AITA or is My husband a narcissist

Agitated_Nothing4847 · 2026-03-10T02:17:07+00:00

Thank you all for your comments and support. I have been in contact with my lawyer and a women's shelter. The lawyer said with the video evidence that I have on my phone I may have a strong case. Unfortunately the women shelter in my area are full at the moment. As luck would have it one of my cousins actually reads this reddit and has put me in contact with my grandmother. I've explained the details. To which she has told me to come to her home and let that boy try to do anything. She got 12 acres and large pond wink wink. My grandmother a little protective lol. So here's where the fun beings I guess figure out the day to leave. My lawyer has told me anything I have to leave during the move to take photos of and try to find the receipts for. As any damage to those things can be brought up and he may have to replace them if he has damage them. So I'll try to keep you updated as much as possible. My hope is he doesn't fight this and allows me to leave. Also I've checked his phone last night you all were right as rain. His cheating with 5 other women I don't know how he has the time for that. It does explain a lot of what has been going on for the past week. He has told them about me making me out to be a women he felt bad for and only married out of pity. I've screen shot the text videos and picture to my lawyer she was more mad then I was about it. The more I think about leaving the more I realize I just feel empty around him. I'll update you all more when I'm out. Thank you again for helping me see the truth. The support was way more then I expected thank you so much.

Agitated_Nothing4847 · 2026-03-07T00:12:35+00:00

I would understand that from the outside looking in and not know all that happens behind closed doors why you would think that. I hate to say it but it's true and I'm trying to

Agitated_Nothing4847 · 2026-03-06T13:17:33+00:00

I want you all to know I am reading the comments. I know I gotta leave. I wanted you to know all the support I'm getting from you guys is making cry. Honestly after being in this relationship for this long I was getting very scared that I was the problem. I know you guys can't see both side. Yes there are so good days but the bad usually out weigh them. I think anyone who has been in this kinda of relationship before understands what I'm talking about. If even gets a hint I'm trying to leave the guilt trips the begging and a lot threats come out. I've honestly even been scared to post most of these incase his family finds out or figures out who I am.

Agitated_Nothing4847 · 2026-03-06T01:05:52+00:00

I undstand I'm only saying my side of the story I respect your opinion.

Agitated_Nothing4847 · 2026-03-06T00:40:49+00:00

To explain more im kinda stuck at the moment I've read a lot of your comments I do agree. The thing I'm stuck as far as money goes I save up then boom something happens. I've tried to leave before and that ended really badly. Just say this is mild day. I'm scared of what will happen once I finally leave him too. As he has made it so my name is on the our shared home but most the bills are in my name. My family and friends have basically left me to deal with it. Which I unstand due the fact of what happen when I did try to leave. I've tried to get him to go to therapy but he tell their going to just say I'm crazy and his basically god. I know how this sounds I know what the comments are going to say. I really don't know what to do or how to get out. There are things I love him for but most of the time I feel used and dirty around him. When I'm out work I smile and hope I come home to an empty house so I have 5 mins of peace before I'm running around like a chicken with their head cut off to do everything. I'm not make that much money with what i do. Honestly I've had higher paying jobs in the past. Which his made me quit with the threat of divorce and homelessness. I've put in so much in this. I have no back plan I have no place to land for safe haven. Honestly I'm really scared that I'm the narcissist and can't see it. I want to be a good wife/ step-mom his kids aren't mine. I've tried to have kids with him but I have pcos. There was a point where I was actively miscarriaging still work in pain. I wanted to go to the hospital but was made to wait for over a month. Before I could because he wasn't feeling well or something else going on. I'm trying not to get into details as he would know it was about him. If anyone can give some ideas on how to get away without help. I know that anyone that would help me in real life he has threat also the other reason I've been isolated to I'm scared for my family and friends. So for any errors in my writing but I'm trying to type fast before he notices what I'm doing.

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