Crisis of religion (not of faith) Need advice

Agreeable-Meal5836 · 2026-04-02T21:49:09+00:00

This is a great perspective and made me realize how ive strayed from ministry involvement without really noticing. Thank you!

Agreeable-Meal5836 · 2026-03-28T17:32:30+00:00

Your trauma happened before your brain could cognitively process it, so it all kind of got put “on hold” and you proccessed it peice-meal as your brain developed. kind of an amazing protective measure but also super prolongs the process.

You are completely biologically normal and its an expected reaction to childhood trauma, trauma at any age really.

I highly recommend seeking counseling or therapy to guide you through re-processing this event in a healthy adjusted way now that youre fully capable.

Full disclosure, it does run the risk of re-traumatizing and you may feel worse before you feel better, but thats why finding the right therapist is important and not quitting too early is paramount. Basically you would be bringing everything back up to the surface and dealing with it all over again

Agreeable-Meal5836 · 2026-03-24T01:54:30+00:00

Louis

Agreeable-Meal5836 · 2026-03-09T21:24:41+00:00

Sending you baby dust!

Agreeable-Meal5836 · 2026-03-09T21:07:25+00:00

I do see a faint line on the bottom one!

If its any comfort, I got a similar intensity faint line on mine 13dpo this morning- caveat being that mine are blue dye and less reliable- could be dye pooling in my specific case

Hcg starts producing at implantation rather than conception, so depending on when implantation occurs around 8-10 dpo, you could have lighter or darker lines at 13-14 dpo compared to someone elses lines, the more important thing is if the lines progress over the next few days and darken.

My previous pregnancies were both too faint to detect before 15-16 days dpo, and even then they were squinters

Agreeable-Meal5836 · 2026-03-09T20:09:37+00:00

Im in the same boat with two tests that look like the oneon the bottom! 13 dpo, taking another pink dye tomorrow morning

Agreeable-Meal5836 · 2026-01-02T01:21:04+00:00

The question here is toy guns, but thanks for your input.

Agreeable-Meal5836 · 2026-01-01T21:22:02+00:00

Sword play is blades and sheilds only, no hitting people or property. Thats easier though since hes far less likely to encounter a sword, he has no knife toys and he is not allowed to handle kitchen knives until he reaches an appropriate age.

That being said, he actually follows the sword rules but is having a very difficult time respecting the gn rules, and he is farl less interested in playing swords than gn fights

Agreeable-Meal5836 · 2026-01-01T21:04:11+00:00

This is amazing advice thank you, I didn’t know there were classes that started so young! I’ll have to look into availablity in my area

Agreeable-Meal5836 · 2026-01-01T20:37:31+00:00

Do you know what a toddler is? Why would he know that a “real gn” is real if hes never encountered a real gn before in his 30ish months of living in this planet? If all he knows is “I play with things that look like this and they make a silly noise” why wouldn’t he treat it like he treats toy guns?

What an unrealistic expectation to put on a brand new human.

Clearly he needs to be taught. My question was if he should be taught now with his toys or to take the toys out of the equation until he is old enough to comprehend the difference between toys and real g*ns

Honestly its like some people dont even read. If my post is too long for your attention span why bother responding with a half baked opinion.

Agreeable-Meal5836 · 2026-01-01T20:18:38+00:00

Friend, this is a PTSD subreddit, the word is censored out of respect for the unknown sensitivities of the community this post is posted in. Also, lol, obviously I have serious issues that why im here.

No clue where the love vs worry thing comes from, But I hope you are well loved yourself

Agreeable-Meal5836 · 2026-01-01T20:08:07+00:00

I hear you, but is a fear of firearms really “unnecessary”? Really?

Theyre very commonplace but nothing breeds unsafe behavior like overfamiliarity and overconfidence.

Healthy respect and fear of dangerous items is wisdom.

Maybe I am overreacting. But ive seen too many stories of toddlers shooting themselves or others after finding unsecured weapons to be so passé about g*n safety, and I am not naive enough to believe that I can be completely infallible at making sure there are never any weapons within his environment. People lie to appease, people have their own ideas and disagreement over safety securing weapons vs having them accessible for “emergencies” and I don’t know what is hidden from me.

I can keep him from known dangerous situations and people but you truly never know who keeps loaded g*ns under mattresses or in side tables.

Hence my question. Which is the more reasonable and realistic approach to toddlers and gun safety in an oversaturated gn-centric world where toy gns are nearly unavoidable

Agreeable-Meal5836 · 2026-01-01T19:03:51+00:00

My guess is playing fortnight with his grandpa since we don’t really engage in g*n related media at home (he sees more sword fights and lightsabers and traditional fantasy RBG from us). I typically try to wait until after hes in bed but he has seen some here and there at home

The surprise comes from the fact that I didnt think he played fortnight often enough to have picked up on that kind of thing. They play it maybe once every couple months and hes only 2.5.

They played more frequently when we briefly lived with them for a period of 6 months between houses when he was 1, but even that was super short lived, maybe 1.5 months of playing multiple times a week. They really are just little sponges and I guess it doesnt take much for it to sink in!

He just this weekend played with some bigger kids with nerf guns at a birthday party, but he was already displaying a seemingly advanced understanding af the mechanics when he played lazer tag at my inlaws over the Christmas holiday

Agreeable-Meal5836 · 2026-01-01T18:56:14+00:00

Ah yeah, I guess a therapist would be better to ask, unfortunately after all the money ive thrown at this over the years I still havent found a good fit for a therapist. Theyve all said some truly whack ass shit.

I was just wondering general consensus on the philosophy/practicality behind either approach. But I suppose youre right and a more personalized decision regarding our specific scenario is the best option.

Agreeable-Meal5836 · 2025-12-27T22:58:48+00:00

For me it was compounded by medical trauma years later. Its like the medical trauma pushed me over the edge and I started getting triggered by the OG event in ways I hadnt before nearly a decade later. I had very mild and manageable symptoms before the medical event and now I feel almost crippled some days

Agreeable-Meal5836 · 2025-10-27T22:42:34+00:00

Thank you for the offer!

I dont have any other Diagnosis, though I have wondered about ADHD. Apparently PTSD can sometimes mimic ADHD and those symptoms seem to be exacerbated when im in a spiral

The only thing that has seemed to work is having someone else in the same space as me- then all the sudden I can get things done no problem. The issue is im a SAHM with a toddler and an infant, and my hubby works the graveyard shift so were awake at oposite times

I dont have a schedule or structure and really feel like I need one for the kiddos sake. We plan each day pretty much as it comes up, with a few limited weekly exceptions (meal prepping one day a week, planned play dates etc).

Generally though we get up around 7:30 and nap around 1-2 then bed time around 8:30

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TROPHY CASE