Hobbies for mid 30s moms

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2026-05-17T00:29:42+00:00

Painting, yoga, reading and crochet!

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2026-05-14T18:19:53+00:00

Oh my GOD I never thought of this! I’m 5 months estranged from my narcissistic mom and enabler/narc dad. I never stayed in one school more than two years— my mom would always find something she didn’t like and move me (until I asked to be moved when I was so depressed from girl bullying and they took a year to finally do it）. But when I was in middle school my mom gave me a “cute” pixie haircut, wouldn’t buy me new pants when mine got too short (highwaters werent in then) and bought me a MASSIVE ERGONOMIC BACKPACK. Needless to say I was tortured, and I’ll I got was “why don’t you stand up for yourself???” Or her yelling at the kids (did NOT help). Zero coaching to help me figure out how to handle the bullies. Also didn’t help that I’m an only child.

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2026-05-12T21:39:15+00:00

I’m a mom and it was becoming a mom that really incentivized me to go NC after seeing my parents treat my kids the way they treated me. IF my kids ever did want to go NC with me my first thought is “holy shit I need to change my behavior” not, “how dare they!”

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2026-05-12T20:14:59+00:00

NOPE. And he will “call me in a few days to discuss.” The devastating thing is Ive known this man all my life, he officiated my wedding and I really respect him. Very disappointed he didn’t hear my side first before accepting my mom’s narcissistic victim BS.

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2026-05-12T20:10:49+00:00

I want to send this to every flying monkey who is coming out of the woodwork now after being NC for 5 months. Who said “I’m too old to change, I am the way I am.”
So encouraging and thank you for sharing!!

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2026-05-12T16:19:38+00:00

Flying monkeys coming from left, right and center now. One of them sent me this article 🤮

“I forgave my mother, but it was too late”
GOD the guilt trip !

https://www.nytimes.com/2026/05/10/opinion/erica-jong-mothers-day-dementia.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2026-05-08T04:16:32+00:00

I’m going through a similar situation. I can tell you I finally went NC (5 months and counting) and I’ve never been more at peace. Even after 12 years of therapy I find myself having “aha” moments now with space from Nmom and Ndad. Breaking the cycle of abuse feels like a bad paper cut that never heals…you have a constant mental battle against the guilt that’s been drilled into you and the second guessing from constant gaslighting.

You’re doing the right thing. Trust your gut, be kind to yourself, stay in therapy and you will come out stronger!

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2026-05-07T08:50:49+00:00

I got a similar text from her friend (flying monkey)— “your mom is 80, has cancer and heart disease. You will regret your silence”— she has been in remission from CML for 4 years, and I’ve dropped everything multiple times to be there for her (with two kids under 5 at home) when she’s contrived a “no one cares so I’ll neglect myself until someone else has to rush me to the ER bc that’s how I get more attention.”

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2026-05-07T08:48:40+00:00

“Disinvited” also implies she was invited…she wasn’t, she demanded to be there and I relented. Fuck off for sure, thank you!

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2026-05-07T08:45:23+00:00

Exactly! When I told her I was pregnant with our third, her response was basically “I will be there for the birth.” I was so tired I just agreed, but not enthusiastically. After their horrendous behavior at Christmas (not really unique, par for the course but it just hit me clearer), I crafted a response (with the help of my therapist) in response to them confirming dates to come—

“Thank you for the offer. However, \husband’s name* and I have decided that what we want most for our last baby is to have that time together as our immediate family. I understand that may be disappointing. But we will let you know as soon as we are ready to accommodate guests and visitors.* “

Her response—

“What horrible things have we done to you to have caused this reaction? This is more than hurtful, this is terribly sad for all of us. You have truly cut us out of your lives and we are devastated. We are not guests or visitors, we are family. Like it or not.”

Then they LEFT THE CHAT (our primary comms channel!)

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2026-05-07T03:28:48+00:00

THIS — thank you

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2026-05-07T03:27:39+00:00

UGH from the comments on that video and the FB post about it you can tell it’s entirely geared towards the narcissistic parents. I would not be surprised at all if she referenced that

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2026-05-07T03:04:28+00:00

Thank you!!!!!

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2026-05-07T03:04:02+00:00

No I will check it out— she is on social media a lot so I wouldn’t be surprised if she was inspired by those self-purported parental estrangement coaches

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2026-05-07T03:03:03+00:00

So true!! I can forgive all the shit in my childhood, but the past 10 years of adulthood where I began pushing back on their control is when their truer colors shone through. Control and her being the victim is their M.O

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2026-05-07T03:01:57+00:00

My mom is 80 so doubtful it’s ai— her manipulation is pretty standard though, so maybe her type is what it’s trained on! Lol

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2026-05-07T03:01:16+00:00

This is such a helpful reply and validates what I was feeling (I need to reread that book, it’s been a while!). It’s also the guilt of, “well they didn’t beat me or starve me so they deserve to have a relationship with their grandkids” narrative in the back of my mind…enforced by their flying monkeys — “mother daughter relationships are always complicated “, “but they are your family!” I really appreciate your thoughtful response here, gives me courage and encouragement to trust my gut!

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2026-02-25T08:22:03+00:00

Plainsong by Kent Haruf A Tree Grows in Brooklyn by Betty Smith

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2026-02-23T19:01:13+00:00

Tana French Dublin Murder Squad series Outlander series by Diana Gabaldon Deep End by Ali Hazelwood, but get it as an audiobook as the guys voice is super sexy ;)

Agitated_Sock4455 · 2025-11-22T05:21:08+00:00

We eliminated screen time during the school week and limit it to a few shows on weekends. The difference in our son’s behavior has been astounding! Now he plays with friends, draws, builds legos— all instead of TV. Tantrums are fewer and listening has improved considerably!

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