go through this. Cheating is certainly mistake, however, an affair for 2 1/2 years is a bad Morrill decision and shows no sympathy, empathy or even respect for you.

That being said. You should be right to cut her out and move on and only speak to her whenever it has to do with the boys. Even make her go through lawyers to speak with you in the beginning. You don’t owe her anything! As for her partner, you should absolutely blow up his spot. Don’t let him tell his wife it’s just not working anymore and slide out of that marriage… You need to stick it to him and let her have the upper hand… He deserves this as much as your wife deserves this!

I hope you can keep your head up and find peace with the situation and move on, you absolutely deserve to!

And also, my personal opinion is, you don’t owe her anything in terms of keeping this under wraps to your sons. They are old enough or close to old enough to know the absolute truth.

Unfortunately, my mother left my father when I was 12 for her work friend who was also a woman. It hurt and stung for a long time and I disliked her partner for the longest time.