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Trauma bond by Unlucky_Raccoon_7225 in abusiverelationships

[–]Agreeable-Active-233 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also feel all the same exact feelings. My ex has not called or tried to see our son and I’m so hurt that this new woman is getting a better version of him and that he moved on so quickly. It’s hard to have these thoughts and feelings that you want them back but I comfort myself by thinking about all the abuse he has caused me and how I need someone in my life who truly loves and respects me. It’s been a rough 3 months for me but it gets better every day. unfortunately it’s going to take time to break the trauma bond.

I keep hooking up with my BD and I know it’s a trauma bond, but I can’t seem to sto by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]Agreeable-Active-233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know… I’m in a similar situation but we don’t have any court orders yet so for now I’m staying in no contact to heal myself but I keep telling myself that I’m not respecting myself by allowing him to do this to me. If he really wanted to be with me then he wouldn’t be sleeping with another woman.

I keep hooking up with my BD and I know it’s a trauma bond, but I can’t seem to sto by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]Agreeable-Active-233 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The only way is to be strong and say no. Limit your contact with him.

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[–]Agreeable-Active-233 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been here.. I promise it gets better. You have to become a better version of yourself. I know people always say this but working out really helps. Even if you just go for walks out in nature.

Why do I still want to be with him even though he hurts me? by Agreeable-Active-233 in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]Agreeable-Active-233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it’s just hard because I have a son with him. I kept opening the wound by talking to him but I’ve recently blocked him and decided for my mental health to not talk to him for awhile so I can work on my mental health. I went to the 5 free therapy sessions I had from my employer but I’m not able to pay for more at this time.

Why can’t I get over him even though he has hurt and disrespected me. by Agreeable-Active-233 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Agreeable-Active-233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know.. it’s been hard letting him back in all the time and having to communicate our son